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Dd got me a gift i don't like

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Skittles2022 · 14/02/2025 11:44

This is so awful. DD got me a phone for xmas it's a Samsung galaxy a55 . She was so proud. It was expensive for her to get. She had some money she would not normally have and wanted to get a more expensive gift than she normally would. She felt super pleased to give it to me.

The thing is I hate it. I have not even set it up. It feels heavy and kind of chunky. I have always had the Samsung S range at the moment I have the s22+ so I could do with an upgrade. But if I did it would be the S range.

The phone can't be taken back because its been open . I did start to set lt up . But I got confused and put it away. DD paid for the phone outright.

I dont want to hurt Dd feeling as so I was thinking about saying to her there was a fault with the phone so I took it to the shop and they said I could swap it . But really I will just upgrade my own phone.

I feel awful but I just can't get on with the phone.

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HundredMilesAnHour · 14/02/2025 11:47

It doesn’t sound like you’ve really tried to get on with the phone. At least give it a go first. If you’re confused setting it up, ask your DD to help you.

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Skittles2022 · 14/02/2025 11:48

HundredMilesAnHour · 14/02/2025 11:47

It doesn’t sound like you’ve really tried to get on with the phone. At least give it a go first. If you’re confused setting it up, ask your DD to help you.

That's true . Maybe I should. It just feels so heavy and chunky. Your right though I have not tried

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Needmorelego · 14/02/2025 11:49

Just be honest and say you didn't get on with it and sell it.
The thing with technology is sometimes you don't know if you are going to like it or it does what you want until you try it.
If she had bought you clothes in the wrong size or something you'd tell her wouldn't you?

JudgeBread · 14/02/2025 11:50

Mate the set up for the A series is identical to the S series so that's a lame excuse for not even trying.

Bestofgoodluck · 14/02/2025 11:50

How old is she? I would be honest and say exactly what you’ve said here.
Would you buy her a phone without checking what phone she wanted and would she be happy about receiving one she didn’t?

If it defiantly can’t be returned which I would check then it could be sold for at least some of the money or maybe she would like it for herself or one of you know someone else would.

Thornybush · 14/02/2025 11:51

I would sell it and upgrade. Stick to your plan. Tell her you swapped it as it wasn't working (if she even notices) I'm sure she wouldn't be long telling you if you bought her a phone she didn't like 😅

Chemenger · 14/02/2025 11:52

I’m sure you would get used to it if you gave it even the most minimal of chances. Unless there is more to this, you are being disrespectful of your daughter who chose to spend this money on you rather than herself by just leaving it in a drawer gathering dust.

YesHonestly · 14/02/2025 11:52

Please don’t tell her you don’t like it or can’t get on with it. She saved her own money and felt so proud to give it to you, that’s an incredible thing to do.

If you must change it, tell her there was a fault and they swapped it for you.

Ameliepoulainandthephotobooth · 14/02/2025 11:53

She’s obviously an adult and not a four year old so use your big girl words. You can be kind while saying that you don’t like it.

Mudflaps · 14/02/2025 11:54

Setting up a Samsung A phone is the same as a S phone so stop using that excuse. Sounds like you just don't want to use the cheaper version which was given to you. Saying you need to upgrade your S22+..... gives off a vibe to be honest.

Needmorelego · 14/02/2025 11:56

YesHonestly · 14/02/2025 11:52

Please don’t tell her you don’t like it or can’t get on with it. She saved her own money and felt so proud to give it to you, that’s an incredible thing to do.

If you must change it, tell her there was a fault and they swapped it for you.

But what happens if year after year the daughter keeps saving her money to buy gifts that aren't something wanted?
She could be wasting her money for decades just because her mum simply didn't talk to her about this phone.

SallyWD · 14/02/2025 11:58

Skittles2022 · 14/02/2025 11:48

That's true . Maybe I should. It just feels so heavy and chunky. Your right though I have not tried

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I have exactly the same phone as you. Whilst it felt big and heavy at first, I got used to it in a few days. I love it. It's a great phone and now I enjoy having the bigger screen. Just give it time. It's madness not to use it!

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Skittles2022 · 14/02/2025 11:58

YesHonestly · 14/02/2025 11:52

Please don’t tell her you don’t like it or can’t get on with it. She saved her own money and felt so proud to give it to you, that’s an incredible thing to do.

