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Anyone Celebrating Valentines Day?

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RabbitsRock · 07/02/2025 11:45

DH & I exchange cards & he always buys a dozen red roses plus sometimes chocolates (I’ve requested white Lindt truffles this year as they’re on offer at Asda). I don’t usually get him anything except maybe some chocolate. He also buys flowers for DD16. We’ll have steak for tea & I have a bottle of alcohol free Freixenet cava to try. Hopefully it’s nicer than the fizz I had on NYE which tasted like manure!

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MaltipooMama · 07/02/2025 14:34

@Verlaine how strange, my partner won't be remotely pissed off and I wouldn't be either, we always do little special things for each other throughout the year and celebrate our own special days and occasions however this time I'm combining doing something nice with Valentine's Day to surprise him. I don't think we'd be with each other if either of us was the type to be pissed off about something like that!

Verlaine · 07/02/2025 14:37

But when he tried to do something nice for you on Valentine’s Day you say you insisted not to do it again. Now you’re doing it. He’ll probably just feel deflated

Saturdaynightlive · 07/02/2025 14:40

Yes, I love valentines Day. We both have the day off, so we are going to a local hotel to use the amazing spa. Followed by a late lunch & cocktails. I've got him a selection of his favorite things, and I'm hoping for a diamond (lost my engagement ring a few yrs ago). I've got a few bits for the kids, too. We do nice things together & for each other through the year, but I never pass up the chance of some cheesy romance & hotel sex.

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MaltipooMama · 07/02/2025 14:42

@Verlaine no, he definitely won't - I'm confident in the knowledge that I know him better and he will love it. He's the father of my children and my best friend so I definitely know him well enough to be able to determine this appropriately myself 😊

aspidernamedfluffy · 07/02/2025 14:43

No, I never have. I just don't see the point of it.

nodramaplz · 07/02/2025 14:43

No, it's commercialised crap!
I wouldn't be happy if hubby spent a lot of money of flowers or chocolates.
I'd be happy with a share bar of Cadburys caramel.
He treats me so well all year through...

Singlefor2025 · 07/02/2025 14:46

Unlikely, see username 😂

mydogisthebest · 07/02/2025 14:48

We are going away for the night. Will give each other a card and go for a nice meal. Plenty of restaurants don't have Valentines menus and put their prices up.

Makes me laugh every year all the posters stating what rubbish Valentines Day is and how they show love every day. Well so do me and DH but we also like to celebrate Valentines, our birthdays, our wedding anniversary and the day we met 45 years ago. We often buy little gifts for each other and DH regularly buys me flowers

mydogisthebest · 07/02/2025 14:51

nodramaplz · 07/02/2025 14:43

No, it's commercialised crap!
I wouldn't be happy if hubby spent a lot of money of flowers or chocolates.
I'd be happy with a share bar of Cadburys caramel.
He treats me so well all year through...

Well there are plenty of things to buy each other apart from flowers or chocolates.

Some years we buy each other a gift, some years we go away, some years we just have a nice meal either at home or out.

Over the years DH has bought me perfume, books, earrings, house plants.

He also treats me very well all year as I do him.

Borntorunfast · 07/02/2025 14:52

Of course we are - a chance to have a lovely meal out, write (usually very funny) cards to each other, and be a bit appreciative, what's not to like? We've celebrated it for 22 years and with all the shit that life throws / has thrown at us, not to mention the daily grind, we both enjoy having a focus where we both get to enjoy ourselves.

The 'oh it's all commercial tat' brigade are missing out. It's not about 'stuff'. It's about time and attention and love.

Fawn87 · 07/02/2025 14:55

We exchange cards and a small gift, then have a drink and a nice meal together in the evening. People can do what they like but in my opinion I think the over the top gifts and going out specifically is more for teenage and young couples.

StMarie4me · 07/02/2025 14:55

Each to their own. But to me, Valentine's Day is for telling someone that you like them, romantically. Either anonymously, or named. It's not for buying chocolates for your kids! I don't get that at all?
It's not really fur existing you ok es but I do get that people want to treat their partner. But kids? Ew, no!

mydogisthebest · 07/02/2025 14:59

Borntorunfast · 07/02/2025 14:52

Of course we are - a chance to have a lovely meal out, write (usually very funny) cards to each other, and be a bit appreciative, what's not to like? We've celebrated it for 22 years and with all the shit that life throws / has thrown at us, not to mention the daily grind, we both enjoy having a focus where we both get to enjoy ourselves.

