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How often do you take a sick day?

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Rapunzel91 · 25/02/2025 07:50

For those employed, how often do you take a sick day from work? And do you still sometimes work when ill?

Im ill all the time so tend to just work at home when I have a cold which is often. I’ve got a stomach bug today but feel like I still need to work as I took a sick day about a month ago 🤢

I think I’m ill more than the average person to be fair. Don’t know why, just seem to pick up everything 🤷‍♀️

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Britneyfan · 25/02/2025 08:32

I genuinely don’t understand how so many people here hardly ever take sick leave though I agree with a pp that it probably does make a big difference what your job is and whether you can do it from home and whether you get paid sick leave etc (not to say that most people are malingerers, rather that self employed people often put earning ahead of their health and work through when they really shouldn’t!). I think if I had an office job I’d have a much better sick leave record. You will also probably get a bit of a skewed perspective on here asking this as those who are never ill are going to be happier to chime in.

I’m a doctor and when I was younger I hardly ever took sick leave as medicine has such a macho culture and it’s kind of an unwritten rule/expectation that the only time you should take sick leave is if you’re ill enough to be admitted to hospital or dead basically. Broken leg etc. nope you’re expected in as usual! As I’ve got older, had a child, acquired various chronic illnesses, and the macho culture has actually changed a bit (glacially slowly but in the right direction of us not all having to be “heroes and martyrs” - that spread illness - as a pp put it both for our own sake and for patients sake when it comes to infectious illnesses), I would call in sick probably 3-4 days a year in total most years I reckon.

I wouldn’t dream of calling in sick for a cold (I’d never be at work in wintertime otherwise!) but I definitely would for a vomiting bug or “proper” flu with a 40 degree temperature and hallucinations etc. I do think maybe we are more likely to get ill than most people due to our occupation (and our regulator is terrifying so you do feel you need to be firing on all 4 cylinders when at work as you can’t really say “oh well I didn’t deal with that patient well because I wasn’t feeling 100 percent” as their response would be that you should have called in sick if not well enough to work) so maybe it’s me that has the skewed perspective 🤣 I was kind of shocked during the pandemic that I was able to have a Christmas without flu OR norovirus, it was a revelation to me. I usually spend at least some of the Christmas break in a feverish haze…

Last year I had to have a big operation so it was more than usual due to that issue obviously. But I get bloody norovirus pretty much every single winter (because people kindly come to see me with it and it is so super infectious). This winter I’ve managed to get it twice, it’s so miserable. A vaccine for it cannot come soon enough. It has been a horrendous winter for infectious illness generally this year. I get flu pretty often in winter as well (despite flu jabs) and I have asthma so that often becomes a proper chest infection afterwards as well. I’d say flu and norovirus are the main reasons I end up taking time off work, oh and COVID has also joined that list, it’s not quite as bad as flu for me but not far off and I currently seem to get that about once a year. It’s definitely added to my total average annual sick leave and meant more episodes of all of our staff going down with illness, especially as it seems to have waves in the summer as well as winter annoyingly.

I have occasionally needed an operation or a few weeks off for depression (I have bipolar disorder and try really hard not to take time off work because of it, because mental health issues are still heavily stigmatised in medicine though the needle is slowly moving in the right direction on that too, but also I do have to protect myself and patients if I am really unwell with it). I would say for that I take 2-3 weeks off work with depression when things are really bad, maybe every 5 years or so.

Ankhmo · 25/02/2025 08:32

Morph22010 · 25/02/2025 08:23

The trouble is when I’m off sick no one does my work for me so it just builds up and makes things more difficult and busy when I go back that’s why I don’t like having sick days

That's not your problem.

On the whole, and not you specific, but:

In most jobs, there are tasks that needs doing.

If a manager has one person doing that task, but they're under pressure, stressed, over worked or that task doesn't get done when they're not there... That's on the manager.
They will NEVER hire a second person when one person will run themselves into the ground.

Go to work, domyour hours, go home. What's left, what's undone, what you can't do... Not your problem. Your workload is the managers to manage, not yours to struggle through.

