Do people look up to their older siblings?

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This can be either your own siblings or what you've seen with your own DC.

I've encouraged my eldest to be a role model to his younger siblings. (Doing well at school/uni, succeeding in his career). I want my other DC to follow in my eldest's footsteps.

I do look up to my sister, because she's a good person with a lot of integrity and compassion, and seriously handy in a crisis.

But during school she was very bright, and a lot of pressure was put on me to "be more like Dsis" and for her to be a gold standard academic high achiever.

We've spoken about it a lot as adults, and how she could have been a lot happier in creative jobs (shes very talented) rather than the STEM she was pushed into. And I was massively resentful of being the crap sister as a kid. There's more to life than grammar school and FinTech.

I'm an eldest but my siblings very much look down on me because I'm 5' 5" and a half and DBro and DSis are 6' 6" and 5' 11" respectively.

I did try sitting a chair between them in photos to reflect my status and dignity but it just encouraged the bunny ears gestures 😂

Of course. The eldest child is always a shining light that the younger siblings should emulate in every way.

[Eldest of 3 here.]

No

I should say that my kids all get along with each other. Yes they might have silly squabbles but we're all one family who care for each other.

I don't go and shout "oh be like DS. Be like DS". I meant if people naturally look up to older siblings. I assumed people naturally do (we are a functioning family). So have encouraged all to work hard. I want DS to succeed in his own right for himself. And I hoped seeing the fruits of DS's success, the younger ones would be inspired to also work hard. I don't push a certain subject at school or choice of career. All I ask is that they work hard.

I don't. My siblings (older and younger) are all very different people. They all have good qualities, but don't forget that I've lived with them - I'm all too aware of their bad qualities too. Nobody is perfect, and that includes me.

My DC are very different. I've taught them to respect each other, including these differences, and that is what they do. They champion each other but don't try to emulate each other.

I really do not think my two younger bros look up to me!!! They both have good jobs and families. I just get by sort of. They are more sensible too!

In my family birth order doesn't feel that relevant. We all like and respect each other, some have made different life choices, some more career focused than others, we all support each other. From teenage years we tended to see each other as friends and equals.

I dont think siblings look up to each other, perhaps they do if there's a large age gap and the relationship is less sibling like, and more parent/child like.

But in general siblings see each other as equals, and there can be a competitive element to their relationship, but this competition is generally over things like parental attention and approval. Siblings like to be treated and valued as individuals, and not compared to each other, and can smell favouritism out like a bloodhound.