Do you think your parents feel/felt the same way about you as you do about your children?

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I just had this moment of realisation recently that my parents feel the same about me as I do about my children. We maybe should it differently but it’s there.

I was a loved and wanted child but my mum nearly died having me and I think that affected how she felt about me but I never felt unloved.
We waited a long time for DS to arrive and he's never been in doubt about how much he is loved. He also had a wonderful relationship with my parents when they were alive, especially with my dad.

I am 💯 hand on heart sure that my mother never once felt about me, the way I feel about my children. She has resented me from day 1 as far as I can tell and just becomes more and more open about it as she gets older.

Absolutely, in terms of how much they loved me. Not so similar in parenting styles or perspectives, but in how fiercely we were loved, it’s the same.

They were younger parents with little life experience. The differences in our temperaments and interests rather wrong-footed them, and we didn’t always know how to connect. But I never doubted that I was very loved.

Absolutely not.

I love my children to pieces, I absolutely adore them and I do everything to make sure they’re happy and they feel loved.

That’s very far from how my mum treated me. She is not a maternal person at all and cannot show affection in any way. My childhood was very awkward in that respect I was quite terrified of her too actually.

I don’t want my children to have the same kind of childhood that I had.

There’s no way my mother felt about me how I feel about my own children.

No my DM didn't love me at all let alone the way I love my two. When my DS went on holiday with my DF when he was 6 I was in physical pain I missed him so much.

My DF absolutely loved me and he adored my DS (my DSD wasn't mine when he was alive).

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I agree with this. Today's children (who their parents seem to think are getting the definitively perfect upbringing) will be on here moaning about their parents in years to come. And parents of boys will be aghast to be cast in the role of Mil from hell because they are absolutely not interfering they are just concerned 😂

Updated to include the quote I was agreeing with!

I had fab parents whose life was all about the children. Our lives were filled with love and they were great in giving us their time. I’d kill to be as calm and together as they were.

No, I’m sure my parents loved me, as they understood parental love, but they were dragged up themselves, and were nowhere near in an emotional or financial state to have children. My mother was primarily a housemaid to a large extended family of men with whom we lived, and babies were seen by her as something she needed to keep out of the way so she could concentrate on cooking, laundry etc.

I had a wonderful childhood with wonderful parents so I feel like we must feel the same. It’s a lovely thought

I think my dad did but I always felt like I was a useful idiot to my mum. The way she spoke to me, putting me down, never encouraging me. Things like opening my post. I'd never treat my children like that. I can't believe she even liked me much.
My children are the best thing to ever happen to me, I've always loved them unconditionally, stood up for them and encouraged them.