Nameynameynamename · 25/02/2025 08:41

I work on my feet with no option to work from home. Im not a martyr who goes in ill. I was off for a couple of days on June I think with a bad cold and before that was last January with a sickness bug. Those are the only two times I've been ill in the last year or so. We have people who seem to call in sick once a month or every other month and it comes across like they are pulling a sickie.

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kirinm · 25/02/2025 08:42

Barely ever. I was hospitalised in 2020 after being unwell for a few weeks and just pushing on not realising how much worse I was getting.

I feel obliged to work all the time and it's not healthy at all.

kirinm · 25/02/2025 08:43

If I'm ill I'll work from home.

OttersAreMySpiritAnimal · 25/02/2025 08:44

I think the average in the uk is now just over 7 days a year per employee. It's been rising in the last few years.
I call in sick if I'm not well enough to work, which to me means needing to stay in bed and sleep or d&v. I won't call in sick for a cold, I'll work but take more breaks and won't work as hard as normal. I make mistakes if I try to maintain the pace when poorly and that just makes me feel worse because I then spend a couple of days kicking myself.

Britneyfan · 25/02/2025 08:46

@Rapunzel91 you’d be surprised how many people think it’s totally fine to just go out and about as normal with norovirus. But it just spreads like wildfire, it doesn’t take anywhere near as many particles as other viruses to make people really unwell, and alcohol gel doesn’t kill it and it can live on surfaces for literally months argh! If I could eradicate one illness I would be sorely tempted to choose norovirus! If I were you I would be taking the day off even if you work from home especially if you’re still actively vomiting with it. Get well soon!

biscuitsandbooks · 25/02/2025 08:46

I'm self-employed and have had two sick days in five years.

biscuitsandbooks · 25/02/2025 08:47

Rapunzel91 · 25/02/2025 08:22

Very jealous of those who don’t tend to get sick!

In the last year I’ve had flu last Feb and again this Christmas, around 6-7 colds (not sure), I get headaches roughly weekly, migraines every 6-8 weeks and this stomach bug. Feel a bit like a broken down car!
I’ve taken 3 sick days in the last year and have pushed myself through some horrible bugs (like the flu) as I always feel I could be worse the next time.

Go to your doctor and ask for some blood tests - sounds like you're deficient in something (or several somethings).

Snowmanscarf · 25/02/2025 08:47

Rarely. Apart from fractured none, probably taken 2-3 days at most per year.

Britneyfan · 25/02/2025 08:48

I definitely think we have a bit of a presenteeism problem in the U.K. for short term illnesses, it’s cultural. And as @kirinm says it’s ultimately not good for us. At the same time we also probably do have too many people signed off on long term sickness for too long.

Maverickess · 25/02/2025 08:48

Silvertulips · 25/02/2025 08:10

Why are you all running yourselves into the ground? There are always loads of people off sick in my office - weeks at a time!!

I’ve had 1 day in the last year, I’m beginning to think I’m owed a few.

We are all replacable.

I am replaceable indeed, and the more sick days you take in some places, like mine, the more likely that they will replace you becomes.
Plus don't work, don't get paid. SSP for a week is the equivalent of around a days pay for me as well.
So a) can't afford it and b) can't afford to lose my job.

Genuinely haven't been ill in about 2 years, got sent home for one shift in 2022 maybe 2021 can't remember exactly, but before that it was covid, and my bosses were very ragey that legally you couldn't go to work with it for however long it was so there wasn't a lot they could do to punish people who did test positive.

Must be nice to not fear being sacked for the very human thing of getting sick now and again and be able to have the time off when you're feeling grotty and need to rest and recover.

arethereanyleftatall · 25/02/2025 08:51

Silvertulips · 25/02/2025 08:10

Why are you all running yourselves into the ground? There are always loads of people off sick in my office - weeks at a time!!

I’ve had 1 day in the last year, I’m beginning to think I’m owed a few.

We are all replacable.

I'm not. I don't get ill. Touches wood.

Mrsttcno1 · 25/02/2025 08:51

Never really, I don’t think I’ve had a single sick day since 2019, but I work in a job which can be done from home and I also have flexi so if I’ve been unwell I can work from home and if I get part way through a day and feel really rough then I can use flexi and finish earlier. It would be different if I had a job in a supermarket or a physical in person job with fixed hours because “well enough to work” looks different when it can be done from home in your PJ’s vs being on my feet all day.

