Partner said I was "embarrassing " am I ?

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So across the road from our house is a small area of grass which leads to another set of cottages.
We left the house yesterday to get the bus into town for a meal and someone had dumped rubbish on this grassy area (boxes and bags of wrapping paper and other Christmas rubbish )
As we walked past I noticed a box that still had the address on,so I waked a few stops on the grass to look at the address.
I walked back and my partner was annoyed "why did you do that?it's none of our business who dumped it,people walking in the pub were watching you,your embarrassing "

Literally all I did was see what address it was
If people are stupid enough to dump rubbish with the address on ...why shouldn't I have a look who it was.

Did I do anything wrong ?
It's not like I knocked on their house
Curiosity just got the better off me as I walked by

You didn't do anything wrong. I might even have taken photos too for the council.

You need to get rid of that rubbish.

And I don't mean the fly-tipped stuff.

I'd have embarrassed him more by photographing the offending box and reporting whoever dumped it to the local council for fly tipping. Your boyfriend is a nob.

I couldn’t deal with a partner who saw me as an embarrassment; especially over something so minor. Why is he more interested in what some strangers in a pub (who probably didn’t even notice) think?

I don't tend to care what geezers in a pub think.

He wouldn't have said that if the rubbish was piled up on your car/path. He was embarrassed for some reason.

My husband would also have done this, if I hadn't done it first.

He sounds abusive

I think I’d find it irritating because you weren’t getting the address to report or return, you were just being nosy.

You don't know for sure it was dumped, maybe it was being collected bug what's the point in looking for the address.

That's tame. Where I used to live, if rubbish was found with names on, the photo of the rubbish and the name and address were posted on the local discussion page on Facebook!

I'd have done exactly the same as you but gone as far as to photograph it and report it as fly tipping

I would have looked and I would have reported it. Odd that your husband was embarrassed.

I wouldn’t have gone as far as to call you embarrassing. But that type of behaviour (checking the address on rubbish) would receive an 🙄.

But just cos it has someone’s address on doesn’t mean they are the people who dumped it? The other week several of our Amazon boxes( that we had flattened) escaped from the recycling .aSomeone could have nicked it and then dumped it when they realised nothing of interest etc. Loads of scenarios.

The fact you are questioning whether a trivial matter is embarrassing or not could suggest that he is in your head. You'll be walking on eggshells next.

You did nothing wrong. Tell him to wind his neck in

I hope you will be reporting the people who live at that address for fly tipping. I would.

That's not embarrassing. I had a BF who was desperately, desperately worried about what other people thought. It was so annoying.

If this was me, I would have taken a picture and sent it to the councils flytipping team. The address on the box is enough proof to land them a fine. Your dh is a twat that rubbish will probably be blown all over your property tomorrow.

Why on earth did you not take a picture and report it to the council??

People like your partner piss me off and they are the embarrassment not you- walking past issues, complaining about things in life, but never doing anything to fix them. Is it just someone else's problem then?

Nope. I would have went even further and took it back to their garden and dumped it but then I’m peri menopausal and a total Karen at the mo so this may be skewing my thoughts 😂

Tbh I would have taken a photo of the rubbish and the address and reported it! Dumping rubbish is disgusting

If there’s an address reporting them to the council for fly tipping!

Why "Well done you"? I mean, I don't think OP did anything embarrassing, but I don't understand what you think she achieved by just looking at an address, given that she seems to have no intention of doing anything with the information.

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So super conscious of the gaze of others and what they may be thinking!
If I was in the pub I might glance over, if you see someone moving you usually do. Then you give it not a second thought and get on with your evening.

Sounds to me like his ego is very fragile. It is hard work and tedious being in a relationship with someone like that, so readily offended, so put out by petty things, so quick to find fault when they think it reflects badly on them etc etc

No you didn't do anything embarrassing op.
If you looked on a whim, or didn't look, acted on the information or didn't. So what.

It is human instinct to want to know what's around us and who our neighbours are, so the impulse to see which house dumped the rubbish is hardly shockingly unusual even if lots of people wouldn't, lots of people would!