Inspired by this thread
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5242343-help-settle-something-did-we-offer-something-weird? Got me thinking that it’s lovely when people do nice things for each other, I love both doing and receiving but if the offer is too big it makes the receiver really uncomfortable and I’ve got a good example story. I once paid for a colleagues one course meal on a night out as he had to shoot off, he seemed a bit pained but service was slow and he didn’t have time to wait and pay himself. I assured him it was nothing and sure he could treat me next time. Following month he surprised me for our Christmas party by picking me up in a chauffeur driven Bently! He turned up at bar a few of us were having pre-dinner drinks and urged me to come outside. I was flabbergasted. Many people thought there was some romance at play. I managed to grab a couple of colleagues to join us and in hindsight it’s quite a nice memory but at time it felt really OTT and a bit uncomfortable. I subsequently got to know he was very wealthy and liked treating people and was from a culture where man always pays, so he felt my initial kindness had to be paid back big time! Interested in others stories of either making a gesture that someone else finds OTT or being the recipient