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Is it normal to forget every day words?

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Midlifecrisisxamillion · 02/03/2025 21:40

I'm not old (not young either) and I've noticed I forget common every day words. It doesn't happen daily or anything but it's fairly often. An example was today I couldn't remember the word sideboard when I was thinking about maybe getting rid of mine. About an hour later the word pinged into my head.

Is this normal? Should I worry? Is there anything I should do about it? No health conditions that I know about.

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newrubylane · 02/03/2025 22:24

I forgot a ridiculously simple word the other day. It took me several minutes to remember it. Annoyingly, I've now forgotten what word it was that I forgot!

Missymarple · 02/03/2025 22:25

My team at work are all peri or menopausal and all of us have this, age ranges from early 40s to mid 50s. We're very open about it with each other so can describe the word and someone else will usually guess it. It's frustrating but having people around who understand and don't make a fuss, but actually help in a practical way, makes a huge difference. HRT has definitely made it a less frequent occurrence for me.

BaronessBomburst · 02/03/2025 22:25

Dishwasher, washing machine, and tumble dryer get used by me interchangeably. They're all large, square, white and need fecking emptying.
I kept calling the crumble a trifle too, which disappointed DS.

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Squirre · 02/03/2025 22:26

In my 30s and this happens to me all the time. I can't remember when it started but I am constantly low on sleep which I think might be partially behind it.

soupyspoon · 02/03/2025 22:27

CuriousRunner · 02/03/2025 22:20

  1. I might mean fridge but I'll say table 🤷‍♀️ no rhyme or fecking reason 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

This happens to me all the time, the word that comes to mind often has no resemblance to the one I've forgotten, also like another poster, i can't remember that spelling of really simple everyday words. A classic for me is that i often say or think the word cucumber when I mean umbrella. Why??!!

autisticbookworm · 02/03/2025 22:27

I'm mid forties and it happens to me. I figure it either hormonal or stress

HappyHealthy23 · 02/03/2025 22:32

CuriousRunner · 02/03/2025 22:20

  1. I might mean fridge but I'll say table 🤷‍♀️ no rhyme or fecking reason 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

This happens to me a worrying amount. The wrong word slips in between brain and mouth.
I've always had a knack for saying the wrong thing tbf, but I'm often just spouting complete gobbledegook these days.
Just turned 50, menopausal, and bilingual, which really doesn't help. I just forget words in two different languages now. Joy. 🙄

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 02/03/2025 22:35

I'm autistic and I've had this all my life.

WellsAndThistles · 02/03/2025 22:37

This happens to me (40's), I tend to try and hide it my quickly thinking of another word so e.g sideboard would become 'cabinet over there' 🤭

FarFarFarAwayOneDay · 02/03/2025 22:39

I get this fairly frequently! I’m early 60’s and it started probably about 5 years ago when I gave up work, I think. Many of my friends are the same.

Mostly it’s trying to remember the name of a singer when I hear something on the radio, or an actor on TV. My husband and I have a sort of competition, trying to see who can remember it first.

I find that working through the alphabet slowly really helps… often the name then just pops into my head!

Loloj · 02/03/2025 22:42

Yes I do this and I am 43 - I feel like it’s only happened from around the age of 40. At one point I felt it was getting worse and read that it could be linked to artificial sweeteners (which I had starting having in tea/coffee), so cut it out - I think it has improved but could by psychological.

I also forget little things like whether I took my tampon out or if I let the dog back in the house (stuff I do automatically without thinking).

Spendysis · 02/03/2025 22:44

Happens to me I am perimenopausal age 47

AllTheChaos · 02/03/2025 22:46

I have had it badly since early 40s and the onset of peri menopause. Described a table today as ‘the big flat thing we eat on” as couldn’t remember the word ‘table’ ffs!

Timeforsnacks · 02/03/2025 22:48

I've had this for years when I am stressed I can't remember alot of words, but when I'm off work or on holiday I have no memory problems. Is stress currently a factor for you?

Moier · 02/03/2025 22:55

All the time.. for last 30 plus years ( I'm 66) but I'm mentally and physically disabled.

MBM18 · 02/03/2025 22:58

Yep happens to me too. I'm 33 and this has been happening for the last few years. I noticed it after going back to work after having DD1.

Offleyhoo · 02/03/2025 22:58

Re peri menopause, with hindsight I realise that people can be in peri for literally years before things start happening that actually make them think they're going through menopause (hot flushes etc), and you can put things like forgetfulness, mood swings, tiredness down to stress, exhaustion, something else when it absolutely is menopausal changes starting to happening. Worry memory changes are different e.g. not being able to count backwards from 100, not being able to make a short list of a particular type of animal (e.g. farm animals), forgetting how to do a basic task like the steps to make a cup of tea etc

mynameiscalypso · 02/03/2025 22:59

I'm 40 and it happens to me frequently. Based on the amount of times someone (of any age and any gender) says 'What's the word for [insert convoluted description of something very everyday]?', I think it's entirely normal.

YourHappyJadeEagle · 02/03/2025 23:05

FarFarFarAwayOneDay · 02/03/2025 22:39

I get this fairly frequently! I’m early 60’s and it started probably about 5 years ago when I gave up work, I think. Many of my friends are the same.

Mostly it’s trying to remember the name of a singer when I hear something on the radio, or an actor on TV. My husband and I have a sort of competition, trying to see who can remember it first.

I find that working through the alphabet slowly really helps… often the name then just pops into my head!

I’m constantly saying Alexa name this track so she gives title and artist. But do I remember them for next time? Rarely.

OneFineDay13 · 02/03/2025 23:10

I have this, and I have ADHD. It's infuriating when am talking to my children

SausageMonkey2 · 02/03/2025 23:12

Another vote for the start of menopause symptoms

HauntedBungalow · 02/03/2025 23:12

I do this yes and I'll be honest it does worry me. My mum has dementia and I worry that I will too. I can remember, years before she started having definitive dementia symptoms, she couldn't always find the right word for things. I caught myself the other day just unable to find a word at all and explained it instead. That's never happened before and I had an awful feeling. I know that I would pass a memory test rn but equally I know that my mum would have passed a memory test too fifteen years ago when she was doing similar, and she never stopped doing that, only got worse.

I try to tell myself it's menopause, or lack of sleep, or the stress of my mother's illness but really, it's frightening.

MasterBeth · 02/03/2025 23:13

My mum did this in her 40s and worried about dementia. I remember her talking about a "cake strainer" when she meant a metal cooling rack.

She's now 86 and no signs of dementia. It can just be a thing.

user1471453601 · 02/03/2025 23:17

I wouldn't worry about it. In our house, forgetting stuff is the norm. Yesterday I asked my adult child if they had put my shower chair back into the shower. They assured me they had, they hadnt, they just thought they had.

The same day I asked why they hadn't brought me my flask of water? They had, I'd just forgotten, despite it being less than an hour later and the small flask sitting on my coffee table (in not just lazy, I'm disabled, so these are normal requests).

Adult child is in their mid 50s I'm in my mid 70s. We both laugh at our ability (or lack of) to retain information.

I used, in my 40s to find the word radish beyond me. I'd usually refer to it as that small red thing you have in salads that isn t a tomato

Everyday things can suddenly escape our ability to name them.

If it only happens occasionally, I wouldn't worry.

Normallynumb · 02/03/2025 23:19

Yes. Quite frequently. I'm 60 now but it's happened for the last few years
No other cognitive symptoms but it's frustrating