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I need help and replies quick on what to do

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Frangate · 26/12/2024 13:20

My partner asked me for a family brunch to his family's place today. Due to go soon.

I wasn't in the mood to go and I would prefer to relax at home. I am with my mother however I got up late because I am not feeling well. It's not contagious. It's the start of migraine. She is full of mood and aggro.

So now I dont know what to do for the day.

Do I go visiting my partner's family with the start of a migraine or stay at home to be surrounded by a bad mood all day.

OP posts:
Camelcamel · 26/12/2024 13:22

Stay at home but go to your room away from your mother for peace and solitude to relax and allow the migraine to subside

Wildywondrous · 26/12/2024 13:22

Take a couple of ibuprofen and go.

Itsaswelltime · 26/12/2024 13:23

If you went to the ILs and started feeling ill are they the sort to let you go and lie down alone?

CharlotteCChapel · 26/12/2024 13:24

If you have paracetamol and codeine take those and then in an hour take some ibuprofen

SilviaDaisyPouncer · 26/12/2024 13:24

I don't get migraines, but they're pretty bad from what I hear. I think you should stay in bed and get comfy.

BaronessBomburst · 26/12/2024 13:25

Go. Staying home won't be pleasant, the brunch could be. You've got nothing to loose.
Disclaimer: I have no experience if migraines.

ShortyShorts · 26/12/2024 13:26

It depends on how serious your migraines normally get I guess?

WhatMe123 · 26/12/2024 13:27

Op how are your migraines generally? That's the question really

AnneLovesGilbert · 26/12/2024 13:29

Is it definitely a migraine or a temporary reaction to your mother being a pain?

If it’s not too far away and will be fun then go! I’m sure your partner would like you to.

JumpstartMondays · 26/12/2024 13:29

IMO, just "not being in the mood" is an awful excuse and pretty rude.

But I have much more empathy and understanding regarding the migraine, that would be an acceptable excuse not to go. You know your body and how quickly or slowly your migraines can come on. Mine happen super fast so there's no way I'd even make it to get my coat on if I had the start of a migraine. So if it was me and the speed of my migraines, I wouldn't go.

Original poster
Frangate · 26/12/2024 13:29

I can't force myself to keep going with migraines but my head does get very very very sore. Only really a good sleep and the migraine subsides.

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Frangate · 26/12/2024 13:31

Also I have a different health condition and I usually have to take some regular meds to manage that. I am unable to take too much ibuprofen due to stomach and gut issues and I have to rely a lot on paracetamol. I also learned not to mix paracetamol and alcohol or too much of it. I usually give a space of a few hours between alcohol and paracetamol and I know if I go to my ILs I will be filled with wine and other drinks.

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DreadPirateRobots · 26/12/2024 13:32

Well when I have a migraine I can't bear light or form sentences so for me it'd be an easy choice: take sumatriptan, lie down in the dark, and hope like hell I'd warded it off.

Original poster
Frangate · 26/12/2024 13:33

I can usually function with migraines but it's bad functioning. They only go away with a good sleep.

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DreadPirateRobots · 26/12/2024 13:35

Stay home then. Why inflict trying to socialise with a migraine on yourself?

AntiHop · 26/12/2024 13:36

Have you met his family before?

WickWood · 26/12/2024 13:41

Frangate · 26/12/2024 13:31

Also I have a different health condition and I usually have to take some regular meds to manage that. I am unable to take too much ibuprofen due to stomach and gut issues and I have to rely a lot on paracetamol. I also learned not to mix paracetamol and alcohol or too much of it. I usually give a space of a few hours between alcohol and paracetamol and I know if I go to my ILs I will be filled with wine and other drinks.

You can just say no to alcohol if taking paracetamol helps to manage the symptoms and reacts with alcohol.

NovemberMorn · 26/12/2024 13:45

I used to suffer with crippling migraines, luckily, with age they have subsided a lot.
One thing I do know, alcohol is the worst thing you can have if a migraine is pending.

RandomMess · 26/12/2024 13:49

I get migraines, I need to sleep not go out anywhere.

I think it's odd you are even considering going out for a family brunch.

tallwivglasses · 26/12/2024 13:50

If your partner really loves you they'd take your mum to the brunch, surely? And leave you in peace
😉

nottoplan · 26/12/2024 13:50

Take whatever medicine you need to take and go back to bed , explain you are not feeling well and if your mother is moody sleep through it , just ask her to keep the noise down

nottoplan · 26/12/2024 13:51

Or better still get your partner to take your mother as a previous poster suggested

Oioisavaloy27 · 26/12/2024 13:52

You said you weren't in the mood to go, then the migraine is there a back story here? Do you usually cop out of his family visits or usually go?

PinkArt · 26/12/2024 14:00

I wouldn't back out last minute because I didn't fancy it or they might offer me wine ('no thank you, I can't with the meds I've taken today' - very easy) but would for a debilitating migraine.
It sounds like you want us to tell you you don't have to but you need to make an adult decision here yourself.

muckingfuddle4 · 26/12/2024 14:02

PP saying take some painkillers and go have clearly never had a migraine.

Flashing lights, blind spots and ziz zags in our vision, pins and needles in your tongue, numbness down one side of your body, vomiting and such a splitting headache it feels like your optic nerves will explode.

The are debilitating and very scary!

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