What's one thing that drives you mad about your mum or dad?

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I obviously love her to bits, but it really just does my head in the amount of time she spends talking on the phone.
A conversation that only needs to be five minutes long takes her more than 20, she doesn't get tired of talking it seems.
I often have to walk into another room LOL.
So what does yours do?

Be careful because someone will soon come along to say how dare you complain about your mum/dad, one day you'll miss them, mine aren't around so you're lucky to have them etc etc

My parents are no longer around but I'm enjoying these stories though I have a feeling I may actually be like one or two of these mums. My dd rings most days and I sometimes don't have anything new to tell her (her life is much more exciting than mine!) so I probably go in to more detail than is necessary describing a programme I watched or what I had for dinner!

1. Everything my mum dose because she is never wrong even my dad left in the end and all us kids.
2. And the constant moaning over womens wrights never enough wrights done my head in with it.

Both my parents could sulk for days and it was an awful atmosphere. My mum was very chippy and unpredictable and even the most innocent question could set her off. A slight disagreement with dad would mean a week of not speaking.

When I started going out with DH, he went a bit quiet one day, and I warned him that sulking would mean the end of our relationship as I'd had my fill of sulking growing up!

My Mum talks AT me on the phone for at least 10 minutes before I get a chance to utter a single word, then asks if I’m not in the mood to chat because I haven’t said much 🤣 I love her to bits though, so I don’t mind!

She was a journalist and author - and she can't help but make a story out of everything, and edits those stories. We all do this of course to a small extent, but because of the tone of her somewhat saccharine regular column, she makes everything sound like the bloody Famous Five.

My mum has two bad habits. One is rewriting history or misremembering. No, I don't remember that....BECAUSE IT DIDNT BLOODY HAPPEN. The other is copying. So if I decide to crochet a cushion cover she'll whip one up in double quick time. Fine if you have all the hours in the day to devote to it but it really takes the shine off my achievement. Fortunately she is loved and tolerated 😆

Dm doesn't do this so much now but she used to want to make sure she was absolutely accurate so a conversation might go along the lines of:

"Do you remember Miss Paul who taught you English? I met her in Asda. I was just in aisle 12 and she said... Or was it 12? let me see. I'd just picked up the flour that I know is in 10, and I'd turned round because I'd forgotten the tinned sweetcorn. Yes, I think I was half way down 10. Hang on, no it wasn't because I got the ketchup straight away afterwards so it was in aisle 11. Definitely in 11... now which end was it..."
And I'm thinking "yes I remember Miss Paul, and I'd quite like to know what she said, which has no relation whether you are in aisle 10 or 12 or Morrisons or Asda or even on the moon. Just tell me what she said!" 🤣

Dad is a snob and mum is soooooo judgemental but there are many things to judge about her!

Nobody's perfect though!

Ugh my mum made me cry recently by being so adamant that something didn't happen WHEN IT FUCKING DID!!! It definitely did, don't gaslight me woman. I know rationally it's because she's worried her memory is going. But don't be so bloody vicious about it.

Every time I talk to my DM, she complains about how much she hates her job and how fed up she is, yet she won’t leave.

My mum divorced my dad many years ago, and has since re written every single memory in her head , to ensure he wasn’t in it .
having never been divorced I can’t comment personally if this is something that she has had to do to move on

however it can create tension when she launches into a story that never happened, or happened with different people, and honestly it feels like some sort of gaslighting.
if it wasn’t only revolving around my dad , I would have assumed she was loosing her memory.
the best thing is to quickly move on from such stories and not to comment, but she gets quite cross if you do that - almost like she wants to make sure I have a new memory the same as hers.

im maybe not explaining it very well, but i would love for a psychologist to examine her - absolutely fascinating- but two visits a year is more than enough

I can imagine how annoying it is but I expect it gives her a little break from him, albeit briefly. It must be utterly exhausting to live with someone deaf and with advanced dementia. I suspect it also gives her comfort to feel that he's still very much part of the family unit - a loved dad and a husband - rather than someone to put in a corner and ignore because it's easier.

