Do you think you can have it all?

[JennyTals]

Or do you think that’s unrealistic ?

Probably, if you have a supporting partner where everything is shared

Yep. Definitely.

The proof is the wrapper in the bin. I ain't sharing my chocolate

Depends what you mean, of course. For most people you can have some of it all, or all of some of it, but not all of all of it.

In what way?

I can have all the things I want.

You can have it all, just not all at the same time.

No

Well you can. Along as you earn enough to pay someone else to do the bits you don't want to do

I do have it all, if you mean what I think you mean.

What is 'it'? Because I have a cracking family and career BUT I'm constantly knackered.

It depends what you mean, and is probably different depending on the person.

For me, I’d say I do have it “all” right now in the sense that I have everything I ever wanted. I have an amazing husband, a beautiful daughter, great family and friends, a lovely house with food on the table, we both have jobs we love and are happy in, we’re able to do the things we want to do with no financial worries, that’s all I want. No, we don’t live in a £1 million house and we don’t spend half the year on exotic holidays but we are totally happy with what we have and what we have now is exactly what we once dreamed of.

Depends what "all" is. Means different things to different folks.

I suppose it depend on what ‘all’ is.

Best to aim for enough of the things that matter to you than trying to 'have it all' if it stretches you too thin in any way (be that money, time, emotionally etc)

I have a fantastic husband, an amazing daughter, a job I love and though not rich by any means enough money to be content.
However I had a shock cancer diagnosis this year and have been fighting ever since.
I think I'm trying to say life is very fragile and we sometimes just have to be grateful for the small things

You'd have to explain what you mean.

The phrase is often used in terms of having both a career and raising a family, in which case I think that is perfectly reasonable and achievable.
But if you mean something else, you'd need to explain what "it all" means to you.

What does ‘it all mean”?

If you mean work and have a good family life I think that depends on the family. I know people who do with Grandparents helping out. It didn’t work for us due to child with health and disability issues and my parents requiring a lot of help/care from me.

It's taken me to my forties to realise I can have it all, when I get decide on what the all I want is, time it well and include rest in it.

I don't believe you can have it all as in everything always and all at once. It's just impossible and not worth it to try. Every decision includes a rejection of one of the options.

Depends what your standards are.

Everyone can do a little of something, to some degree or another, more or less.

Nobody can have a stellar career AND be fully present for all family members AND have a healthy and solid marriage AND have a healthy and solid social life AND have outside interests/pursuits AND exercise and stay healthy, even if they can outsource everything else.

I have a lovely ds, a career I enjoy, a home, a mortgage, a nice life. I left my ex but that was my choice. I'm financially stable and we are both healthy and happy.

So yes, I think I have it all and I am grateful for that, every day.

What's 'it all', what does that mean?

I do ok, I have what I want and need, but then I'm not high maintenance.

Not at the same time, for sure.

I have it all. As in I have everything I want and I’m very happy. Everyone’s idea of that though is very different.

Depends on now much you want, Some folk are easily pleased.

Yes but probably not all at once.

EG I was a SAHM - had no job but kids and marriage were amazing!

Now I have a job - so am obviously with the kids less, and feel like I barely see husband anymore!

But overall looking at my life, I have 3 kids and a job I love and a good marriage and a lovely house. So I have it all (what do we mean by ‘all’??) but not all optimally at once.

Not all at once, no