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I want to cry/ life/ill

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Whoami2025 · 18/01/2025 15:16

I really want to cry . I have been ill since new year. I have had something very similar to covid . Which i caught of my GS which then got passed on to my children after 4 or 5 days everyone started getting better. But I didn't. I had the covid type symptoms and on top I could not catch my breath to talk, my legs are weak and shakey I can feel myself trembling. I'm litterly pissing myself. I have to lean on the wall so I don't fall the gp said it was just this flu/covid thing .

I left it few more days and I rang again I litterly cried down the phone and said I can't take anymore . I have the above symptoms. My chest hurts. It feels like ice i feel like I can't breath and im breathless all the time. I said I was scared they would ask me to go to the surgery but I can't. She was understanding and has given me antibiotics to see if they help . Day 3 seemed to have made a difference so I guess they are doing something.

I'm on day 4 now but I still feel awful. I'm waking up in the night fighting for breath and I can feel my heart racing. It takes me ages to recover from iI try and sleep proped up but I don't think I stay there for long . When I sit up on the side of it bee I'm very breathless again it's like I can't get my breath back and it's ice cold in my chest .

My kids have not been to school since Christmas. I can't get them in. The school know why I have been completely honest with them.

My secondary child was of ill at first as well but she recovered fast like the others. But she won't get herself up for school. She should but she won't. I can't get up the stairs to her and I can't shout because of the breathing . Dd does not seem to give a toss how hard it is. Some I don't think she understands like how can you get breath just sitting on your bed etc.

Her school did a welfare check a few days back i couldn't even speak to them. I just kept saying yeah. I don't know what i said yeah to . They could see how bad things were.

I'm going to tell dd she's going to get herself up. If she does not I will tell the school she's been taking advantage of the situation i will be completely honest with them. Then I'm hoping if someone who's not me she will take it on board .

My primary school children's school know why they have been off they have been fine with it. But im going to ring and see if there can be a deeper conversation possibly something put in place.

I'm not looking for solutions. I'm not one of them parents. Who have lots of friends,neighbours, school mums, car, lifts,money for ubers ,money for childcare etc. As I said im not looking for a solution that's why I'm going to reach out to the school.

I purely wrote this because I have had enough of being so ill and struggling with the most basic stuff. I feel like its messing me up mentally and emotionally to because its gone on so long. I just wanted to express things . I will ignore anything nasty I cant cope with them just now .

I did message my adult son. But I did not want to put things on him. So I posted here instead.

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UncertainWife · 18/01/2025 15:21

Poor you! I'm ill too and it's taking a huge toll on my mental health.

I hope the school or council can put something in place for you, it really sounds like you need support.

Whoami2025 · 18/01/2025 16:58

UncertainWife · 18/01/2025 15:21

Poor you! I'm ill too and it's taking a huge toll on my mental health.

I hope the school or council can put something in place for you, it really sounds like you need support.

Im hoping I can just suddenly shake everything of . I doubt it though. All theses illnesses never used to be I'm sure .

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UncertainWife · 18/01/2025 17:02

I'm sure you'll get better eventually, it's been going on a long time but Covid etc is so full-on and long lasting now. My sister in law couldn't walk for about three weeks (exhausted, breathing difficulties) then got gradually better and is fine now.

It is very tough on you and your kids while you wait though.

anxietyaboutanxiety · 18/01/2025 17:11

Sending hugs, we've all had this flu bug and some of us can't shift it completely. It's been since before Christmas on and off 😭

One thing I wanted to say might help is calling the doctors and asking them to prescribe you a blue inhaler to help with your breathing Flowers

Whatevershallidowithmylife · 18/01/2025 17:17

Sounds like you've got proper flu, until you've had it you can't understand how awful it actually is. Hopefully you'll start to feel better soon

Whoami2025 · 18/01/2025 18:51

I'm going to try and sleep in my recliner chair tonight. I doubt i will actually sleep. But I can't stand the thought of waking in the night gasping for breath and then spending a long time catching my breath as if I been running when all I did was sleep.

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Whoami2025 · 19/01/2025 17:13

Why do my feet have all theses red veiny bits . They don't normally and they are ice/numb

I want to cry/ life/ill
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Uta100 · 19/01/2025 17:18

Sounds like classic long covid tbh. My DSis has had it for over 2 years, so please get plenty of rest to help you heal & don’t push your body.

Destiny123 · 19/01/2025 17:23

Doi Dr. Have u actually seen a Dr or were your abx given on a phone consult? If so you really need to be seen. It's a pretty poor photo but if you look mottled (Google image it) and peripherally cold you need assessing f2f asap

Notmanyleftnow · 19/01/2025 17:30

It looks like you are not getting enough oxygen to your extremities. I think you should get to A and E now.
Don't put it off.
Good luck.

Msmoonpie · 19/01/2025 17:46

Has anyone actually seen you in person ?

If you are struggling to breathe you need to be seen urgently - either by an out of hours GP or at a hospital.

Whoami2025 · 19/01/2025 18:01

Msmoonpie · 19/01/2025 17:46

Has anyone actually seen you in person ?

If you are struggling to breathe you need to be seen urgently - either by an out of hours GP or at a hospital.

I'm on antibiotics and have improved compared to what i was i still have 2.5 days of antibiotics left. Im thinking i may contact GP again tomorrow. If get seen I will get an uber there and back

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emmax1980 · 19/01/2025 19:21

Get well soon

Moier · 19/01/2025 19:35

A doctor needs to come out and see you.. listen to your chest.. sounds like you could do with some steroids..keep ringing surgery and insisting.. as Dr Khan on Lorraine keeps saying.. GPs are definitely doing home visits.

