Had the issue of someone dying. This time it was Social Services asking for MiL who had died a couple of days earlier, having been in a nursing home for 2 months. BiL is quite severely handicapped and lives in residential care, paid for by SS.
I was in MiL's flat. Landline rang. I answered. Call went something like this:
SS: Hello, is that Mrs Malbec?
Me: Yes (I took DH's surname when we got married 15 years earlier)
SS: It's about your son, X Malbec. We need to review his care.
Me: I don't have a son. I think you mean my MiL, Mrs Y Malbec.
SS: Are you not Mrs Y Malbec? You said you were Mrs Malbec.
Me: I am indeed Mrs Malbec, but I am Mrs Y Malbec's daughter-in-law, Mrs Z Malbec
SS: Well can we speak to Mrs Y Malbec then?
Me: I'm sorry but that won't be possible....
SS: (interrupting) Why not? Why won't you let us talk to her?
Me: Well Mrs Y Malbec died 2 days ago.
SS: Well who will look after X Malbec's affairs? (Note, no "I'm sorry for your loss" or other pleasantries). We really need to speak to Mrs Y Malbec.
Me: You'll need a ouija board then. My husband Dr W Malbec is X Malbec's legal guardian and has been for a couple of years. This should be on your files.
SS: Well we've tried calling him and his phone isn't on.
Me: Well he works on a secure site where mobile phones are not allowed. However, I can get a message to him. Would you like me to do that?
SS: Well that's most inconvenient. We need to talk to him.
Me: Give me your name and contact number and I'll try to get a message to him. However, if he is on a flight test, this may take a while.
SS: That's no good. Can't you become X Malbec's guardian?
Me: Umm, other than by marriage, I'm not related to him. He has a perfectly good guardian.
SS: We need to be able to contact the guardian.
Me: Take that up with the Ministry of Defence as they don't allow mobiles on secure sites.
SS: Couldn't your children take it on?
Me: They are 13 and 11. I don't think that's legal.
SS: Well that isn't good enough.
Poor DH had just lost his mother, was working long hours on MoD sites and was being hassled by jobsworths who didn't listen or offer any sort of sympathy.