The 'oh it's all commercial tat' brigade are missing out. It's not about 'stuff'. It's about time and attention and love.

The "oh it's all commercial tat" and "we show love all year" think they are superior

TheChosenTwo · 07/02/2025 15:07

No we don’t celebrate although sometimes dh buys me flowers.
It’s a Friday this year, dh will cook us a nice steak dinner as he does every Friday and we’ll eat it with ds. Dd will most likely be out with her boyfriend.
I always saw valentines as something for teenagers or anyone in the first flushes of love, not long established relationships. But each to their own, if you enjoy it then obviously it’s fine!

2025willbemytime · 07/02/2025 15:19

StMarie4me · 07/02/2025 14:55

Each to their own. But to me, Valentine's Day is for telling someone that you like them, romantically. Either anonymously, or named. It's not for buying chocolates for your kids! I don't get that at all?
It's not really fur existing you ok es but I do get that people want to treat their partner. But kids? Ew, no!

My now ex MIL used to send VD cards to my kids.

Saturdaynightlive · 07/02/2025 15:24

@StMarie4me - what's Eww about buying your kids some little treats you know they'll love & telling them how much you love them?. I've always made a big deal of Valentine's heart shaped pancakes, balloons & decorations, a little teddy and some sweets. Now my kids are a little older, Do they find it cheesey & cringe? Absolutely !But do they love it & would be disappointed if I didn't? You betcha. I think you should take the chance to spoil people you love whenever you can, including Feb 14th.

Fawn87 · 07/02/2025 15:29

Saturdaynightlive · 07/02/2025 15:24

@StMarie4me - what's Eww about buying your kids some little treats you know they'll love & telling them how much you love them?. I've always made a big deal of Valentine's heart shaped pancakes, balloons & decorations, a little teddy and some sweets. Now my kids are a little older, Do they find it cheesey & cringe? Absolutely !But do they love it & would be disappointed if I didn't? You betcha. I think you should take the chance to spoil people you love whenever you can, including Feb 14th.

Are you American? I think maybe it's more of a thing over there than it is in the UK from what I've seen on social media. Some people buy into it here but it's not really the "done" thing. Personally I don't think kids need it. They get enough for Christmas, birthdays , Halloween and Easter. Valentines is for romantic couples and I don't think kids need to be a part of that but each to their own.

Shoxfordian · 07/02/2025 15:35

We're having a nice dinner at home and a few drinks, bought each other some presents

Saturdaynightlive · 07/02/2025 15:36

@Fawn87 -.I'm British, but I live in North America now.
I grew up in England, and my mum was big on Valentines Day. She'll still send a card just to say I love you.

alloutofcareunits · 07/02/2025 15:42

We got married on Valentine's Day so yes, we celebrate as it's also our anniversary. Usually a meal out or holiday/weekend break depending what else we have planned for the year. We buy gifts but would anyway for an anniversary. 24 years this year

doyouknowthemuffinman42 · 07/02/2025 15:45

Yes co parent
Ex DH taking me and dc out for dinner .. can't wait!'
Then Bridget jones in the cinema alone 🥳

Tessasanderson · 07/02/2025 15:45

Table booked months ago for dinner. Chocolates,flowers and card usually

Auburngal · 07/02/2025 16:17

Awaiting the AIBU posts next Friday "My DH didn't buy me any flowers", "My BF spent £25 on roses", "Went to my favourite restaurant and didn't have my fave pudding due to set menu lark"

Liv999 · 07/02/2025 16:43

Saturdaynightlive · 07/02/2025 15:36

@Fawn87 -.I'm British, but I live in North America now.
I grew up in England, and my mum was big on Valentines Day. She'll still send a card just to say I love you.

I think that's lovely 💗

Liv999 · 07/02/2025 16:45

DH usually buys me flowers and I get him chocolates, i think its nice to mark it in some way, our wedding anniversary is the next day so we usually go for dinner/wknd away for that

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