Gabby Petito

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In tears holding my 2 month old baby girl having just finished watching the new Gabby Petito Netflix doc. What can we do for our girls to educate and keep them safe as they grow up? The statistics of domestic abuse by loved ones are terrifying.

@User14March I also wondered why she had such low self esteem, and was also shocked that that woman picked up a male hitchhiker, especially in such a remote area

@InMyMNEra for sure! The vignette with the bible interesting too.

Brian’s parents & early police interaction! The UK Police would go inside & be less accommodating!

I believe she was also with her husband when they picked up Brian, he just didn’t appear in series.

Men.

Brian’s parents also reminded me of Chris watts parents with how they behaved

Also Neil Entwistle , another one with utterly deluded parents .

The van was in her name though iirc.

I've just watched this. How terribly sad. No words really. But Gabby's parents and step parents with their quiet dignity and their resolute determination to help other victims leaves me in awe.

Definitely agree with those saying the police were negligent. Many times. It said after the police put him in the hotel and gave her the van, telling both repeatedly not to contact each other until the following morning, they met up that night! So no surveillance on the van or hotel. They should have put a tracker on the van, surely?

Likewise no surveillance when he left home to go hiking, he just drove off in parents car, wtf.

How his parents, especially his mum haven’t been charged with aiding and abetting is astonishing, especially that letter. Said at the end that no charges have been brought ‘yet’, hope they do.

Poor parenting (his) and sloppy policing. Should have got a warrant and gone in the house the first time parents said he wouldn’t talk to them. And don’t get me started on the flippant messages from his sister!

Her family carried themselves with quiet dignity throughout, bless Gabby and them all.

I can recommend listening to the crime analysis podcast. Laura Richards, a former MET officer, analyses all the missed opportunities in the police stop - over 20 episodes https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/crime-analyst/id1545830333?i=1000558696776

Safeguards do indeed put the squeeze on women but we either have them and pay the price, or don't and pay the price

Brian was awful. Early on in the series it was noted how Mrs Laundrie was jealous of how Gabby took Brian's attention away from her. She was such an unpleasant woman and I suspect her husband was in a similar position Gabby was, but the sexes were reversed. Some women treat their sons like princes and will not believe their precious boys are wrong in any way. They will do anything to protect them, and it's disgusting.

I note how quickly the Laundries found their son's stuff and the body. It was under an hour, I think, after the FBI had been searching for weeks. Either the FBI and local law enforcement couldn't find a beer in a brewery or his mum & dad knew exactly where he was. It was very fishy.

I recognised things in Gabby that I have experienced such as playing down my partner's poor behaviour, forgiving him all the time, being made to feel like your dream or ambition is nonsense, being put down constantly, being told something is wrong with you which is why you cry all the time, the gaslighting, and believing you can change him. Also, believing by putting your opinions and beliefs aside you will make him happy. That poor girl. My heart ached for her.

Not at all. This is a real part of the problem. The ‘boymum’ community is a prime example of this.

I don't really know what that is? I suppose mothers have grown up in this patriarchal world too and because of that many do pander to sons and husbands. I suspect it’s only going to get worse now we have the anti-feminism movement and some men (mostly straight white men) portraying themselves as victims in society.

@PenneyFouryourthoughts I also thought the parents knew exactly where he was. It's too much of a coincidence that they found him in an hour or so when the FBI, local police and volunteers had all been searching. They weren't calling out his name either, they knew he was dead in my opinion.

This.
Blaming the mother for her patriarchal behaviour when the father is more than likely the person who showed Brian how to act towards women is odd. For me, the fact they didn't find anything on the dad is far more telling than her note to her son basically suggesting she would lay down her life for him (showing how low she considers herself to be as a woman even compared with a murderer).

Long story short, it’s mothers who actively and openly parent their sons differently, telling them they are more special, more important and so forth. Have a quick Google, you will be shocked at the brazen nature of it.

I can’t understand why the police were so deferential towards his parents from get go. I am aghast when he was at home they tip
toed around the issue.

I think policing is very different in the US , on lots of true crime shows it shows them having to wait for actual evidence of wrong doing before they can search etc and the only evidence was her parents reporting her missing and his parents were saying she was fine when he left so it was kind of a dead end . I think they did all they could by checking and taking the van on that night .

Gabby was such a beautiful girl, inside and out. Her family was amazing as well. I wonder if Brian wanted to move to Florida to separate her from her support network.
I couldn't believe the interaction with the police in Utah. Who is more likely to be the abuser, the calm person or the hysterical one? I really didn't like the way the officer kept saying she was like his wife. That was patronising and unprofessional.

I just watched it.

I followed it on the news at the time, she was so sweet and came across as a lovely trusting young person, I cannot believe how his parents reacted, knowing Gabbiey's parents, and eventually the police were looking for her, covering for their son, they should be in jail. The letter is so incriminating. Also wondering how he managed to leave his parents house without anyone spotting him, and then his parents finding his body within an hour of searching. Bastards.

What I was surprised about was the family spreading Gabby's ashes in the place where she was murdered.

That surprised me too - it was a sad location where her life was snuffed out, I'd have wanted my daughter to be somewhere with happy and positive associations but they must have had their reasons.