Has anybody organised a quinceañera/ sweet 16 for your DD?

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My DD decided she wants one, but I never had one (nor my DM for that matter). Do other kids get them? I don't know if it would be OTT for many.

Sorry a what???? 😆

Never heard of them in the UK.

Unless you have Latin American roots where it is a longstanding custom, I think it would be ridiculous.

Are they part of your heritage? If not, would you hold a batmizvah for her?

No, it's not a thing.

Yes we do! But obviously we don't live in an area with a LatAm community. My family thought they were a bit crass which is why I didn't have one (nor my DM).

quinceañera is a 15th birthday party so you must mean a sweet 16. They're both just birthday parties called those things in America and made popular by American TV programmes.

No. Who does that?

I think it’d be weird for someone with no Latin American heritage to celebrate it (Unless you do then go ahead) and also it’s supposed to be for their 15th birthday not 16th.

A quinceanera is for girls turning 15

Also, it's for the 15th birthday.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quincea%C3%B1era

You beat me to it.

We are Jewtinas! She did all of her Hebrew lessons but decided against it. Randomly out of nowhere she decided it was ok to have a part for her 15th bday.

So it is for her 15th?

If you come from that culture how do you not know it's not for 16 year olds?

A quinceañera is when you are 15. I’d expect you to have Latin/ Central American roots.
A sweet 16 is very American, but I wouldn’t be so surprised to hear of them in the UK. But I don’t know anyone who had one.

Yes but the concept is very similar that's why I asked. Same for Bnei Mitzvot but without the religious undertones

Never heard of it. Definitely OTT. And yet another money-making opportunity for some people. I'd ignore it all.

How old is your daughter? A quinceañera is for a girl turning 15. A sweet 16 is well, self explanatory.

Unless you have Mexican/Latina or Carribbean heritage and attend Mass then don't do a quinceañera. Especially not if your daughter is now 16.

For my 16th I had a party without parents there and with lager and cider. It was also Euro 96 and England were in the semis so we watched the match. It was relatively civilised for unsupervised teens

If she wants one, why not?

miserable people will always be miserable about partied. On mumsnet adults arent allowed to celebrate birthdays and now it looks like children cant either.

OP didn't ask if she should throw a big party.

It's very specific and 2 types she mentioned are not even for the same age.

Do what you want OP. If your DD wants a big party and you're happy to hold one and pay for it, go for it

Some girls have always had large semi-formal parties for 'sweet 16' just as some girls are bought cars at 17.
I would very much not say either is the norm, purely for financial reasons.

She's 14, will be 15 in 6 months. The sweet 16 was for reference as it's a similar thing.

When she was 12 she was supposed to have her bat mitzvah.

Go for it! She feels a connection to that side of her cultural heritage and that's great! If you can afford it then why not?

A whole bunch of people in Mexico and Latin America.