Don't really feel alive after 65..🤔

[wavingfuriously]

Any reasons to be cheerful that you can think of ?

Must depend on your health and finances surely? I'm approaching 60 rapidly so a bit behind you but pretty happy, wish I had more energy but apart from that...

Lots! Feeling of warm sunshine on your face, eating a freshly baked cookie with coffee, putting on cosy clean socks. Of course those things don't feel as good if your mood is low.

Is there something affecting your mood?

You don't need to go to work any more and your time is your own. No boss, no alarm clock, no worry about redundancy and no exhaustion.
You can do all the things you did not have time for when working. You can keep busy with hobbies, volunteering, keeping fit, days out, babysitting grandchildren - whatever suits you.

I'm 70 and not in a bad place.

After a very bad do with my back, for the first time in my life I am consciously grateful for being in good health - loads of things wrong, but well-managed.
I should say I didn't set out to be grateful, just became aware that I was.

I see that this is a not-quite-as-shit-as-it-was perspective but it helps me.

I sometimes wonder if it is almost kind of looks based? If you look in the mirror and still look "young" and / or vibrant then that affects your self image and your vision of yourself and your life and future whereas if you look "old" then you feel like you don't recognise yourself and you have the constant visual reminder that time is running out. I suppose this is why many over 40 - 50 lean into fitness for that vibrancy.

Depends on your individual situation but, in the case of my 68 year old SIL;
All time and money related, with a big dollop of good health but,
Travel
Quality time with her DH/friends
grandchildren
hobbies being enjoyed
ability to get involved in a cause that is very important to her.
My SIL has made retirement very desirable to me!

You didn’t die before you retired

Honestly, what an insensitive post.

To be fair OP could be depressed, not uncommon in older people at all especially after retirement.

Either you are an optimist who looks at the joy in each day or what the future may hold (as some days are hard)
Or you circle the drain complaining that life is hard.

You are using a device that connects to half the planet. That in itself would have been unthinkable even 20 years ago. There are plans for a manned mission to Mars or at least putting a human back on the moon.

The human spirit, if you look, continues to amaze. We are social animals, it's the secret to our success, teamwork.

Or you can navel gaze and make it all about just you. Your choice, and just to have that choice is again something you wouldn't have had in previous not so long ago years, actually many still don't have that now. Perhaps that could be part of your mission to find joy, be part of what is needed to give choice and freedom to the millions of women who still have to use rags and sit in huts along when menstruating. But I am guessing as that's not about you, you wouldn't be interested.

There are many reasons to enjoy being alive at any age.

Defo not being insensitive to those 65+. I do have problems but had them for a long time. Am pretty healthy but noticing recently definite lack of energy- perhaps that is why feeling bit depressed atm. Don't have lots of money but don't think you need loads to have fulfilling life (in answer to a few replies)

I feel as if I’m past my sell my date. Daily pain, constant fatigue have shrunk my life. A day out = at least two in bed, too knackered to concentrate on anything.
Not a major illness and it’s not going to kill me but it's affected every part of my life for 10 years. But it could be worse 🤷‍♀️

My dogs, my children/grandchildren, friends old and new. Time to learn new things, take up new hobbies.
Staying interested in the world around us.
Being grateful I have made it to 70 - my beloved husband didn't, so I need to make the most of every opportunity.

Oh don't be daft fgs

58 here. DH took early retirement 18 months ago, hasn't regretted it. Looking forward to not working and dealing with all the c..p that it entails. Also doing more of what I enjoy, reading, exercise classes, countryside walking, a joint hobby shared with DH and spending more time with all of our friends - very lucky we have a fair few great friends. I'd like to help with riding for the disabled, which surprises everyone as I'm cat person.

I do have one health concern to be aware of, but diet and exercise can help, so it won't stop me right now.

Nearly 64 here and still loving life. 3 young grandchildren who i see most weeks; a big group of lovely girlfriends I go to the theatre, walking, out for meals etc with; a local band I jam and gig with; holidays with my OH (2 long haul trips planned this year); voluntary work which brings me into contact with primary school children - to name just a few things.
I'm lucky I'm still healthy - some minor issues but i still run 10km/week and do a couple of weight training sessions at the gym to try and maintain my strength and balance.

I'm an optimistic person so I try to live every day to the full

If you are single, and if your children have left home, you don't have to answer to anyone about your behaviour. Just don't tell.

But I am guessing as that's not about you, you wouldn't be interested.

Your post says a lot more about you than it does about the OP.

You can write black-and-white, reductive sarcasm, show a little empathy, or keep scrolling. Unfortunately you chose the first option.

You started off quite well but wtaf is that last but one paragraph all about??

I'm 62.

My get up and go did that thing at 50, with menopause.

Yes, I've been on HRT since then.

But, honestly, I have lost any zest for life. I just can't be bothered. Hobbies I loved seem too much faff; travel (of which I've done a lot in the past) seems like a hassle, especially if it involves flying.

I work 'bank' in an easy enough job, I have a good DH, DSs still at home, one working, one post uni but still unemployed who I'm a bit worried about. I have some good friends, I'm not isolated.

I'm overweight, but I don't do much exercise, tho I know I should.

I don't think I'm depressed as such, and I also know a GP wouldn't take me seriously if I even suggested my flat mood might be 'more'.

Others listing their 'blessings' doesn't help!!

Gosh, surely as you age you are greatful for what you have. I am 59 if I wake up on my 60th bithday I will be thankful for being alive, my family and my friends.
Seeing young people die in their 40s of cancer, friends losing their battles I am grateful for what I have.
But to be fair I have been lucky in life. Comfortable financially, a happy marriage, family and friends. Life isn't perfect there have been some down times and there are some challenges but today life is good and I for one are very grateful.

I'm around that age and life is good. I have a lovely family, grandchildren I adore, good friends and reasonable health. I was only thinking in the last few days how enjoyably unpressured my life is since retirement.
As others have said, life is never without challenges, I have friends fighting cancer or other health and family issues so consider myself lucky so far.
It's easy to see the things we don't have in life and feel down rather than seeing the blessings

I no longer have to spend much of my waking life in jobs which, for most of my working life, bored me to tears. I have no family, will be renting for the rest of my days, all my lovely cats have gone, and I have no really close friends - but I love and enjoy life. There are so many things to be cheerful about, especially when I see people with troubles in their lives. I'm grateful to wake up each day.

Enjoy the small things, your free time ( if you are retired), listening to a good podcast whilst being in a nice warm bed at night, watching a good film, going out for a nice coffee / lunch, planning your next holiday, getting up at whatever time you want without setting the alarm
Get some light cardio exercise and do strength (lift small weights) training, you will feel more vibrant and energised.
Put some effort into your appearance, it will boost your confidence and give you a pep in your step

@NattyTurtle59 you sound lovely x

Thank you x