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I'm the worst person

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worstpersoneverrr · 16/12/2024 11:16

So Saturday I had a good drink, I don't drink much, but I saw friends I hadn't seen in a long long time, got a bit over excited and ended up drinking a ridiculous amount of whiskey.
I am fucking dying still. I cannot cope. I've literally had to get my mum round to look after the kids while I go back to bed. How bad is that ? I cannot believe the anxiety I feel. This morning I had a panic attack, couldn't stop crying, dh gone to work, had a meeting he couldn't get out of so I needed my mum.
I do suffer with my mental health anyway that I have to take tablets for but I don't think I've ever been so anxious as I was yesterday and today it's fucking worse not better !! I'm 35, there really is no excuse for this behaviour.
When is it going to go away ?? I hate myself.

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PoissonOfTheChrist · 16/12/2024 11:22

Well, I bet you won't do that again!

You live and you learn Op, no need to beat yourself up.

Petrine · 16/12/2024 11:22

You’ve got a bad hangover. Go to bed and sleep it off… you’ll feel better soon.

worstpersoneverrr · 16/12/2024 11:25

This is day 2 and I feel worse

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FamilyPhoto · 16/12/2024 11:26

Its The Fear.
Im sorry op. Its the alcohol and it WILL pass.
I hardly drink now because of it.
Be kind to yourself .

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 16/12/2024 11:41

You're not the worst person you haven't killed anyone, just get your head down and sleep

Waitingfordoggo · 16/12/2024 11:43

This is the reason I don't drink any more. I didn't drink often, but when I did, I struggled to find my 'off switch' and then spent several days suffering and feeling the Fear.

You will be ok OP- sleep as much as possible and get some good nutritious food down you. 💐

feelingpoorly83 · 16/12/2024 11:48

Yes I've had this and the older I get the worse is it. That's the reason I stopped drinking the last couple of years.

It will pass and you are not the worst person. Flowers

JabbaTheBeachHut · 16/12/2024 11:51

Just learn from it and try to stop catastrophizing.

As a PP said, you won't do that again.

FuckItItsFine · 16/12/2024 11:51

Oh god, you poor thing! This is why I gave up drinking when I was 28. Whisky especially is absolutely horrendous. You just have to ride it out and then never drink again.

cheeseandbiscuitsplease · 16/12/2024 11:51

I had a couple of friends round for pizza and a few drinks from 5pm on Saturday. They left at 2.23am when taxi arrived, we all had too much to drink and I was very hungover yesterday. It was a fun night tho so I'm trying to be level headed about it and stop worrying as I also have the fear but nothing happened. I suffered all day yesterday and still feeling crap today. Currently lying on the bed, I've done my housework (don't work Mondays) and I'm going to hydrate and rest. Don't be hard on yourself, we work hard is kids dogs etc. We will be fine by Wednesday x

DisenchantedOwl · 16/12/2024 11:53

Oh bless you. I've never had it as bad as that but maybe it's the whiskey. I do find different drinks affect me differently. When I get hangover anxiety I just constantly remind myself that it's the "beer fear", it's not real, and it will pass.. Don't fight it, let it wash over you, try not to let your head spiral about things (get your mind to focus on the things around you or sensations or smells or things to look at, and think about being kind to yourself and doing restorative things (as much as you can if you have the kids). The anxiety is probably continuing as it was quite bad yesterday and so has got its grip in. It will pass. Maybe avoid whiskey in future!!!

PS. I have mental health difficulties too. 💐💐💐

chattyness · 16/12/2024 11:56

Get some fresh air, really breathe it in, it works wonders for a hangover. Drink plenty of water and fresh fruit juice and try to eat something , even if you think you can't face it start with a dry cracker or biscuit then some tea & toast, pretty soon you'll start to feel better. We've all done it , it will pass.

TheLemonFatball · 16/12/2024 11:59

Hangxiety always peaked on Day 3 for me. It really is worse when you have children, there's the added pressure of knowing you're 'needed'. It's shitty and you'll have that sinking for a couple of days but try to shift your focus. Have you any present wrapping to do? If you sit in front of the tele with your wrapping and a BBC Christmas special like only fools and horses it'll help with the anxiety a little. You are not a bad person, knock that shit off. Flowers

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 16/12/2024 12:01

I gave up drinking for this reason. Although I am mostly a dick when I’m drunk anyway but the hangxiety was awful even when I wasn’t

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 16/12/2024 12:01

You need a burger and a coke...

slightlydistrac · 16/12/2024 12:16

I did that with whisky. Once. I have never felt so ill.

Never touched it since and that was over 25 years ago. Even the thought of it makes me heave with revulsion.

Drink sips of water OP, get your head down & sleep it off. You'll feel better soon.

Superworm24 · 16/12/2024 12:19

You will be fine. Palpitations and low mood are normal after too much alcohol. Have plenty to drink, stay away from the caffeine and keep eating. It will pass.

worstpersoneverrr · 16/12/2024 13:00

Thank you all for making me see I'm not a bad person. I managed to walk to the shop while my mum had the kids, no way could I manage taking them with me ! The fresh air did help but I keep having waves where it suddenly all hits me again. Fucking why did I do it !!! 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

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worstpersoneverrr · 16/12/2024 13:01

I have got every single present still left to wrap but I can't face it

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FUBAR77 · 16/12/2024 13:04

Many of us have been there OP. Reframe it in your mind that you’re just recovering from illness - dioralyte is your bestie right now to replace your list salts.

As PP said, coke and burger sounds perfect, then have a nice hot bath, little nap and above all else be kind to yourself!

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 16/12/2024 13:13

You’re carrying on like you’ve punched a puppy or kicked a kitten.
You went out and got bladdered.
it’s not the end of the freaking world.

worstpersoneverrr · 16/12/2024 13:48

FUBAR77 · 16/12/2024 13:04

Many of us have been there OP. Reframe it in your mind that you’re just recovering from illness - dioralyte is your bestie right now to replace your list salts.

As PP said, coke and burger sounds perfect, then have a nice hot bath, little nap and above all else be kind to yourself!

I've had some lucozade which I'm hoping helps. It is so much worse feeling like this when you have kids, if I was young I'd be laughing about it ! Not these days! That's it, I'm done now, when I say never again I do mean it

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GasPanic · 16/12/2024 14:00

Sounds like you went on a decent bender. It happens.

Metabolising alcohol uses up sugar, so your blood sugar gets low and you get tired, as well as dehydrated.

Lucozade will be good as it will get your blood sugar back up and the water in it will rehydrate you.

The good news is you probably won't want to drink whiskey again for years if it made you that ill. That's how my brain works anyway. I went out and drank a lot of whiskey about 20 years ago and still haven't really recovered my former taste for it. The odd glass a couple of times a year I can handle.

The bad news is that vodka, brandy, gin etc will still taste fine.

Starlight1979 · 16/12/2024 14:19

worstpersoneverrr · 16/12/2024 13:01

I have got every single present still left to wrap but I can't face it

Huh? It's only the 16th December...? Why do you need to wrap your presents today?!

Deathraystare · 16/12/2024 14:39

A few years back my friend and I were reminiscing about how we would get off our face, drunk (not often) then still turn up for work the next day! And be able to function! Could not do it now!