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Dd got me a gift i don't like

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Skittles2022 · 14/02/2025 11:44

This is so awful. DD got me a phone for xmas it's a Samsung galaxy a55 . She was so proud. It was expensive for her to get. She had some money she would not normally have and wanted to get a more expensive gift than she normally would. She felt super pleased to give it to me.

The thing is I hate it. I have not even set it up. It feels heavy and kind of chunky. I have always had the Samsung S range at the moment I have the s22+ so I could do with an upgrade. But if I did it would be the S range.

The phone can't be taken back because its been open . I did start to set lt up . But I got confused and put it away. DD paid for the phone outright.

I dont want to hurt Dd feeling as so I was thinking about saying to her there was a fault with the phone so I took it to the shop and they said I could swap it . But really I will just upgrade my own phone.

I feel awful but I just can't get on with the phone.

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AfricanJacana · 14/02/2025 12:14

Skittles2022 · 14/02/2025 12:01

This won't happen. It was a one off because she had alot of money she would not normally have due to a back payment.

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If that's the case I would suck it up and use the phone. This lovely gesture from your daughter is worth more than having the perfect phone. Maybe each time you use the clunky phone it will remind you of your lovely daughter and the love she has shown to you by buying you the phone. People are worth more than objects.
Over time I'm sure you'll get used to it. And you can quietly sell.it on after a year or so...

Bexstar82 · 14/02/2025 12:15

I bought my kids a A55 each for Christmas as a much needed upgrade from their previous admittedly a lot older S7 and S9.
Yes it is quite heavy and thicker but having said that the software is up to date and with cases on they look and feel great. They look identical to the S Range and so much so I am thinking about getting one myself because on this model you actually get a SD card slot and a microphone jack which you don't on the S Range so it is a no brainer to me.

Ask your daughter to help you set it up and transfer your data. Pick a nice case and see.

Needmorelego · 14/02/2025 12:15

Skittles2022 · 14/02/2025 12:14

Yes they would be hurt . Maybe some people would not but dd would

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Ok you better keep it then.
I'm sure you will get used to it.

W0tnow · 14/02/2025 12:18

If you can’t get on with it, I think your idea to say there was a fault is a good one. Deacades of shit presents as a result is a bit of a stretch!

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 14/02/2025 12:19

I had that phone as a work phone. I literally never used it, it was awful.

How old is your daughter?

custardpyjamas · 14/02/2025 12:21

Skittles2022 · 14/02/2025 12:14

Yes they would be hurt . Maybe some people would not but dd would

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Yes it can be really upsetting, particularly if you've spent time searching and tried to get something you 'know' they will absolutely love, and then they look at you like you tried to poison them. So deflating.

Derbee · 14/02/2025 12:23

I think this is all a bit ridiculous to be honest.

You need to tell your daughter (KINDLY!) that you appreciate the thought, but it’s not the phone that you were planning on buying, and you are going to buy the model you wanted.

Really, it’s a multi problem problem. A) you should have raised a child who is able to accept a conversation like this B) you should have been honest earlier so that the phone could be returned.

There’s a good lesson to be learnt here about not buying expensive presents for people without consultation. A phone is a personal choice.

As it’s your fault that the phone can’t be returned, you need to give your daughter the money that she spent, so she’s not out of pocket.

TheThreeCheesesOfTheApocalypse44 · 14/02/2025 12:28

I've had both and they're very similar.......can't say I've noticed a difference in weight. Is it the phone case maybe ?

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Skittles2022 · 14/02/2025 12:29

Derbee · 14/02/2025 12:23

I think this is all a bit ridiculous to be honest.

You need to tell your daughter (KINDLY!) that you appreciate the thought, but it’s not the phone that you were planning on buying, and you are going to buy the model you wanted.

Really, it’s a multi problem problem. A) you should have raised a child who is able to accept a conversation like this B) you should have been honest earlier so that the phone could be returned.

There’s a good lesson to be learnt here about not buying expensive presents for people without consultation. A phone is a personal choice.

As it’s your fault that the phone can’t be returned, you need to give your daughter the money that she spent, so she’s not out of pocket.

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Really, it’s a multi problem problem. A) you should have raised a child who is able to accept a conversation like this B) you should have been honest earlier so that the phone could be returned

Thats a bit OTT

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ItGhoul · 14/02/2025 12:32

You haven't really tried it if you haven't even set it up. It will feel weird at first but honestly, after a while it will totally normal. When I switched from an iPhone SE to an iPhone Max I thought I wouldn't get used to it being massive and within a couple of weeks I was fine with it. Now when I pick up my DP's phone, the same model I used to have myself, I think 'This phone is so tiny'!

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Skittles2022 · 14/02/2025 12:32

TheThreeCheesesOfTheApocalypse44 · 14/02/2025 12:28

I've had both and they're very similar.......can't say I've noticed a difference in weight. Is it the phone case maybe ?

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I dont havec a phone case for the new one. It's definitely heavier . I will give it a go though. I will get a nice case and I may feel different once I have that. I will definitely try though.

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TheThreeCheesesOfTheApocalypse44 · 14/02/2025 12:35

It will feel weird at first as it's different and daft as it sounds it's almost like phones mould to the shape of out hands (( or vice versa )) I know when I use someone else's it feels weird and clunky.

Set it up and have both on the go for a while, dp has my cast off s22. It was a good phone but they're pretty much identical regarding ease of use etc.

strawberrybubblegum · 14/02/2025 12:37

I would use the phone, and be positive to her about it. Which includes setting it up and using it straight away and with enthusiasm.

It's not that big a deal to not have the very best, most perfect phone for a year or two surely? You're an adult - deal with it. And reframe it to yourself, so that you genuinely feel gratitude for how generous and thoughtful your amazing DD is.

Your relationship with her - and her sense of herself and her place in the world - are so much more important than exactly which model phone you have.

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