Partner said I was "embarrassing " am I ?

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So across the road from our house is a small area of grass which leads to another set of cottages.
We left the house yesterday to get the bus into town for a meal and someone had dumped rubbish on this grassy area (boxes and bags of wrapping paper and other Christmas rubbish )
As we walked past I noticed a box that still had the address on,so I waked a few stops on the grass to look at the address.
I walked back and my partner was annoyed "why did you do that?it's none of our business who dumped it,people walking in the pub were watching you,your embarrassing "

Literally all I did was see what address it was
If people are stupid enough to dump rubbish with the address on ...why shouldn't I have a look who it was.

Did I do anything wrong ?
It's not like I knocked on their house
Curiosity just got the better off me as I walked by

Of course not. I’d have gathered it all up and dumped it on their doorstep.
Maybe I am? 😁

He’s got issues.

You’re not embarrassing. He’s embarrassed by your actions because he has issues. It’s a him problem.

Does this sort of thing come up a lot within your relationship ?

What was the reason to look at the address, are you going to return or report it.

You're not embarrassing no. Don't know why he would think that.

There wasn't a reason
I was walking past and spotted the address
So out of curiosity I looked
I can't stand people who just dump rubbish like that
Yeah we do have a few arguments over stupid things

I suppose he felt embarrassed because to the people across the road it probably just looked like you were rifling through rubbish. But would they really be looking at you that closely? Probably not.

Is he often embarrassed of you? Is it his way of putting you down/keeping you small?

Can you give an example of the stupid things ?

Do you irritate each other quite often?
and no you did nothing wrong or silly about the dumped rubbish.

Don’t understand why people who were in the pub would be so interested in you looking at a bit of rubbish odd! Your partner sounds v controlling and critical.

Why don’t you report anonymously without telling your partner to council flytipping so they can collect and fine dumpers? Rubbish is becoming a huge problem and we all need to work together tomake it better, I think it’s great you found the address.

He sounds like an immature knob. He'd have been really embarrassed by me as I'd have photographed it all and reported to the council.

No you did nothing wrong. My DP had a habit of chastising me for things (he is ridiculously private and blows things out of proportion). I particularly hated the telling off after the event - "last night when you did this.." type of thing. It was affecting my self esteem. I told him to stop doing it, not to take his hang ups out on me and if it continued we were over. He took it onboard and very rarely does this now. You need to nip this in the bud.

It would of irritate me ether ignore it or get the details report and return it not just look for the sake of it

You’ve done nothing wrong OP. Your boyfriend has issues.
Let me guess, he’s one of those who will happily eat the wrong meal in a restaurant to avoid ‘causing a scene’ (aka politely & quietly informing the waiter that it’s not his meal) or being massively overcharged in a shop/being given an uncleaned hotel room etc because politely & quietly saying ANYTHING is automatically declared as ‘causing a scene’ 🙄😂

I would report the people who dumped the rubbish. They’re the ones who should be embarrassed. You did nothing wrong, but should report.

I don't get why you'd look at the address and then do nothing about it.

Could it have blown to where you seen it. I packed up a lot of our Christmas wrapping and boxes etc and they all blew down the side entrance into the front garden.

I’d have contacted the local fly tipping hotline.

but most likely would have picked up the rubbish (unless it was dirty rubbish) and binned it.
it’s civic behaviour to care for where you live.

id also judge the person who littered quite harshly (in my mind)

He's an asshole OP
Take no notice ☺️

It may not be the addressee who dumped it. I recycle boxes by reusing them for parcels.

Well done you! I would have taken it back round to their house and if it happened in my village someone would definitely have named and shamed them on social media

Yes, because you didn’t then proceed to report it to the council, who will fine them for fly tipping.
You can add details on the report to say you know who it was, and how you know. They’ll also check themselves.

Blank out your details if you do this. I report all fly tipping I come across, and I know they check the stuff to see if it has any personal details on it.

He’s a bit hopeless, very thin skinned. Why does he even care what some randoms in a pub might think? Loon.