Is it normal to hate having neighbour's as much as I do

[Fourpawsblack]

I think I’ve tipped into obsession a little bit over it and I don’t know how to help myself.

My NDN (semi) are annoying and loud. They talk loudly, slam doors, laugh loudly. Just normal family noises but loud. On top of this they have a horrible dog that barks loudly at intervals during the day. It also barks every time I go outside. I’ve spoken to them about the dog and they have made efforts but I hate the sight of the dog now because it’s so badly trained and annoying.

Its got me a nervous wreck. If I see they are out I am stressed because the dog might be barking. I’m also stressed incase they can hear me and are thinking the same. I’m stressed every time I hear them, no matter how quiet. I absolutely hate it!

So for those of us without the luxury of being able to afford a detached house (not an option for me!) do you also hate hearing noises in your home? I feel like it should be a safe place for just me and I hate hearing someone else in it? It’s not private and it makes me teeth itch to hear them. What can I do to make it less consuming and just help
myself get over it- they aren’t going anywhere so I need to learn to live with it.

Can’t afford soundproofing either. These are large 1930s semis and it would cost thousands I just don’t have.

As far as barking dogs go I seem to remember a whistle that only dogs can hear and it shuts them up!

I'm so sorry for you. There are human-being noises like talking, laughing, generally moving around, children playing, that I find absolutely bearable, I don't mind at all. But the following are things I wish people wouldn't do around others, because they are antisocial:

Dogs in flats and heavily-inhabited areas. Just don't. They howl sometimes when you're out. Barking is absolutely designed to get attention and it sets everyone's adrenaline pumping. It's an awful thing to inflict on people.

Playing music/radio in back gardens. Everyone can hear it and people who don't care about inflicting it on others are loathed. That just breaks my brain. It's horrendously selfish.

Anything that takes place under other people's windows. They can hear everything. Are you talking on the phone under your neighbour's window? Then you are a shit. They can't avoid hearing you and they probably hate you.

Nobody is silent, it's just that we all have to live together, and if people live as though nobody but them exists, that is fucking hard on everyone else.

@TokyoKyotoGood post

Some people really are obnoxiously loud. Most often it won't even have occurred to such people that they might be bothering anyone else.

I live in a terrace and I make the effort to be quiet and considerate - there are things I would like to do that I don't do because I don't want to bother the neighbours. I wish others would show the same consideration! I wish it was considered acceptable in our culture to go and tell people they are too loud but it isn't really, unless it's really really bad. I think a lot of people just move instead, but they shouldn't have to.

I would love this but I have my own (silent!) dog and don’t want to hurt his ears.

Plus theirs is evil, jump over the fence and maul you if it could kind of evil.

I am very sensitive to noise and currently live in a detached house, however I can tell you it doesn't solve everything. Yes we can't hear other people through the walls so that's good but even in a detached I am still triggered by noise from the neighbours. Loud music in the garden and from their car, dog barking, chickens squawking, slamming car doors, children screaming, jet wash, hot tub pump, cackling laughter, swearing, cars leaving for work in the early hours. All pretty normal noise but it has driven me insane and they have ruined my whole experience of living here. We've just accepted an offer on our house and we are buying another detached house but in the middle of nowhere. I can't bloody wait!!

Thankfully our noisy lot at the bottom of the garden are out today so it’s been lovely to fling open all the doors and windows and enjoy the peace. As soon as they’re home the 2 kids will be back in their garden shouting their heads off kicking their football into the fence and their parents doing absolutely nothing about it. They are the most inconsiderate people.

Yeah ive had the same issue for 6 years since i moved in. Hated every minute of living here. Cant even sleep in my bedroom i sleep in the spare room. Can't relax in living room all i can hear is next door talking and laughing and slamming doors. I despise my home and im selling up i cant cope with it anymore.