How to take a shower if 1 year old isn’t napping

[Mamaloz]

Hi all I’m struggling to take a shower these days, always used to take one during my sons nap but since he turned 14 months he doesn’t want his nap in the morning now, have tried many times putting him in his cot but he just screams until I get him out again, I took a shower yesterday with him in his cot and he screamed the entire time and I felt super guilty 😢 especially se ing he had real tears as well! Any suggestions as to what I could do? There is no one here during the day to sit with him

Towel on the bathroom floor with some toys, and he just sits in the room with you?

This is one of those times when it's really ok to let him cry for a few minutes. Put him in the cot, have a shower, then spend the rest of the day being attentive and responsive and none of your time feeling guilty.

Put him on the floor in the bathroom with a snack and some cartoons to watch, while you shower. He will be happy.

Before he wakes up in the morning? While he naps in the afternoon?

I used to take a shower in the evening once DH was home or once DC was in bed at that stage.

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Showering is basic hygiene. Put airpods in (unless washing your hair of course), make sure kid is in a cot or playpen or other safe place and go and shower.

Either plays on the bathroom floor while shower, or if you can't make that safe, pop him in the high chair with some toys strapped to it. Either in the bathroom or just in the doorway.
Talk to him, or sing songs etc
Or shower/bath together.

This one, or a little bowl of water and some cups so he can start tipping and pouring…? Little bit of mess to clear up, but free time…!

For the sake of a few minutes I'd let him cry.
He will learn that you have not abandoned him.
I know people will disagree but I had this issue with ds2. He nearly broke me as he cried everytime I left the room even to make a brew. In the end I had to power through the cries.

Evening instead? And a one minute quick one in the morning.

We put child lock on bathroom drawers and. As an extra precaution put razors drugs in a Tupperware box so the bathroom is then a safe space

plonk baby on bath mat with toys , lock door so they can’t wander off , or put baby end on bath while you shower they get a wash too

2 min shower

I went with a screen to solve this problem - Cbeebies on the tablet propped up on the other side of the room, away from his cot.

It's ok for him to cry, he's learning you won't always be there but you will always come back.

I’d put toys in the cot and just get on with it.

or I would shower in the evenings when the baby has gone to bed.

Switch up your day, shower in the evening after kids bedtime instead of the morning.

So much easier! Hello long leisurely shower and wind down before bed 👌

Bring him in and let him play on the floor or shower before your partner goes to work in the morning?

Some mornings if it’s really difficult I just take him in with me and he plays on the floor of the shower while I have a wash!

Do you have a partner who can mind the baby while you shower morning or evening?

Agree with this OP.
Yes you are a person too.

DT’s went in their cots or playpen when I had a shower/hair wash. If they cried, they cried - they were safe and it was only for 10 minutes.

This OP! My partner and I both did this. It was the only way our little one would let us shower if we were solo. I get it isn’t ideal but a shower is 5-10 mins tops, presuming you make the area safe, it’ll be fine.

I used to put mind in the car seat carrier in the bathroom with me then the baby bouncer.

My little one won’t nap in a cot and never would. When he was younger did bouncy chair and toys and then buggy in bathroom as ours is downstairs. Now I pop him in buggy with tv on and have my shower. I’m sure some people would judge that but I don’t think any harm for 10 minutes and better than him being distressed

Agree that the two options are either let him cry or let him play in the bathroom.

So I tried the bathroom floor method just now, seemed to work! Apart from the fact he was touching the toilet the whole time and banging the seat like a drum 🤣🤦🏼‍♀️ nvm kept him amused and the toilet gets cleaned more than me atm anyway 🤣 jk thanks for all of your great suggestions 🙏🏼

I liked to bath/ shower in peace so used to have a long bath once my husband got home from work. If he was away I'll shower at night when they were in bed.