My sister is getting married in October, and so has just booked her hen do, for September. It’s me, her, our other sister and a bunch of her friends - I think 10 in total that said we could spend a maximum of £600/£700 on a weekend abroad (including spending money).
Sister wanted Ibiza or Mykonos (the 2 priciest in Europe!!) and wouldn’t consider other options. She found an all inclusive option there that came in at £695 each for 4 days. No spending money needed she said as we can stay in the hotel and just go how walks etc if we want.
she’s since said there’s 2 events she wants to do there, approx 200 euros per person per one, plus themed outfits, plus one other restaurant she wants to try so more money. The whole trip is looking to be around double of everyone’s initial agreed spend.
Me and my other sister are honestly getting fed up with the extra spending. Plus it means the all inclusive for 3 days was wasted money as if we are at these events we won’t even be at the hotel to eat for 3 of the 4 days.
I also don’t want to buy new outfits to match the themes, I’ve just gone back to work part time after maternity and so money isn’t free flowing.
Shes now also saying she wants a local hen do as lots of friends/our cousins etc can’t afford to go abroad. The event she’s suggested with travel is yet about £150 per person (and another themed outfit 🙄)
Should we say something to her or are we being mean? Is this the norm for hen dos? She’s the first of our group/family to get married so I’ve got no idea. We spoke to our Mum and she refused to give an opinion either way.