Ivegotmyhappyfaceontodayles · 19/01/2025 19:48

OP I really feel your pain. I'm in week 3 of something very similar and it's starting to make me panic. I just get so out of breath so quickly and my heart races. No snottiness but have dragging cold pain in my chest and back, dry cough and really breathless enough to make me feel faint. I've had chills for about 2 weeks and am also sweating a ridiculous amount (soaking my clothes and bedsheets through) and although I'm drinking plenty feel really dehydrated. I've also got a rash like that on my torso and arms. I saw the doc who gave me antibiotics but they did nothing so guess it's viral. Have a good day then 2 steps back and just feel panicky and defeated all the time. My DC have been to school ok at least, really feel your pain and hope you can see a doc very soon x

Ivegotmyhappyfaceontodayles · 19/01/2025 20:06

Ivegotmyhappyfaceontodayles · 19/01/2025 19:48

OP I really feel your pain. I'm in week 3 of something very similar and it's starting to make me panic. I just get so out of breath so quickly and my heart races. No snottiness but have dragging cold pain in my chest and back, dry cough and really breathless enough to make me feel faint. I've had chills for about 2 weeks and am also sweating a ridiculous amount (soaking my clothes and bedsheets through) and although I'm drinking plenty feel really dehydrated. I've also got a rash like that on my torso and arms. I saw the doc who gave me antibiotics but they did nothing so guess it's viral. Have a good day then 2 steps back and just feel panicky and defeated all the time. My DC have been to school ok at least, really feel your pain and hope you can see a doc very soon x

Forgot to say that I'm also having awful headaches for about 2 weeks on and off tho paracetamol does take them off. My household has gone to pot and I've had to ask my DC (15 and 13) to do the fundamental stuff (take bins out, make their own meals, run errands) which luckily they've been mostly fab about. Also my sister and one friend have been amazing helping where they could. I really want this to be over and I'll definitely get the flu jab this year.

ImmortalSnowman · 19/01/2025 20:13

Can your adult son or his partner stay with your kids and the other one get you to A&E? If the antibiotics seem to be helping you really should be seen in case it's bacterial pneumonia. Cousin thought she had flu in November and it wouldn't shift, she's still not fully recovered from the pneumonia. She could barely talk either.

Please call 111 and get up to A&E

Runningshorts · 19/01/2025 20:24

You've described my experience of original covid in March 2020. Get a doctor to listen to your chest asap, you may need a blue inhaler like I did or some help in hospital. Hope you're feeling better soon

Notmanyleftnow · 20/01/2025 08:54

How are you doing @OP?
Concerned about you

Whoami2025 · 20/01/2025 18:40

Notmanyleftnow · 20/01/2025 08:54

How are you doing @OP?
Concerned about you

Thankyou for asking . I'm getting there. I feel better than I did so its definitely going in the right direction. I managed to sleep in my bed last night . I did wake a couple of times. But I wasn't gasping for breath like before . Breathing was a little fast but definitely not as bad. I'm also OK when sitting on my butt. But I still can't walk around the house and do stuff. Cook in the kitchen etc . As soon as I do my breathing gos fast/shallow and my legs go shakey . I'm going to call gp tomorrow because I'm almost out of antibiotics. And i don't think they have done their full thing.

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Dustinsfrontteeth · 20/01/2025 18:55

I have recently been in hospital with pneumonia and really struggled to sleep due to the pain and coughing. The pneumonia nurse recommended making an upside down V shape with two pillows to support your ribs then one across the top for your head. It really helped me stay In a comfortable position. I hope you feel better soon. x

justletmegetmyglasses · 20/01/2025 18:57

I'm really concerned you might have pneumonia, you really need a a doctor to sound your chest and possibly an x-ray. Can you call NHS 24? this has really gone on far too long. Do you have an A & E close by?

Notmanyleftnow · 20/01/2025 20:04

Whoami2025 · 20/01/2025 18:40

Thankyou for asking . I'm getting there. I feel better than I did so its definitely going in the right direction. I managed to sleep in my bed last night . I did wake a couple of times. But I wasn't gasping for breath like before . Breathing was a little fast but definitely not as bad. I'm also OK when sitting on my butt. But I still can't walk around the house and do stuff. Cook in the kitchen etc . As soon as I do my breathing gos fast/shallow and my legs go shakey . I'm going to call gp tomorrow because I'm almost out of antibiotics. And i don't think they have done their full thing.

I'm so glad you replied.
I am recovering from bacterial pneumonia myself and the breathlessness you describe is very familiar. I am fortunate that my antibiotics worked. I also happen to have asthma so inhaler has helped. Very glad to hear you will be returning to the doctor tomorrow.
Get well soon!

Whoami2025 · 20/01/2025 20:39

justletmegetmyglasses · 20/01/2025 18:57

I'm really concerned you might have pneumonia, you really need a a doctor to sound your chest and possibly an x-ray. Can you call NHS 24? this has really gone on far too long. Do you have an A & E close by?

They symptoms were definitely very similar. But things are starting to easy up . So I'm going to call gp probably tomorrow as that my last day of antibiotics. Just incase I need to be on them slightly longer or something

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Whoami2025 · 20/01/2025 20:42

Notmanyleftnow · 20/01/2025 20:04

I'm so glad you replied.
I am recovering from bacterial pneumonia myself and the breathlessness you describe is very familiar. I am fortunate that my antibiotics worked. I also happen to have asthma so inhaler has helped. Very glad to hear you will be returning to the doctor tomorrow.
Get well soon!

Yes I will ring them and explain the antibiotics have definitely made am improvement but im still struggling. I don't want to run out . Then get ill again because I needed them a little longer

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