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Springiscoming112 · 2025-02-09T22:56:37+00:00

I've just seen this trend originally posted by Jennaececelia on Instagram. I love it, made me really emotional because it made me think what I would say to my younger self as I've come along way in a positive way but it has not been easy. Here's my version below and I'd love to see other peoples versions so feel free to post them 😊 I met my younger self for coffee at 11am she was 15 minutes late I was just on time I wore my hair in a pony her hair was down and long I had my wide leg jeans on and she wore her skinny jeans Her eyes filled with tears, she seemed lost and unsure I told her that her life was about to change and she would be a mum soon! She looked up and smiled briefly I didn't want to tell her how tough the journey here would be. She told me she hated her job I told her to stay strong as we take a different path and she will love it. We hugged goodbye and I told her to believe in herself because I knew she didn't right now. I hope we meet for coffee again soon.

ssd · 10/02/2025 20:13

A lot of really sad posts on this thread too.

BreakfastAtMilliways · 10/02/2025 21:16

I met my younger self in a box in the loft, lurking between the yellowing pages of several lined hardback books. Thinking she might need some sunlight, I took her downstairs to share a cup of tea, and decided to say nothing, just listen.

It’s a good antidote to nostalgia, listening to her. We think the 90s were such good fun, but I’d almost forgotten that she graduated into the worst job market for graduates to date. In a time when mental health conversations were invariably uncomfortable it’s not surprising she hid her depression and masked like mad. So much of it wasn’t her fault, yet she was condemning herself for a total lack of guidance in a world where no advice was worth much.

And it’s clear to me that she hadn’t yet developed proper break-up skills. If conversation dries up like that and he’s resorting to parroted sexual remarks, that’s not normal and not a good relationship. That ex she couldn’t shake off never fancied her, and it turned out he didn’t want children, and had a challenging mental health condition himself. Never mind, I say to her at last, we got there in the end, didn’t we? As she reaches the part where I meet my husband, I smile in recognition.

We finish our tea, I put the old diaries on the study bookshelf and pick up my phone. There’s a WhatsApp from my daughter. What time are we meeting this weekend? About 3pm Saturday, I reply, depending on traffic, Looking forward to it.

Salad666 · 10/02/2025 22:21

I eyeroll at this trend. Hard.

However, I'd much rather read this from "normal" people that have been through shit and had struggles and actually could teach their younger self something instead of these vapid, brainless influencers who think filming a video every few weeks or shilling things on social media is hard work.

SnowFrogJelly · 11/02/2025 01:10

Ick Ick and double ick

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Springiscoming112 · 11/02/2025 07:44

Salad666 · 10/02/2025 22:21

I eyeroll at this trend. Hard.

However, I'd much rather read this from "normal" people that have been through shit and had struggles and actually could teach their younger self something instead of these vapid, brainless influencers who think filming a video every few weeks or shilling things on social media is hard work.

I agree. I'd love to hear real stories

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Springiscoming112 · 11/02/2025 07:45

BreakfastAtMilliways · 10/02/2025 21:16

I met my younger self in a box in the loft, lurking between the yellowing pages of several lined hardback books. Thinking she might need some sunlight, I took her downstairs to share a cup of tea, and decided to say nothing, just listen.

It’s a good antidote to nostalgia, listening to her. We think the 90s were such good fun, but I’d almost forgotten that she graduated into the worst job market for graduates to date. In a time when mental health conversations were invariably uncomfortable it’s not surprising she hid her depression and masked like mad. So much of it wasn’t her fault, yet she was condemning herself for a total lack of guidance in a world where no advice was worth much.

And it’s clear to me that she hadn’t yet developed proper break-up skills. If conversation dries up like that and he’s resorting to parroted sexual remarks, that’s not normal and not a good relationship. That ex she couldn’t shake off never fancied her, and it turned out he didn’t want children, and had a challenging mental health condition himself. Never mind, I say to her at last, we got there in the end, didn’t we? As she reaches the part where I meet my husband, I smile in recognition.

We finish our tea, I put the old diaries on the study bookshelf and pick up my phone. There’s a WhatsApp from my daughter. What time are we meeting this weekend? About 3pm Saturday, I reply, depending on traffic, Looking forward to it.

Love this, thanks for sharing

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sageGreen81 · 11/02/2025 13:53

Those who have the ick, my therapist said today she spends so much of her time unravelling ultimately trauma from childhood and young adulthood and how those systems/homes/upbringings reflect undoubtedly who we are today but how we handle things now.

Speaking to your younger self, even 'taking' your younger self along with you is massively healing.

Damnloginpopup · 11/02/2025 14:20

I met my younger self today
I couldn't get away fast enough
What an absolute knob

skintt · 11/02/2025 14:40

sageGreen81 · 11/02/2025 13:53

Those who have the ick, my therapist said today she spends so much of her time unravelling ultimately trauma from childhood and young adulthood and how those systems/homes/upbringings reflect undoubtedly who we are today but how we handle things now.

Speaking to your younger self, even 'taking' your younger self along with you is massively healing.

which is why I don’t like therapy. It encourages self pity and rumination.

TheEllisGreyMethod · 11/02/2025 18:32

I actually quite like this trend, i would really love to go back to my younger self and tell her so much, but she was a bit of a dick and always thought she knew best, she wouldn't listen 🤣

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Springiscoming112 · 11/02/2025 19:46

skintt · 11/02/2025 14:40

which is why I don’t like therapy. It encourages self pity and rumination.

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You've obviously not engaged with it properly. It's not about self pity it's about working through the tough feelings and then feeling comfortable and happier about them. You have to be vulnerable to talk about it to get through the other side and to me that's strength not a weakness

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Springiscoming112 · 11/02/2025 19:47

sageGreen81 · 11/02/2025 13:53

Those who have the ick, my therapist said today she spends so much of her time unravelling ultimately trauma from childhood and young adulthood and how those systems/homes/upbringings reflect undoubtedly who we are today but how we handle things now.

Speaking to your younger self, even 'taking' your younger self along with you is massively healing.

Absolutely my last counsellor got me to do the Russian dolls and do some inner child work. It does really help

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scoobysnaxx · 11/02/2025 19:53

Wow this thread is full of mean old pricks.

@Motorhead75 your writing (if you really did write it) was very moving. You should be a writer.

Don't like it move along.

namechangeGOT · 11/02/2025 20:03

I met my younger self. I told her to not marry him and wait until 2017 to meet HIM.

justanotherposterfrom · 11/02/2025 21:04

@Motorhead75 I liked your post; very well written. I liked the reference to being 'grey' and 'invisible'; this is, unfortunately the way many people feel as they age, I recall my DGs fury, at feeling invisible as she aged. She had always been in charge of things, and very powerful in her life's work and personality. This comes to if not all, then many of us. 50 is young though, to feel this way. I think the way you wrote it is a good warning to all those who are young, and think they'll never age, never feel left behind by youth, forgotten. I hope you wrote this from your observation of others, rather than your own situation.

To the doubters out there, I'd rather risk responding to an AI piece than not respond to a human whose words have touched me, and others. Thank you for your post, it gives one pause...