Been with my partner for 5 years. Living together in my place for 2.Both in our 40s. I'm a single mum to a teenager so need some time with son too but he's quite independent at this stage as he's 15.
Anyways, partner works in restaurant so works mainly evenings and weekends. I work 9-5 job. Was looking forward to a rare Saturday off together , but he decided to spend day at male friend's house watching football & drinking beer. Been through all this last year and he said he'll only see his friends weekdays when im working. Our only time together is dinners few times a week and watching netflix. Other than that he's either working or out with friends.
Today i told him that i was upset and that we could have spent nice afternoon together and he said he's known his friend before me, hasn't seen him in months and big match going on. He said that we already spend lots of evenings together plus that at least he's not out drinking in bars like he was doing last year (had few arguments about this last year but then he seemed to have understood my irritation about this habit).
He later booked table for us in a restaurant and stood me up. Said I was there early which wasn't true and he also said nobody saw me at the restaurant. Not true as i was there. Then he said he arrived after I left. Was waiting at table for 45 mins. At 1am he finally admitted he was out drinking with friends and didn't come back home until 5am. Every few months he goes binge drinking with friends.said he wouldn't do it again when we talked last year but keeps happening. Said he was down as was his sister's death anniversary. So why didn't he confide in me instead of drinking with friends?
Also, he went over to this same friend's place straight after work the day before and I only found out coz I texted to see what time he was going to be back home from work. Said friend texted late so didn't get a chance to tell me. He got back home at 11pm.
Can't complain re housework etc as he does do all that around the house, shopping, cooking etc mainly when im at work.
Do you think I'm being irrational or needy by asking him not to spend whole day with a friend (whom I know) on the only day we're off together? And since we've been together for quite a long time and he apologised a few times should I give him another chance?