Are you actually more attractive than you think?

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The old adage is that people always think they’re much more attractive than they actually are. But are there some people who are more attractive than they think they are? Perhaps due to low self esteem etc.

I actually think I'm reasonably attractive until I catch my reflection. And then I remember I'm a saggy, baggy 50 year old mum ))) But in my head I'm still a 30-something skinny blond stunner - its like there is a reset button, the longer I dont look in the mirror the more I forget what I actually look like.

I'm definitely fugly but I don't care anymore!

i just assume im average, then focus on the charm

Exactly the same. In my head I’m still the dolly bird (can you say that these days?)

No, I'm minging

True that

It's a weird one. I often think I look awful and then look in the mirror, and I'm pleasantly surprised. Other times, I look in the mirror and think I look awful. I can never win, and don't trust the mirror or the camera, to be honest. Wish I could see myself from anothers eyes.

I think some plain people are very “done” & make the best of what they have. Others roll out of bed & are just gorgeous…

I’ve never done much to myself, but I’m not gorgeous either!

Easily. If people tell you you are attractive, flirt with you, compliment your appearance, etc, even when you are feeling down about your looks. I mean, some of those compliments might be false, I suppose, but IMO people tend just to say nothing if they think someone looks bad. I can only speak for myself, but I never give insincere compliments. If I have nothing nice to say, I just say nothing.

So there's a reason people think they look good in the mirror but bad in photos. It's because the mirror shows a reverse image, whereas a photo shows you he right way around, therefore you are used to seeing your mirror image and prefer that cause it's what you're used too, but your photo is what everyone else sees.
On some camera apps you can flip the image so you see it as if it's a mirror image. You might prefer those images.

Nailed it. I was going to commet that I expect there are differences between the sexes

I just need permanent low lighting and I'm fine.

I wish I was but no. I'm fugly.

I made my peace with that years ago. 😄

No Im completely the other way around. I think Im gorgeous and then now and then I catch sight of myself unawares and its such a let down

I didnt think most people were like me, I thought people generally think they're not very good looking

I think attractive people who don't know they are attractive were probably late bloomers!

Personally I've looked grumpy, tired, happy, etc....dont think I've ever looked attractive though!😁

Not only have I found that not generally to be true, its not specifically true between me and my OH, he thinks he is not very good looking whereas he is ok, average, not ugly at all but he thinks he is. I think Im great looking but really am not if pictures and mirrors are to be believed.

I have poor eyesight so when I see myself on teams or something I dont look too bad to me but unfortunaely to other people its probably quite unpleasant

Plus the moustache glinting in the sunlight. Awful

Yes I am.
I'm as bright and crisp as a freshly harvested lettuce.

Possibly... always thought it was amazing that I got boyfriends at all.

I look stunning when I look in the mirror and then I put my glasses on and jump back with a start 😂

Not sure I know the answer to that question😂

I think a lot of people buy into the notion that people are either attractive or unattractive, like it’s defined and measurable thing that works on a scale, but it’s bollocks. People with low self esteem are often particularly prone to this kind of all-or-nothing thinking eg. they see a photo of themselves that they don’t like and think that’s it I’m ugly or get a compliment from a random person and think maybe I’m more attractive than I thought. Some people are desperate to establish where exactly they are on this imaginary scale of attractiveness but the thing is they are unlikely to be truly satisfied and comfortable with themselves no matter what happens or how much validation they get from other people.

I am definitely less attractive than I think. Standing in a mirrored lift with a very close male friend some years ago, he looked at my reflection and said "Is that what you think you look like? You're fucking stunning in the mirror!" Twat 😂

Not for me. I used to be pretty in my early 20s but I have gone down hill a lot.

I always thought people usually thought they were less attractive than they were?

Women anyway, most I know are highly self critical and never think they’re good enough.

I grew up feeling very ugly next to my tall blond friends, I am short with brown hair. I'm in my 40s now and literally a couple of years ago came across a photo of me with them and I was so shocked by how pretty I was, at a time when I really didn't feel it. Like I really stood out as the pretty one when I felt so ugly. I think women do tend to be very self critical.