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People who walk in the road to get around you

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Cuddlethemlongertheygrowtoofast · 03/01/2025 18:29

Bit of an odd question but I’m curious what others do in this situation…
narrow path, singe buggy, move over for oncoming pedestrian who steps into the road unnecessarily. Then shouts ‘ thanks for forcing me into traffic you selfish b*tch.’
So in this case are you supposed to thank someone for walking in the road to avoid passing you on the path despite there being space to?
Obviously if the path was taken up by say a double buggy you’d thank them/apologise for them not being able to walk past, but in this case it was a dramatic action on their behalf surely?
Ive had plenty of people walk in the road to get around me if they’re in a rush or whatever (I live in a very busy town) and I’ve done it before without my children in tow, I’ve never expected a thank you for it because they’re being convenient for themselves not doing a favour for the person ‘in the way’.
stepping aside for someone or waiting until they pass if the path is narrow of course warrants a thank you but this is specifically about people walking around by using the road.
So was the comment fair or was he just an idiot!?

OP posts:
Cuddlethemlongertheygrowtoofast · 03/01/2025 21:59

Thanks everyone, I’m not sure what brokenties issue is but you really need to get off this thread and do something else with your Friday night it’s showing like you have guilt or you’re regularly rude and entitled on paths yourself. I’ve got no reason to make it up or even be rude to a stranger passing me. A cyclist passed me further down which shows there was plenty of space. I appreciate the kind comments.

OP posts:
MrRobinsonsQuango · 03/01/2025 22:01

Cuddlethemlongertheygrowtoofast · 03/01/2025 20:18

I had no idea he would do this as there was space for him to walk past me

read properly before spouting made up scenarios. If there was no space for him to walk past I would have said thank you. There was ample space yet he decided to walk in the road. For all I knew he was crossing the road or whatever. I’m not rude in the slightest thank you very much, however you are.

No sure but it happens to me all the time. Plenty of room to get round me but they won’t and then look cranky or say something. The pavements near where l live are especially generous. It very rarely happens when l am with my husband and he said it never happens when lm not there. Typically it’s from middle aged / old older women or their older men

Increasingly l literally say “yeah whatever” and stride on. No need to feed into their bullshit. Some people just like being cranky and / or think they own the path so think everyone should be deferential

MaltipooMama · 03/01/2025 22:02

I would personally say thank you to anyone who had to move in any way to accommodate me walking past with my buggy, even if it's unnecessary it costs nothing to say thank you and acknowledge. Having said that, his response was absolutely ridiculous and unacceptable regardless of the circumstances!

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WalkingThroughTreacle · 03/01/2025 22:08

He's just a dick. I (6'3" male) walk on the road frequently to give people, especially lone women, their personal space. I am confident enough in my own skin that I don't think it demeans me and I still remember enough of the Green Cross code and the Tufty club that I don't unduly expose myself to risk from traffic.

Innocentrailway · 03/01/2025 22:11

BrokenFamilyTies · 03/01/2025 18:42

Expecting common courtesy from someone does not make him an arsehole.

No but aggressively calling a woman a bitch certainly does make him an arsehole.

changecandles · 03/01/2025 22:20

BrokenFamilyTies · 03/01/2025 18:33

You should say thank you if someone steps into the road because you’re using the whole pavement.
Pushing a buggy doesn’t make you immune to manners.

Edited

If you read the post then you'd know the OP wasn't taking up the whole pavement.

Even if she had, calling her a bitch is in no way acceptable

changecandles · 03/01/2025 22:22

BrokenFamilyTies · 03/01/2025 18:42

Expecting common courtesy from someone does not make him an arsehole.

Calling someone a bitch is revealing a character a long way from understanding common courtesy

In any case. He didn't have to step into the road.

Sound out for no reason decided to walk on road and then tells the OP she's a bitch.

How is this anything but unhinged behaviour

Lavender14 · 03/01/2025 22:23

He sounds like he wanted a reason to be abusive op. I think you were right not to engage. If someone stepped onto the road I would usually say thank you but this guy sounds unhinged

changecandles · 03/01/2025 22:26

@BrokenFamilyTies
As the OP was the one who moved to the side, he should be the one thanking her surely.

And as he had no reason to walk into the road, the OP had no reason to thank him.

'Thank you kind sir for unnecessarily walking on the road when there is enough space on the pavement as I have budged up to the side for you.'

Is a VERY weird interaction

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