That's blummin rude! I would tell her or do the same back. I demand kids put away the phone when a talking and definitely wouldn't have it from anyone else.
Good luck! 🤞 x

Before she died my mother's Daily Mail habit drove me nuts along with her trotting out choice nuggets to wind me up.

She would have never done it if my dad had been alive. It was odd because I thought she was the more balanced one 😳

Bloody hell.
Be grateful you still have her.
Mine died age 62.. four years younger than l am now.

I love my mum dearly and generally love her company, but she refers to herself in the third person around her grandchildren and it sends me quietly insane. "Grandma was at the doctor's yesterday...", "Grandma thinks you should...", "Grandma bought you a present...".

I feel so bad for getting wound up about such a petty thing but sometimes I have to leave the room for a while.

Chews with her mouth open and loudly, it's like eating next to a camel

Text talk, she'll message me "how r u" and it makes me want to throw my phone at her.

Doesn't listen, you'll be mid conversation and she'll just wonder off.

My mother will only talk about herself. She won’t listen to anything I say about my life or my child. She’ll just turn the conversation back on herself, e.g. me: DD has had a terrible cough
my mother: oh the neighbour has too I spoke to Bob and he was in hospital last week with it.
erm… ok…
it’s hard work.

Hoarding. Not "sentimental" things, but things that don't matter anymore, i.e. council tax bills going back 20 years, bank statements from the year dot, Tesco shopping receipts and weekly newsagent receipts going back years. Newspapers and magazines in piles everywhere. Not only that, but the utility bills, bank statements, etc are all put back in their envelopes after being opened and read, with nothing written on them, so in the very rare event we need to find one, it's a sodding nightmare going through boxes of envelopes, opening them all, until we find the bill/statement we need. I've bought files and organisers for her, told her not to put things back in envelopes after she's read them, told her to put them in piles, or folders, etc., but next time I go, it's all back in random envelopes again! Argh!! Thing is that when something important needs to be found, like the invoice/guarantee for the new boiler, we can't find it - that's happened so many times. She seems to keep all the unimportant stuff for years/decades but doesn't keep the really important stuff. Fair enough for her to keep boxes of photos, past xmas and birthday cards, etc., but there's really no need to keep her newsagents receipt from March 2019! There's just no reasoning with her at all.

Mine has never done anything wrong. Never felt guilt. Has no regrets (except for things like 'I wish I'd told the woman what I thought of her it would have done her good, someone should have done. She's dead now, or I'd go straight round..' etc.) Has no guilt. (I can't imagine the bliss of that.)
Has had incredibly bad luck, the gas fitter who nicked something off the mantlepiece, the lifetime of neighbours with rattling gates, but hardly ever complains. None of her kids, nor grandkids have turned out as they should have done, yet here she is, never a murmur, sketching primroses today, in fact.
She is perfect.

It's really annoying how very, very perfect my dm is.

Mine isn't with us anymore, but she used to drive me crazy with telling me stories I'd heard a thousand times.
The worst part was if you interrupted her. Even a "Oh yes! I remember you saying, because x happened and y did such and such."
She'd look at you with an expression like you'd just trampled on her favourite painting, take a deep breath...and start her story from the beginning 😂😂

She would also call me on days when I was working, when I'd said to please only call me if it's an emergency, just to tell me what happened on Coronation street. Her reasoning was that it was an emergency because she might forget to tell me later on 😂

The fact that they worry me constantly - they are 89 and 90 this year and I worry because they don't want as much help as they need.

What really drives me mad is I'll probably be exactly the same if I get to be that age 😬🙄

I had/have crap parents so nc. It annoys me they didn't make my life better growing up.

Sound familiar 😖

My mum...

Not saying please! 🤦‍♀️

Reverting back to being 'a child' and needing validation for everything 🙄

Moaning 😖

Only phoning me when she has a problem thereby scaring life out of me everytime she phones😳

Hope I don't take after my mother 😉🤣