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WFH causing school refusal to increase.

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rivalsbinge · 18/02/2025 07:29

I read a thought provoking post on LinkedIn a comment about school refusals being so much higher since WFH became more "normal"

In essence the thought was a lack of everyone up, dressed out the door, it's now kids up breakfast dressed smart, out the door with parents in PJs or leisure wear going back home to work and the kids knowing that parents are at home makes them more likely to want to also stay home.

Obviously the parents do work but the kids (age dependent) are not seeing this and are thinking work/ school is now optional.

I did think this poster may have a valid point but interested in what others think, I'm also not talking about SEN and other considerations.

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BlueSilverCats · 21/02/2025 18:18

Well saying "I obviously don't mean people with NDs or mental health difficulties " is like saying " I don’t mean people in wheelchairs or with disabilities " when discussing motability cars.

rivalsbinge · 22/02/2025 07:52

BlueSilverCats · 21/02/2025 18:18

Well saying "I obviously don't mean people with NDs or mental health difficulties " is like saying " I don’t mean people in wheelchairs or with disabilities " when discussing motability cars.

Not really is it.

Thing is it would then just become a discussion about children with SEN instead of a overall social issue and discussion.

And last time I checked the majority of children attending school don't have SEN.

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rivalsbinge · 22/02/2025 07:53

@BexAubs20 thanks you!

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BlueSilverCats · 22/02/2025 07:56

@rivalsbinge but the vast majority of children that are school refusing/EBSA are disabled or have SENDS/SEMH issues.

rivalsbinge · 22/02/2025 07:56

Beentherelivedthat · 20/02/2025 10:41

I think it's more to do with the breaking of the unspoken contract between families and schools that happened as a result of lockdown closures and strikes in recent years (not blaming teachers at all btw, I support anyone's right to strike and their right to fair pay and working conditions). But I suspect this has reshaped previously-held beliefs for some people: if school can be optional under certain circumstances where it benefits staff or wider society, it reasonably follows that attendance might not be such an iron-clad requirement in other circumstances that benefit families (holidays in term time, milder illnesses etc).

Love this way of putting it.

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rivalsbinge · 22/02/2025 07:59

BexAubs20 · 21/02/2025 16:27

Totally agree! It’s not setting a good example for kids at all IMO. I’m off work sick atm have been for a couple of weeks and my 12yr old son is NOT happy that me and his 2yr old sister are at home. I’ve gone onto a 0hr contract (basically just so my job is held open for me) and he said “I want a zero hr contract for school” lol 😂 then he argues with me saying “well you don’t go to work every day” I think if I had a school refuser, I would make an effort to go to work to set a good example or at least get up and dressed

Hope you feel better soon, 0 hour school contracts would be loved by all can you just imagine.

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Wingingitnancy · 22/02/2025 08:01

I work from home..there is no way in hell I can work with the kids running about. I think perhaps it was more during Covid the kids had to stay home and learn from home so now they think it is a perfectly valid option so the importance of a school setting has been downgraded. I think in time when that period gets further behind us going to school won't seem an optional decision. (Although I have heard online schools are gaining popularity)

rivalsbinge · 22/02/2025 08:05

BlueSilverCats · 22/02/2025 07:56

@rivalsbinge but the vast majority of children that are school refusing/EBSA are disabled or have SENDS/SEMH issues.

That wasn't my post other children are available and do exist without SEN and refuse school.

This isn't about SEN so go chat over on those boards there are lots and they are pretty active and helpful.

Instead of moaning that there's a discussion that doesn't suit your agenda.

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lavenderlou · 22/02/2025 09:39

Recent research suggests that over 90% of those with extreme distress about attending school, who make up the bulk of the persistent absence numbers, have SEND (most often ND). So there really isn't any purpose in having a discussion about it without that factor.

I can see that wfh may affect the occasional extra day off for illness but that really isn't a big factor in attendance numbers. It's the same with term time holidays. However if you listen to the Head of Ofsted or watch Lorraine you could be forgiven for thinking these are major issues. And that's why the attendance numbers aren't going to change - because nobody wants to address the real problem of supporting SEND children in getting an education.

NonplasticBertrand · 22/02/2025 09:42

lavenderlou · 22/02/2025 09:39

Recent research suggests that over 90% of those with extreme distress about attending school, who make up the bulk of the persistent absence numbers, have SEND (most often ND). So there really isn't any purpose in having a discussion about it without that factor.

I can see that wfh may affect the occasional extra day off for illness but that really isn't a big factor in attendance numbers. It's the same with term time holidays. However if you listen to the Head of Ofsted or watch Lorraine you could be forgiven for thinking these are major issues. And that's why the attendance numbers aren't going to change - because nobody wants to address the real problem of supporting SEND children in getting an education.

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^This. People sound off without understanding the crisis of unmet SEND needs in schools and how this is translating to non-attendance.

rivalsbinge · 22/02/2025 09:45

Ok you all win it's all about SEN children and we can't talk about anything relating about school without it being about them.

It wasn't the point of the thread and it's pretty tedious but never mind.

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NonplasticBertrand · 22/02/2025 09:47

rivalsbinge · 22/02/2025 08:05

That wasn't my post other children are available and do exist without SEN and refuse school.

This isn't about SEN so go chat over on those boards there are lots and they are pretty active and helpful.

Instead of moaning that there's a discussion that doesn't suit your agenda.

This makes no sense when as many knowledgeable posters have already pointed out almost all school non-attendance arises from serious health issues or disabilities. I'm not sure why you think ghettoising SEND parents who are pointing out the evidence base to you is OK?

