Would you let DC go to the wedding?

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ExH who has them EOW has asked me if DC (7&5, both in school) can have a Friday off end of January for his cousin's wedding. They're invited to the whole thing, ceremony, food, party etc. Would you be okay with this? I hate the DC having absences from school and haven't yet ever given them a day off for anything other than sickness.

Would you take them out for a day if it was your relative’s wedding?

And yes, I would.

Seems reasonable to me. I'm guessing you'd do the same for a relatives wedding.

For one day for a family serving, yes I would and I never take ds out. We had a family wedding this year on a Friday and I put the form in expecting it to be declined but it was approved!

Yes, as long as they will be safe and assuming they want to go. A rare day off school for a family event is quite reasonable imo.

@AnneLovesGilbert a very close family member like a sibling, yes. Not for a cousin.

I would. I wedding is a cultural experience and they'll have a chance to see family members they don't usually spend much time with.

Why not a cousin? Some people are as close to their cousin's as they are their siblings.

Yes at that age; they’ll love it and it will be an experience

Yes I would

I don’t have any cousins but some people are very close to theirs.

It’s one day and they’re so young. DD has spent so much time in nativity rehearsals the last few weeks doing nothing much else I couldn’t get excited about missing one day.

Yes I would, I think you're being unreasonable and look for an excuse to be awkward.

Yes, I’d allow this. I feel like saying no is just being a bit awkward for the sake of it to be honest.

Yes I would. A wedding is a one off, it’s not like a holiday that parents could choose to take another time.

100% I would.

Yes - a Family wedding is a specific infrequent occasion. So one day off primary school wont hurt. It will be an opportunity for them to meet other members of their extended family.
Unless there is a huge drip feed about them being unsafe there.

Yes, I would, and I have done. I took both dc out of school for my cousins wedding. In fact, I think I took them out for 2 days as it was a Thursday wedding, and we stayed overnight. My dc were in primary school at the time.

Yes l would .

It's not up to you to let them or not IMO. I'd tell ex he needs to contact school to ask for permission and not get involved.

One single day, at their ages? Absolutely yes, I would let them go. Families nowadays don’t seem to have many weddings, and even fewer that children are welcome at. My dc have only been to one wedding as children. Unless there’s some awful backstory here, let them enjoy the experience.

How close are they?

Do your DC like weddings, some love them, some find them boring

Our DC missed the first day at the start of the Autumn Term because a close relative chose to get married on that day. It’s good for them to have contact with their family.

Yes, particularly if they haven't been to a wedding recently.

It's good for cultural capital, they'll have a direct experience next time they learn about weddings at school or read about them and it is also important for family connection

Yes, I would

Yes

Of course I would.