Annoyed at son's school

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Hi,

My son ( 14) is having some issues at school - school are concerned that he is being disruptive in class etc, and affecting the learning of others kids. I am not making excuses for him, but I think that they are too quick to criticise rather than look at what is making him behave like this.

I have contacted the school and have asked for meeting. My work commitment and younger kids etc mean that I am only available to meet at either 7.30am or 5.30pm. Someone from school has called to say that they can't accommodate this as it's outside of their normal hours, and can I make a meeting between 8 and 4.30pm!!

I am not happy - surely they have a duty to support working parents?

Couldn’t agree more, the entitled hypocrisy from the OP is shocking.

Yabu. Make it a priority. Tell work you have an important meeting with the school and need to leave early/come in a bit late. Ask someone to look after your younger children if that’s a factor.

so your time is more important than the teacher’s time?

Lolz 😂 Surely this is a joke OP?

Screwfix is open at the times you want, schools aren’t, never have been. Even those teachers who like to be in early and/or stay late aren’t in that early/staying that late.
They have their own families, tea to cook, lesson preparation/marking to do.

So take time off - say it is to see doctor if you like - or make an appointment to phone.

Many have noticed a degree of entitlement in expecting an appointment to suit you and your semi justification of his disruptive behaviour.

His behaviour does need to be sorted for his and others benefit - but you need to listen when you have your appointment - I imagine that your knowledge of the situation is 90% from him. He is probably telling the truth - but an edited truth, the highlights. Children do that.

Try to work with the school - they are experienced in boys’ behaviour, they see them every day. You’ve just seen 1(?)

I’d also add…. 14 is a difficult age. They’ve grown out of that junior school mentality of working hard for the teacher but haven’t got the maturity to realise that they are working for themselves and their own future. A no-mans land fuelled by hormones, insecurities, trying to look grown up, wanting friends and showing off etc etc.

You are being insanely entitled. Have you recently pissed off an 11+ tutor?

“I am not making excuses for him, but…”

…but you are.

Sorry OP but I am going to agree with the majority opinion. You can't make time to talk to the school because of your job - and yet you expect school staff to work outside their hours to accomodate you?????

As for the school being expected to look at what is making your son behave badly - isn't that your job?

Newsflash: the job of your child's school is not to keep you happy!

No they don’t need to support working parents but you need to support your son. Take leave if you have to but it’s your responsibility to make yourself available.

This has got to be a joke. Surely.

Teachers are often parents too. So their employer ie the school have a duty of care to support them as working parents? Ie stick to their hours?!

insane lack of self awareness and entitlement. rarely so shocked on here!

Please use this thread as a wake up call because if this is your thinking re a meeting, clearly you won’t be being rational about whether your son needs support for his behaviour.

The school have their working hours just like every other work place. They also have hundreds, possibly thousands of kids - if they support all of those kids' parents work hours they would be there 24/7 - you however can take annual leave. What do you say to your dentist/doctor - do you tell them they should accommodate working parents by changing their hours to suit you.

If you feel like there is a reason they are unaware of for your child's behaviour email them and inform them - in fact why have you not done this anyway if it is something that potentially impacts him so much he is disrupting the learning of others?
An explanation is not an excuse and he needs to amend his behaviour - you need to address that - perhaps you can pencil him in for a meeting at 7am

This!

It must be so frustrating having to deal with entitlement displayed by op rather than focus on teaching.

So true.

Wtf? You expect teachers to meet you at 7.30am!? Tell your son to stop acting like a dick in class .. Solved your problem! Poor teachers

I'll channel my inner Clinton Baptiste
I'm getting the word...Brat.

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How would you feel if your employer told you to have a meeting with someone at 7.30?

YABVU. Why can't Dad attend the meeting? Why can't you take time off? You are being incredibly inflexible.

Sadly there is a growing minority of parents like the OP. Complete entitlement - don’t read any letters then blame the school and make demands. Nothing is ever their or their offspring’s fault.

It is so draining and sad as often negative changes are then made which impacts on everyone because of a small number of entitled individuals who think the world revolves around them.

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Honestly I feel like soon there will be no teachers left.

So your time is more important than the teacher's time and your sons's 'reasons' for mucking about are more important than the education of the other children?

Don't those children 'have a right' to an education that your son is removing from them?

You need to check your entitlement here OP!! 😱 Their 'duty' is to teach. YOUR duty is to parent your child and ensure he behaves.

They have ABSOLUTELY NO DUTY to accommodate your working hours...especially if it means leaving their own families to do so! WTAF!

No wonder your son is a nightmare at school...he gets it from you!

Jesus!!😨