Signs of middle age

[Devastated999]

After many years of feeling that I was an imposter as an adult, I have suddenly jumped to feeling decidedly middle aged (and very happy being so).

The reason being, my sudden overwhelming obsession with gardening. I am spending all my free time either in the garden, or researching plants, watching gardening programmes and spending all my spare money on plants (even though I have run out of space for them).

I know that gardening is for anyone of any age, but for me it reminds me of my garden obsessed parents, therefore a middle-age hobby (for me).

What made you feel/accept the you were middle-aged?

I was horrified that my friend was going out with a woman ‘in her 50s’!!!!
then I remembered me and said friend are 49…

My growing collection of cardigans, a fondness for comfy footwear and an overwheming desire for a nice cup of tea and a sit down.

Everything hurts. And instead of trying to fix the hurty things, I'm working out how to adapt my life to simply accommodate the hurty things.

Wanting a cup of tea as soon as I get to the shopping centre, before we've done any shopping.

When the next generation are adults (but you still refer to other middle aged people as "the grown ups")

Good enough weather to get the washing on the line makes me very happy. I now share my mother's delight in "a good drying day".

I'd rather not go on holiday than take a flight at an ungodly hour.

I prefer matinées at the theatre as it's so much nicer getting home at a decent time.

Makeup never looks right, I used to put it on so quickly and it always looked fine but now I spend 10x longer and think it's OK in the little mirror I'm using but when I look at my whole face the make up looks rubbish.

Also, going out in the evening fills me with horror, if I'm going to meet a friend for food I prefer to do lunch instead of dinner.

Thinking ahead to retirement!
Wanting to go to bed early
gardening too!

Not having any inkling at all to try and fit in with 20 and 30 year olds at work- if they’re talking about eg younger reality tv shows for example. Not minding when I do talk to them about stuff and they say their mum/ granny did that too! No longer finding doctors or teachers too young, as in I’m fine with it whereas it was a shock before!

Loving weeding but feeling like I’ve run a marathon afterwards. Bird watching and wanting binoculars.

Wildywondrous

Are you using a primer under your make up? It changed my life!

Loving M&S.
Thinking to myself, ‘hmmm, I’d quite like it if someone bought me John Lewis vouchers for my birthday’.
Spending an afternoon in B&Q ‘pottering’.
Getting into flower arranging.
See above but for cake decorating.
Getting excited over things that make my life/space/home a little more organised.
Wondering if there’s a local WI…

Big pants that keep your tummy tucked up and warm

Enjoying quiet weekends pottering around the house and garden.
An Intense interest in politics and history. Loving my own company.

Realising that it doesn’t matter if I don’t do all the stupid shit I thought I had to do.

For example, buying Easter eggs for family members who wouldn’t actually know who I was if they passed me in the street, or sending Christmas cards, or ironing t-shirts. Or, more drastically, maintaining contact with family members who don’t treat me well.

Nobody tells you off if you stop. It’s marvellous. What a revelation!

Staying fit and flexible because I want to have good mobility and bone health in later life, rather than to look good in a bikini.

Wearing a bikini on holiday without giving a damn what I look like.

@stayathomer I use primer on my forehead and between the eyebrow lines- definitely kind of blurs them

As a natural light blonde 50 year old I happily sat at my hairdressers said I’m so lucky I don’t have grey yet.. until she split my crown area and said “Arhh you do have baby grey coming through” ffs theres me being all smug.

The glasses happened, the aches and weigh gain is on course. And im not even sure i can be arsed to battle with it all.

Having sex with my glasses on 🤓.

haha! I don’t know, you are still having sex! I could happily live with my DH for the rest of my life without it. My libido has vanished into thin air.

I am feeling joyous at this moment, sitting in the garden with the breeze on my face, a cuppa in my hands, and contemplating what next to add to the garden, another solar fountain, a rain chain, more plants?

I wouldn’t swap this for my youth.

Quite the opposite here so far. 40s now and the urge has got greater as I’ve got older. But with my glasses on of course, it’s good to see who you are with 😀.

Middle age?? I'm 46 running around after my 3&7 yr old and training for my next half marathon and taking on a huge career direction change after 26yrs doing the same one.....life's never been so lively ...unless it's a midlife crisis 🤷🏼‍♀️

That’s great! But you sound like you don’t think you’re middle aged?? Surely you must be at 46!

There was once a wonderful thread (in style and beauty I believe) about so called old lady things like lavender salts etc and how fabulous they are.

I was born middle aged, not going to lie.

Why do Young'ens not wear a coat out? I now look at 20 odd year olds on a night out and want to mother them rather than admire their outfits.

Much prefer a nice cuppa tea (and have opinions on prefered blends) and a blanket than a night out.

I was in the car with DH and DC’s and a song came on the radio that I liked (Sabrina Carpenter or someone can’t remember) and I realised I was tapping my knees in them to the beat. Like a really uncool Middle aged person would do, then I realised I was a really uncool middle aged person. I’m ok with it.