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Born in 80s. Anyone else's parents never take them to the GP?

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lumpybumper · 26/01/2025 09:21

So this dawned on me when I was trying to sleep last night. I was born in the 80s and I remember the first time I ever got taken to the GP I was 12 with an ear infection. I must have been poorly at some point before then, but I was never taken.
I wasn't neglected in any way. Nice upbringing, holidays, hobbies.
I remember a period of when I was 7 where I would throw up every single day for pretty much a year when I woke up in the morning. My mum used to tell me it was because I "had worked myself up" and used to watch me throw up every morning and then take me to school as normal. Looking back it was probably anxiety, but I never got taken to the GP. She used to tell my teacher I had thrown up every morning and no-one batted an eye lid. If my child threw up every day for a year I would 100% be at the doctors!
Also I developed a severe mental health issue aged 10 which still affects me now. Again, never got any help or taken to the GP. If anything my parents ripped the piss out of the strange things I did and behaviours I showed for years and years.
Did parents in the 80s just not bother with GPs? It blows my mind. My kids get taken at least once a year for one issue or another, infections, rashes, etc etc.

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StrawberryTheCat · 26/01/2025 23:43

ToBeOrNotToBee · 26/01/2025 09:44

90s baby but raised by grandparent.
As a kid I suddenly developed stretch marks EVERYWHERE, not just areas you'd expect. I also would fall over randomly, my ankles would give way just crossing the road. I would wake up crying in pain from my bones. On school trips I remember fainting.
Not once was I taken to the GP. I was instead told to toughen up and made fun of for being weak.
In my mid-30s I found out I have EDS, POTS and I just get angry.
It was neglect.

Oh I'm so sorry, that's awful. I wish you'd had the care you deserved.

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Blue278 · 27/01/2025 08:23

Feeling a bit guilty here. I have three adult children and only one of them went to the GP once in their whole childhood. As far as I know they were and are happy and healthy.

Born in 60s. I only went to the Dr once as a child. As an adult I went for maternity stuff.

As a manager it seems that my team are always at the GP. For strange reasons. Like to discuss their menopause symptoms or their cold. Like. Just Google it and wait for it to go away! 😬

JoJothesquirrel · 27/01/2025 08:27

I do think the attitudes were different. I got thrown from a horse and knocked out. I know I was unconscious because I remember being shaken awake again. No one thought to take me to be checked over. I got a life home, and my mum put me in a hot shower. Obviously I was fine but the thought of being knocked unconscious and in agony for days but not seeing a dr is crazy.

Sortumn · 27/01/2025 09:31

I think I went enough.
I look back though and I can see overuse of antibiotics. Put on the pill at 14 for painful periods (it did nothing). Handed a great big tub of ibuprofen by the GP and told not to overdo them as they can cause rebound headaches. Now they only sell them in 12s.

So I'm not sure my parents or GP got it right in allowing that.

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