Why so nasty

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Why are some people so nasty on here. I'm not talking about different of opinions. I'm talking sarcastic comments. Being nasty towards the op. Some posters even look up the op history and use it against the op whilst adding untruths .

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They are bored being off work. They need to get back to their imaginary six-figure salary job after Christmas.

Oh God your going to get flamed on here for this by others people can't help it on here loads of horrible people

I’ve had posters look up my history and find that very odd.

Because it’s usernames, not real names. Easier to be nasty to user12345 than it is to Pamela Sausage; easier to be nasty as anonymous MrsScumbleBoots than it is if your vitriol can be traced back to Katie Hopkins.

Yes I just thought the same about a thread. Someone just venting and everyone piles on.

That's what I don't understand. There will always be posters like that. But the pile ons are even more odd . Meant to be adults , but its often like a bunch of teenagers.

That would prove my point.

I've noticed that. Also what often happens is that a thread starts off fine, with posters all being either supportive or helpful and then someone comes along, starts picking holes and finding some random comment by the OP and using it as a weapon, then a whole load of other people join in. Like some sort of hunting pack mentality. When one starts, they all do.

They may very well be a bunch of teenagers. I'll never forget the Reddit thread discussing homeowners insurance. Someone posted a comment with some incorrect information and I corrected them, very politely, thinking I was being helpful. The poster responded very rudely and childishly, insulting me and calling me names, which surprised me enough that I checked that poster's history. Turns out it was a 12 year old boy. I was wasting my time trying to help a "homeowner" that was actually a snarky child trolling the subreddit and arguing with the adults. 🤦‍♀️

There is at least one thread on this theme started every day, I think Mumsnet should give them their own topic!

Other forums are available.

Well I'm not intentionally horrible but if I recognize an OP who is asking for help re her unhelpful DH who doesn't do chores and I recognize her from another thread where she says he hits her then Ill link the two, not to call her out but if the two threads are both true then only giving half the information isn't going to be helpful. Talking to a DH about splitting the chores more when he had her round the neck the weekend before is dangerous.

Sometimes the op is deluded and a frank and honest reply is needed.

Im not nasty i just say what i think im not going to sugar coat it either.
Some on here have a baby and it like the world has to be around them they cant even wash a cup up because thay have a baby.
Then its the threads that you clearly read that op is in the wrong but somehow everyone blames the man some women on here act like the mothers not the wifes.
Whitch brings me to cheating if he cheats ltb hes scum she cheats shes told to keep her gob shut say nothing.
Also them that look down on anyone that claims any benifits well news flash most of you do its called child benifit its still a benifit.
Or the posters that have kids and want every family member to raise them or need child care constantly because they need a break.
Well you have them you look after them.
Or the posters that look down on a mother because she had her child young but its ok to have them when your knocking on 50.
I could go on.

Is this the weekly MN is full of nasty posters thread?

No, it's not. I've noticed the tone has changed dramatically lately. I've been on here for years and the seething vitriol over nothing at all is really evident.

I posted once years ago over a really sensitive thing and the amount of nastiness was awful - I was even accused of being another poster because our writing styles were similar ??.
At a time I was really vulnerable I was made to feel worse.

If threads like this are happening often then maybe there's some truth in it .

There are threads where lots of posters seem to be falling over themselves to be horrible to the OP. I don't know why, it must make them feel big and clever I guess.

There's a big difference between being a bit blunt and honest if the OP needs a bit of a wake up or is being totally I and just being a a nasty twat for the sake of it.

Maybe it's just me, but I think the people who post these kinds of threads often seem much nastier than the ones they're complaining about. I feel the same way about the numerous Reddit everyone-I-know-is-a-narcissist subreddits. The posters sound like awful, whiny complainers even when I only hear the poster's side of the story.

I've been here for years too, these threads have been a regular occurrence for the last 15 years.

I think it depends. Sometimes there are nasty posters, literally plucking something apart seemingly for the sake of it. Other times, the OP will vent about her abusive husband and then go on to defend him for 30 posts. That riles people. Or the OP will be goady, and they know it.

A thread recently, and the OP was particularly cruel about her friend's husband (who had the gall to be a librarian and quiet!), all the while stating how perfect her own marriage was. A quick search found it definitely wasn't. That's a fair observation, I think. On the other hand, it's silly when someone posts something and it's absolutely twisted so much it looks like a bent out of shape coat-hanger by the time it's spat back out.

Take things with a pinch of salt, I say. AIBU can be harsh. Chat is nice, I find. But it's a large forum in general, there's always going to be differences of opinion, and yes some people just want to stick the elbow in. But there are loads and loads of others who don't!

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People are too easily offended and often post for sympathy/communal outrage not actual help.

When it's pointed out to them that they're making excuses or they could have done something differently in the situation as well, they immediately accuse people of being unkind.

These days anything that's a different viewpoint or that someone doesn't like hearing means the other person is unkind, apparently.