Friend makes no effort for my birthday -what would you do?

[dingalings]

Her birthday is in April and mine is Christmas Eve.
Every year for her birthday we do something nice.
Go away for the night for a shopping trip /a meal out somewhere nice.
Her birthday I took her out for an Italian meal and obviously got her a gift.
For 4 months now I've been saying we will have to sort our Xmas night /day out (which also doubles up as my birthday ) and she kept saying yes I will let you know a date.
Her partner is off work every night so can babysit (she has a 13 year old ).
Anyway it's two weeks for Christmas and she hasn't picked a date so doubt it's happening.
I'm not asking again.
I understand December is busy for people but everyone else seems to manage a meet up or even a November meet.
It will end up being me going into her work and us swapping gifts like last year.

Would you bother asking about it?

I'd be soo tempted to send this 😀

Whatever you choose OP definitely give up on doing a big celebration for her birthday

Just say "I don't really fancy a trip to home bargains. I'll catch up with you when things are quieter. Enjoy!"
Then leave the ball in her court.

It's so busy in the shops at the moment that I can't face home bargains. You are welcome to pop over to exchange gifts or for a quick cup of tea otherwise let's meet up in Jan.
Then maybe make some plans around April time. If she says what are we doing for my birthday say we haven't had time to discuss anything for mine yet.
Shall we go away for a night in the summer to celebrate both? So push the night away from her birthday because that is being unfair.

That's brilliant!