If you must change it, tell her there was a fault and they swapped it for you.

Thats what I'm thinking i don't want to hurt her feelings. As others said though I have not really tried. So I should probably at least try.

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Skittles2022 · 14/02/2025 11:59

SallyWD · 14/02/2025 11:58

I have exactly the same phone as you. Whilst it felt big and heavy at first, I got used to it in a few days. I love it. It's a great phone and now I enjoy having the bigger screen. Just give it time. It's madness not to use it!

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I will give it a go

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FruitFlyPie · 14/02/2025 11:59

I'm with you OP. So what if OP doesn't want to use the cheaper version, when she prefers and can afford the premium one. A phone is pretty much our most used possession so it makes sense to be happy with the one you have.

YesHonestly · 14/02/2025 12:00

Needmorelego · 14/02/2025 11:56

But what happens if year after year the daughter keeps saving her money to buy gifts that aren't something wanted?
She could be wasting her money for decades just because her mum simply didn't talk to her about this phone.

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How would the OP telling her she doesn’t like this gift stop her from buying another gift she doesn’t like later down the line? Unless the OP’s daughter is planning to buy her a Samsung A phone for the next few years, I think that’s unlikely to happen.

It says in the OP that she had some money she wouldn’t usually have and chose to buy her something more expensive than usual so it doesn’t sound like it will be a regular occurrence.

It sounds like she’s tried really hard, and got close to what the OP would like but got the model wrong. Unless she’s a fully grown adult, I’d choose kindness and find another way to swap the phone. No matter how the OP phrases her dislike of the phone, it’s going to leave her daughter feeling deflated

Chickyegg22 · 14/02/2025 12:01

I couldn’t do this to my daughter sorry! I would suck it up and use the phone no matter what!

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Skittles2022 · 14/02/2025 12:01

Needmorelego · 14/02/2025 11:56

But what happens if year after year the daughter keeps saving her money to buy gifts that aren't something wanted?
She could be wasting her money for decades just because her mum simply didn't talk to her about this phone.

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This won't happen. It was a one off because she had alot of money she would not normally have due to a back payment.

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Needmorelego · 14/02/2025 12:02

@YesHonestly I just think it's ridiculous to not say something when it's such an expensive gift.

UninterestingFirstPost · 14/02/2025 12:02

It’s only a phone. If you used to text on a nokia or the like I’m sure you’ll get used to it. Personally I would put up with the annoyance for your daughter’s sake. She must have been so proud to buy it.
I would ask her not to buy you expensive presents again because you want her to have savings. That will prevent this happening again.

Needmorelego · 14/02/2025 12:04

Skittles2022 · 14/02/2025 12:01

This won't happen. It was a one off because she had alot of money she would not normally have due to a back payment.

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But I do think it's best to be honest with her because if she does find herself with a big windfall in future years surely you wouldn't want that money to be wasted buying something that's not going to be used.

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Skittles2022 · 14/02/2025 12:04

FruitFlyPie · 14/02/2025 11:59

I'm with you OP. So what if OP doesn't want to use the cheaper version, when she prefers and can afford the premium one. A phone is pretty much our most used possession so it makes sense to be happy with the one you have.

This is how I feel and I'm so used to the S range . But I haven't even tried with the one DD got me. So im going to give it a go. It's there anyway so it won't hurt to try

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Skittles2022 · 14/02/2025 12:06

Needmorelego · 14/02/2025 12:02

@YesHonestly I just think it's ridiculous to not say something when it's such an expensive gift.

I don't want to hurt her feelings

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Needmorelego · 14/02/2025 12:10

Skittles2022 · 14/02/2025 12:06

I don't want to hurt her feelings

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Unless she is an incredibly sensitive person would her feelings really be that hurt?
Just tell her you love the fact she got you a phone and you think she is really generous. It's just this phone isn't quite right for you so you are thinking of changing it.

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Skittles2022 · 14/02/2025 12:14

Needmorelego · 14/02/2025 12:10

Unless she is an incredibly sensitive person would her feelings really be that hurt?
Just tell her you love the fact she got you a phone and you think she is really generous. It's just this phone isn't quite right for you so you are thinking of changing it.

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Yes they would be hurt . Maybe some people would not but dd would

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