I need help for wedding starters with all these requirements!

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My lovely wedding venue have given us free reign to suggest some starters as we like nothing on their (really quite extensive) menu. Yes, I am a fussy eater! And what I do like, DP doesn't!
Main course will be a roast, followed by sticky Toffee.
Things I do not like: most meat (other than chicken, bacon, ham). Fish. Cheese other than cheddar, mozzarella, halloumi. Risotto. Soup is ruled out (too messy, not special enough!).
Things I'd normally have as a starter: tomato bruschetta, tomato and mozzarella salad, garlic bread.
Things DP doesn't like: tomato. Goats cheese. Olives. Courgette. Cumin. Tacos.
DP nornally has a meat or fish starter.
We can only have one starter option for everyone to eat so also trying to keep it to something most will eat (barring dietary requirements).
The only potential we've come up with is bacon and cheese potato skins. Not sure if this works with our menu though!
Please help this stressed couple out so we can send a list to our venue to work with (so they don't hate me for being such hard work!).
Thank you kindly!

Nice bread selection and dips
bruschetta selection for each table with some tomato and some mushroom

We had mushrooms on toast as our starter, would that work?

How about

a mini portion of pasta carbonara
grilled halloumi with bacon crumbles and petit green salad
potato rosti with grilled chicken slices and a honey mustard sauce (or another sauce you both like)

I agree. Our wedding breakfast wasn’t particularly to my taste, but to me it was more important to choose something that would satisfy the majority of our guests and keep everyone happy than to force my personal preferences on everyone.

Halloumi skewers on a bed of salad?

Pesto/mozzzarella arancini balls?

How about doing garlic flatbread as the veg/vegan option and then you can have a meat or fish alternative that your husband will eat?

a platter of bruschetta for you, selection of meats your husband would like, bread, olive oil, olives and roasted veg. Just ask the venue to give you your own portion of bruschetta and husband meat. Share the bread. Then your guests can pick and choose and they please.

Crisp fish goujons with sauce tartare. (For DP/DH)
Or
Deep fried button mushrooms with garlic mayo.

Why did you choose a wedding venue where you don't like the food options?
In your position sure it would've been better to choose somewhere where you can have your own food suppliers/order dominoes.

I do think you're being quite restrictive with your options.

We got married in July and our menu was:
Starter - leek and potato soup
Main courses - lamb, sea bass or pasta
Lemon & limoncello sorbet
Dessert - dessert table

Small chicken salad. When we were picking our menu the venue advised us to pick something that the majority of people would eat.

Or if you would really prefer dominoes just get them to order it for you and your husband and let the guests have the nice stuff. My friend won’t eat anything alert for curry and the venue ordered it in especially for her when she was a bride, they ordered pizza hut for him. They weren’t fussed on food either so had what they wanted and the guests had the normal chosen meal.

Welsh Rarebit, done delicately. Small side salad, leek or chive garnish.

Carbs, cheddar cheese, crowd pleaser, can be done very well. No meat, no tomatoes, no fish. Vibes well with your traditional British menu.

Spinach and ricotta tortellini (when 3 large ones each)? Or just cheese with a sage butter? I had some amazing tortellini in Tuscany this summer that was just a cheese filling with a honey, lemon and pistachio dressing/ crumb on top and it was absolutely delicious, light for warm weather but filling enough

Please rethink canapés. People will be arriving for 11.30am. They may have had breakfast but maybe not with travel and getting ready. You might sit down at 2pm but when will people start eating? I bet not before 2.30pm. Nothing worse than being hungry at a wedding.

You can't dislike canapés! They can be anything!!!!! My BIL caters weddings his canapés include roast beef and Yorkshire pudding, beef Wellington, beef burgers, chicken tikka, tomato bruscetta, literally anything.

However I think maybe you need to focus a bit more on your guests and what they will like rather you and your DH.

You could pick a meat option he will like and a vegan option you will like.

Also many of my suggestions could have things substituted if you havea better attitude, so if you don't like cream cheese use mozzarella instead, if you don't like brie how about halloumi, if you don't like camembert what about cheese fondue.

How about no starter but really really good canapés then straight to main?

Breaded Mushrooms with aioli for the vegans plus you, then DH and the meat eaters have say Albondigas or chicken tikka, or pate, or chorizo.

We had ham hock at ours with the toast from bruschetta (meaning no tomato topping). Would that work?

We were hungry after our tasting session.

Is this not a concern OP that the serving sizes are SO small that you were still hungry???

Why can't DH have the meaty entree option and you choose the veggie?

Still nothing taking our fancy. Just either ticks my box, his box, or most will like box. Never all 3!
I reiterate, we want a starter. No to canapes. Dislike them for many, many reasons more than what they actually are. I like my food hot, fresh and not touched by others potentially! (Looking at the kids on that one!)

Go to Gretna Green just the two of you, and order in your fave food for the honeymoon by the Anvil.

You and your fiancé sound really difficult and I’m saying that as a fussy eater.

i don’t understand how soup is messy unless guests don’t know how to eat with a spoon.

i personally don’t like soup but I’d probably serve a vegetable soup as a starter with a nice bread roll as to me that would be the best option for guests as most people would eat it.

I think you and your fiancé need to forget your fussiness and think of your wedding guests. Maybe have 2 mains each to make up for portion sizes.

Chicken caesar salad with croutons and then either crusty bread with butter or garlic bread/cheesy garlic bread on the side? Most people like chicken and caesar salad is pretty inoffensive and can be really gorgeous when done well, and there's garlic bread etc for anyone who doesn't like it?

You want <involtini> (aubergine, parma ham and mozzarella rolls), recipe by Jamie Oliver.

You will thank me if you go for this.

We chose the venue because we liked the menus! That's the most annoying thing. We were convinced of our choices and starters weren't an issue because our 2 chosen menus didnt have starters. Until we went on the tasting session last week! That's when it has all fallen apart.