GrandpaFlump · 22/02/2025 09:49

rivalsbinge · 22/02/2025 09:45

Ok you all win it's all about SEN children and we can't talk about anything relating about school without it being about them.

It wasn't the point of the thread and it's pretty tedious but never mind.

But it is the point of the thread surely?
Even if people come up with spurious theories to explain falling attendance to avoid the elephant in the room.

One day it’s going to have to be faced.

rivalsbinge · 22/02/2025 10:08

@h@NonplasticBertrand as a parent with a diagnosed kid who's now in his 20s like I'd said on my first post it I was excluding the discussion around SEN.

I've read all reply's all really interesting and considered and I've enjoyed them all and yet here we are.

I'm not saying it's not an issue, I'm not saying it's not a consideration but for the purpose of my question it was about people sharing thoughts on the correlation of WFH and school refusal.

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rivalsbinge · 22/02/2025 10:09

@NonplasticBertrand the post below was for you, sorry I mistyped your name.

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BlueSilverCats · 22/02/2025 10:22

rivalsbinge · 22/02/2025 10:08

@h@NonplasticBertrand as a parent with a diagnosed kid who's now in his 20s like I'd said on my first post it I was excluding the discussion around SEN.

I've read all reply's all really interesting and considered and I've enjoyed them all and yet here we are.

I'm not saying it's not an issue, I'm not saying it's not a consideration but for the purpose of my question it was about people sharing thoughts on the correlation of WFH and school refusal.

I work in a school. None of the children with poor attendance that don't have any SENDs or other issue have a WFH parent. No correlation there, even if it's just a small sample size.

Both the increase in working from home and in school refusal are symptoms of the pandemic. That's your causation. Breathing issues and difficulties have also increased after the pandemic. Should we link those to WFH too?

rivalsbinge · 22/02/2025 10:27

@BlueSilverCats yeh sure why don't you start a thread on breathing issues and WFH.

I run a fully remote business BTW so wasn't bashing WFH but there's a ton of projection on here.

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BlueSilverCats · 22/02/2025 11:11

rivalsbinge · 22/02/2025 10:27

@BlueSilverCats yeh sure why don't you start a thread on breathing issues and WFH.

I run a fully remote business BTW so wasn't bashing WFH but there's a ton of projection on here.

The things is, focusing on this very strenuous so called correlation ignores the actual issues, including the fact that OFSTED and their behaviours ,grading and tactics are also a contributing factor.

Goldenbear · 22/02/2025 11:37

Shinyandnew1 · 19/02/2025 21:47

There wasn’t really the option to miss school because everyone knew the reality was that if you didn’t do well at school, you were trapped in poverty.

I remember plenty of kids 'skiving' 35 years ago when I was at school!

Yes, I agree, lots of truanting away from school. It seems it happens in the schools now.

Morph22010 · 22/02/2025 11:39

rivalsbinge · 22/02/2025 10:08

@h@NonplasticBertrand as a parent with a diagnosed kid who's now in his 20s like I'd said on my first post it I was excluding the discussion around SEN.

I've read all reply's all really interesting and considered and I've enjoyed them all and yet here we are.

I'm not saying it's not an issue, I'm not saying it's not a consideration but for the purpose of my question it was about people sharing thoughts on the correlation of WFH and school refusal.

But if you were to take all the Sen and non diagnosed but suspected Sen kids out of the picture there would not be a school attendance crisis, there would just be a very miniscule isolated issue for a few kids, there are potentially some non Sen kids out there whose non attendance has been effected by parents wfh but ofsted going on about it makes it sound like the major issue which it is not. It is far cheaper to blame parents than to provide adequate Sen support, or even adequate basic funding to schools

SheilaFentiman · 22/02/2025 11:55

Morph22010 · 22/02/2025 11:39

But if you were to take all the Sen and non diagnosed but suspected Sen kids out of the picture there would not be a school attendance crisis, there would just be a very miniscule isolated issue for a few kids, there are potentially some non Sen kids out there whose non attendance has been effected by parents wfh but ofsted going on about it makes it sound like the major issue which it is not. It is far cheaper to blame parents than to provide adequate Sen support, or even adequate basic funding to schools

Well blinkin’ said Flowers

Flipflop223 · 22/02/2025 12:58

lavenderlou · 22/02/2025 09:39

Recent research suggests that over 90% of those with extreme distress about attending school, who make up the bulk of the persistent absence numbers, have SEND (most often ND). So there really isn't any purpose in having a discussion about it without that factor.

I can see that wfh may affect the occasional extra day off for illness but that really isn't a big factor in attendance numbers. It's the same with term time holidays. However if you listen to the Head of Ofsted or watch Lorraine you could be forgiven for thinking these are major issues. And that's why the attendance numbers aren't going to change - because nobody wants to address the real problem of supporting SEND children in getting an education.

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Send has always been there. Why is it a significant issue now?

SheilaFentiman · 22/02/2025 13:01

Flipflop223 · 22/02/2025 12:58

Send has always been there. Why is it a significant issue now?

Eh? It has been a significant issue for many many years.

Flipflop223 · 22/02/2025 13:03

SheilaFentiman · 22/02/2025 13:01

Eh? It has been a significant issue for many many years.

No inattendance has shot up enormously. Is nothing like what it was before

SheilaFentiman · 22/02/2025 13:09

Flipflop223 · 22/02/2025 13:03

No inattendance has shot up enormously. Is nothing like what it was before

From which time period to which? From what percentage to what?

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