Wildehorses · 25/02/2025 08:52

Maybe a couple of days in the past 30 years but only because I am lucky enough to never get sick (touch wood) and love my job (media) … live in fear of my luck running out though!

Loveduppenguin · 25/02/2025 08:53

Definitely had 4 or 5 last year…I still get paid so if I’m ill I’m ill I’m not going to work whilst sick. None this year so far…although yesterday I had a migraine but i decided to wfh because I have a deadline for today. I’m on brekkie break right now…

Mylittlebobble · 25/02/2025 08:54

I've had recurrent strep throat for the last 4 years so I've had loads of time off. Employer knows it's a problem that I'm trying to get sorted as I'm on waiting list to see consultant about having tonsils out. It knocks me out for about a week once or twice a year.

Togglebullets · 25/02/2025 08:55

Maybe once a year if that? But I'm lucky in that I'm not often ill and like others who've posted I do a job where I can work from home and take it easy if I'm unwell.

BeyondMyWits · 25/02/2025 08:57

I never got ill until I did... 30 years of work, maybe 4 days off in those 30 years... but it was a sit down, use your brain not your body type job.

Then I had a heart attack and 10 weeks off. Then 2 bouts of covid- one 10 days off, the other 4days. But nothing other than that.

CassandraWebb · 25/02/2025 09:01

Quite frequently. Even a mild cold makes me pretty unwell. For years I felt embarrassed how often I got ill and how much I struggled when I was ill, then finally I was diagnosed with an underlying condition (Myasthenia) and it became clear I had had it my whole adult life.

My story is not at all unique either

Thankfully I have almost always had understanding employers.

Britneyfan · 25/02/2025 09:01

@Maverickess yes, how many employers reacted to the legal requirements for COVID isolation was very telling. As per my previous post I do think we have a real presenteeism problem in the U.K. for those who work, and a lot of it is due to managers like you describe who do not seem to understand people are human and are constantly suspicious of anyone who says they are ill.

It’s not just managers either it’s often colleagues too. As a junior doctor if anyone took time off sick people would talk behind their backs about how they are just being lazy and probably aren’t even ill, plus they’d be pulled into HR for a talking to. It’s a nightmare as a doctor if someone calls in sick cos it basically means someone has to do their job as well as their own that day and it’s not like there is much slack in the system. So people do judge and hold kind of a grudge if a colleague is off sick without good reason or for “too long” for the illness.

I remember one fellow junior doctor made the “mistake” of following the hospital’s written rules on taking time off with diarrhoea and vomiting and took multiple days off with norovirus (instead of like the rest of us maybe taking one day while actually puking +++ then forcing yourself back immediately even if still having to rush to the loo often and unable to eat yet) as the policy said you should not return to work until 48h (or maybe 24h) clear of any vomiting or diarrhoea episodes. Everyone was talking about him negatively and he really was not taken seriously career wise as a result. HR/management were furious as well, especially because they couldn’t really say he was wrong in following their own policy, they were just used to everyone ignoring it as we were socially conditioned to do. Looking back I admire him for taking a stand on it!

Cynic17 · 25/02/2025 09:01

Never, unless I am properly sick.
I haven't been sick since 2011.
I don't count coughs and colds, and I go in to work on those occasions.

CassandraWebb · 25/02/2025 09:02

I definitely get annoyed by the self declared "heroes" who come in even when unwell. Thankfully my current employer gets very cross if people do that - we have good sick pay and can work from home so there is no excuse for sharing germs with everyone

Britneyfan · 25/02/2025 09:03

I’m actually amazed that not everybody gets norovirus every winter (another revelation 🤣). Lucky things! As well as it being linked to the job, I also read that some people are genetically more prone or less prone to get it. Which explains these people who say they last vomited in 1991! I wish!

19kgofchocolate · 25/02/2025 09:03

Probably about 3/4 days a year, +5 if I got Covid, +10 if I got flu. I had a blood disorder once which made me off work for 6 weeks. I had about an hour’s energy every day. That was in the days before WFH so didn’t feel pressure to work or logon.

a career in private sector, I saw sickness rates increase with more generous sick pay policy.

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