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Do you think you could kill someone?

226 replies

Kibble29 · 06/12/2024 21:12

In the literal sense of the word - could you end someone’s life?

Taking the legal consequence out of it, I’m wondering, on a moral level, if you think you could/would do it? Do you have that in you?

I appreciate this is very much a “you don’t know until you’re in that situation” question, but I think that if my life was at genuine, serious risk, or if my child was in the same situation, I’d do it without hesitation.

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AllThePotatoesAreSingingJingleBells · 06/12/2024 21:41

I’m even going a step further. I don’t believe the people on here saying they couldn’t or wouldn’t do it. I think most people have it in them. It’s what comes after, eg prison, societal judgement, that stops us. Remove that consequence and I think a lot more of us might be able to kill another person. It’s a hard thing to admit though.

I would have to have a reason to do so, and not necessarily something other people would see as justifiable.

Fizzygoo · 06/12/2024 21:42

I would defend my children and husband with my own life against a threat in front of them, I can’t explain

something else like-

revenge if someone directly killed them?

fingfong · 06/12/2024 21:42

I absolutely could with no compunction. I wouldn't hesitate, and could do it in cold blood too. I think we all could if there was motivation.

CollaterlieSistersSister · 06/12/2024 21:43

Yes.

And it does occasionally bother me, how much it wouldn’t bother me.

Is part time psychopath a thing??

AllThePotatoesAreSingingJingleBells · 06/12/2024 21:43

fingfong · 06/12/2024 21:42

I absolutely could with no compunction. I wouldn't hesitate, and could do it in cold blood too. I think we all could if there was motivation.

@fingfong That’s 2 of us being honest!

MolkosTeenageAngst · 06/12/2024 21:44

I Don’t think in a planned way but maybe manslaughter in a moment of anger, pushing someone down the stairs or something and not planning to kill them but it being a horrific accidental outcome of a moment of range.

SensitivePetal · 06/12/2024 21:44

I’ve been thinking about this a bit today after reading about that lad in Derbyshire who stabbed his abuser father.

He could be a bad lad, or he could just be really damaged and acting in self/ family defence. Reports suggest his dad did him harm and tried to strangle his mother. Or he could be both.

I find it hard to condemn him on the face of it, but I don’t know all the facts of the case.

paradisecityx · 06/12/2024 21:44

Yes. 🥴

Julia34 · 06/12/2024 21:44

Only in self defense. Well I still be calling police first but if they gonna take theirs sweet time I will have no choice but to kill

AquaPeer · 06/12/2024 21:45

AllThePotatoesAreSingingJingleBells · 06/12/2024 21:41

I’m even going a step further. I don’t believe the people on here saying they couldn’t or wouldn’t do it. I think most people have it in them. It’s what comes after, eg prison, societal judgement, that stops us. Remove that consequence and I think a lot more of us might be able to kill another person. It’s a hard thing to admit though.

I would have to have a reason to do so, and not necessarily something other people would see as justifiable.

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💯 agree. After all look at all the military who kill, just because their employer tells them too. We’re all capable of it. It’s a human instinct.

i could kill as self defence or protection but i can also imagine being angry enough to kill someone in rage.

I also have a fear of accidentally killing someone ie in my car

doodleschnoodle · 06/12/2024 21:45

Yes I think I probably could, depending on the situation. The human drive to survive and to protect our children is very strong. I hope I never have to find out, mind you!

TheChosenTwo · 06/12/2024 21:46

I don’t know.
Totally depends on the circumstances I think. If someone had my kid at gunpoint and I could reach a gun and shoot that person first I’d might, although I think I’d be more terrified of fucking it up and my kid getting killed anyway.
In all other circumstances though, no I don’t think so.
If someone murdered a loved one I wouldn’t go after them and kill them as punishment.
Who knows though, I do know I’d hate to ever be in a position to have to make that decision and I’m sure everyone else feels the same!

Uytfy · 06/12/2024 21:46

Yes.
I'm absolutely, 100% sure that if I thought my kids were in genuine, life threatening danger I would kill to protect them.

NuffSaidSam · 06/12/2024 21:46

Yes, if adequately provoked.

doodleschnoodle · 06/12/2024 21:46

And I agree, I think in the right set of circumstances pretty much anyone is capable of killing someone, whether they like to admit it or not. I think saying you could never kill someone is a bit deluded, personally.

SensitivePetal · 06/12/2024 21:48

doodleschnoodle · 06/12/2024 21:46

And I agree, I think in the right set of circumstances pretty much anyone is capable of killing someone, whether they like to admit it or not. I think saying you could never kill someone is a bit deluded, personally.

I do agree with this. People are so confident but it’s not based in reality.

HPandthelastwish · 06/12/2024 21:48

Yes, without a second though if DDs life was in danger. Thanks to a life of outdoor activities I'm a good marksmen with a rifle and not bad with a bow and arrow or throwing axe. Alas I doubt I'd have those things to hand and I'm not sure I could take anyone with brute strength if I had to.

OAPapparently · 06/12/2024 21:51

Yes.
In the circumstances of someone trying to harm me or my children I would fight back with every breath in my body.
I think most people faced with someone trying to kill them or their children would kill the other person instead if they had to.

Ginkypig · 06/12/2024 21:51

Yes I definitely have the capacity to.

there are people I have met I absolutely believe that the world would be better if I did.
But i also know that my morals are strong enough that I wouldn’t unless I was put in to very specific circumstances though.

notprincehamlet · 06/12/2024 21:52

Start a thread about cyclists or joggers or 20mph zones or anything that mildly inconveniences motorists and see just how many people are comfortable risking the lives of others when they're behind the wheel of a car

Retrogamer · 06/12/2024 21:52

Yes, I would if my children were in danger I don't think I would hesitate...

Thisisnotmyid · 06/12/2024 21:52

If it was in defence of my children or any other actual child then yes and quite happily if I’m honest.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 06/12/2024 21:53

Circumstances are key here, yes in self defense or to save a member of my immediate family who were being attacked or having their life put in danger.

To pass the time on a Tuesday morning because I'm a bit board and it would be something to do then no, probably not.

But even in situation one I couldn't imagine shrugging and going "oh well, needs must". I expect it would still sit heavy on me. I occasionally wonder how the police marksman manage, but excellent training to compartmentalize I expect.

Dpresst · 06/12/2024 21:54

If I had to yes. I reckon I could do it.

Namechangedforthis25 · 06/12/2024 21:55

yes if someone hurt my family

id like to think not otherwise but many people have where it’s been out of their character