Not being invited to things DP friends organise

[Lorie94]

My DP has been invited to his friends wedding. This is the second part, they had a ceremony already and now they are getting married abroad. First ceremony I didn't get invited to and he said it was just close friends and I'll be getting an invite to the 'proper' wedding but I haven't.
The 'proper' wedding is abroad aswell and we planned to spend a few days there as it's a country neither of us has went too but now that plan has gone.
His friends don't know me that well as when they meet up I stay home with our 5 year old but his other friends partners are always there as they have no kids.
Anytime I mention that I don't know his friends he always says ' you do know them and you have met them ' but that's only when we have hosted and they've been invited, it's never been reciprocated and I feel like this will always happen. One of his friends always host but I have never gone as he says he just wants to hang out with his boys which I have never had an issue with but now I am feeling bitter as I'm being left out of things. People can invite whoever they want to events but I feel jealous that he gets invited to my friends weddings/kids christenings and parties as his my partner and we've been together 7 years but the invite is never there for me.

How do I get my point across as whenever I mention it he doesn't see a problem. He did ask his friend about the wedding and his friend did say 'I'm only inviting plus ones I know but if someone drops out I'll let you know'. Which clearly voids his argument of 'you do know my friends'.

Actually it is incorrect to say "articulate your words". You articulate your feelings or intentions by using words, you don't articulate your words.

I mean, I was directly quoting one of the OP's posts directly, in a tongue in cheek tone. I'm an English teacher as it happens, so you can rest assured I'm aware of the redundancy in my sentence.

When he says you do know his friends, I would say well obviously not when they don't invite me to anything.

But the fact that he's happy to go along with them disrespecting you like this, and still go himself to everything without you, tells you everything about how little he respects you.

No wonder his friends think so little of you when he shows them how little he thinks of you.

There's a difference between him going out with mates and you not being invited to couples things, maybe it suits him to not have you there, but I would wonder why.

I had an ex who always excluded me like this, turned out they were inviting me but he wasn’t telling me because they were doing copious amounts of coke and he didn’t want me to know

Time to call him out on it

I agree

He doesn't want you there. DH wouldn't even consider going if I hadn't been invited after they said I would be. I don't think it's them holding back OP.

Drugs was also the reason I wasn’t part of XH’s friend group. I knew they dabbled and I had no interest, but I didn’t know the full extent.

I think he knew damn well the other girlfriends would be there.

Nope

Nope nope nope.

OP, I went through this in my marriage. We had kids, his friends didn’t.
They would host events and I ‘ wouldn’t be invited’. Like you, I tied myself in knots trying to convince myself it was ok. Then beat myself up ( I had gained weight, I was a mum so maybe I was boring).

Then I went to an event where the whole crowd was too. It was so clear my ex was trying to impress one of the women who was part of the crowd.

All the time I wasted feeling bad about myself.
OP, this is not a small thing. A decent partner would not accept you being continuously excluded, but I really doubt that is what’s happening.

This doesn't sound right,

Have you messaged any of the friends partners?