Would you let 13 year old dd wear

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A t shirt that said ‘I love shoes, booze and boys with tattoos’ ?

She bought it on Vinted and I’ve said it has to be a pyjama top. She thinks I’m being mean and that it’s just a joke.

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No way!

I'd ask her to explain in detail where and when she has experienced these things and what specifically she liked about each of them.

If the answer's unconvincing, I'd tell her she can't wear it out as she'll get clobbered by the National Trading Standards Board for false advertising.

I would have a conversation with her about feminism and the values she wants to project to the outside world. No doubt this would prompt massive eye rolling, but I do think it's something I'd want to discuss. I only have boys though. I would have the same conversation if they wanted to wear certain slogans (appreciate they would be unlikely ro have the same connotations, but for example I remember seeing a 'pussy hunter' one which i wouldn't be happy with!).

She'll definitely cringe in 5 years if she sees photos in it! I think I might direct her to more empowering/political/cute slogans and offer to buy her one as an alternative?

No. My dc bought a tshirt with the word whore on it and we made them return it. Their friend had also purchased one and they told their mother how I made my dc return it and the mother agreed and they also returned theirs. Us mothers must stick together!