When is it time to just embrace the grey?

[MeinKraft]

I know the proper sensible answer is ‘whenever you want to’ but I don’t know if i want to. I think grey hair looks really cool on other people but on me it just makes me look even more frumpy. I’m quite fed up that i’m not even 40 yet (but on the cusp of it) and i suddenly have a head full of greys and arthritis and haphazard periods 😅 I thought this was all about 15 years away!

Anyway. Should i grow out my greys? Keep dying them and risk looking daft? What did you do with yours? I’m not talking about few nice silver streaks, i’m talking a full head of grey and the non grey bits are mouse brown 🤔

So you look at her and think she's too lazy to dye her hair and presumably that means you think she doesn't care about her appearance?
I know not everyone with grey hair looks like her, but when posters make sweeping statements they are including those that do.
Too lazy to do something implies it's something that everybody should do, like exercise, but not all do. Do you judge those who choose not to wear make-up as well?

Agreed. Similar situation here with first white hairs appearing when I was 16. "Constant miserable cycle" regarding dyeing just about sums it up. Stopped over three years ago. Am now 58 and have had the occasional urge to dye it again, until I remember just how much I hated the whole rigmarole.

It depends on the individual and their perspective.

Mine is dark blonde and I'll go snowy white so I'll just leave it to it.

Says the person who laughed at my thread because my elderly mum colours her hair !! Do you find that shameful ??

Do you think that about men with grey hair, too?

Such misogynistic bullshit on this thread.

Never. Grey hair looks terrible and is so ageing. I'm staying chestnut brown as long as possible!

I'm 61 and my hair has been dyed plum colour for decades. I couldn't be arsed growing it out so had a buzz cut on Dec 31st which revealed a head of silver white fuzz,now becoming a silver white crop!
I rather like it!

I'm a natural blonde in my late 60s. I refer to my hair colour as "ash blonde in parts" 😉

I grew all mine out over the last two years because of the hideous expense of hairdressing. The front either side of my face is dead white and the back is light mouse. I have waist length hair. I look like an ageing hippy.
It's just as well I live in Glastonbury.
I have no idea what to do with it. It grows too fast for any kind of style to last for more than 5 minutes so I'm off to get 6 inches chopped off for now. It will have grown back in 6 months.

I think it depends. I stopped dying mine when I turned 40, at which time I was about 30% grey, the rest dark brown. In the past couple of years I have embraced the joys of unnatural colours - I'm almost 57, about 70% grey and I don't need to bleach if I pick my colours carefully. I tend to be purple in winter, teal in summer. Both fade out in a way that looks good for a long time. I take the odd sidestep into mid-blue.

But I do have thick, springy hair and very good skin that makes me look younger than I am., and no tolerance for the idea that you have to dress for your age.

I can't dye my hair after developing a dye allergy in my 30s. So I have foils and pre-lightener on my darker natural bits to blend in the grey and make it look more blonde. It works really well.

The Glaze conditioner looks like it would be worth a try! Do you find it has the advertised gloss effect as well as the temp colouring?

@Gremlinsateit
It definitely does the job! I use it in the shower like regular conditioner, you just need to leave it on longer and make sure you have an old flannel to rest it on - it's mucky stuff 😂
It makes hair super glossy - I use the clear one when my hair is freshly dyed.
It's normally 2 for £20 at Superdrug, so I get one of each and they last for ages.

Thanks @Harvestmoon49 ! I’ll give it a try :)

I started going grey in my 20s and just went with it. I'm 60 now and get a lot of admiration for my hair, have done for years actually. Sometimes people stop me in the street and praise my hair. It's actually just grey hair, but does make me feel good

If you go to a reputable hairdresser, they'll match it up for you.

I think blonde looks better than dyeing hair dark as people get older. It only looks straw like if it's not looked after. The number of people who don't bother using conditioner on their hair amazes me.