Has anyone ever cried at child's school?

[Nogodsnomasters]

I cried at my child's school today in front of the principal and receptionist and I have never been so mortified in my entire life. Ds10 has autism and is really struggling with severe anxiety at the moment and had a new medical diagnosis this year also plus today is the 10yr anniversary of my sister's passing so it was already a hard day. My son is year 6 and I have never cried at his school before. Please someone tell me that they'll have seen it before from other parents and I'm not a dickhead!

I cried today too at school. Ds is long term sick and was in bits today so I had to collect him. His upset made me cry, and that made his teacher cry too.
Just one of those days!

There’s nothing wrong with crying in certain circumstances. I can understand the embarrassment but you weren’t out of order. Wishing you well.

When my children were at primary school I saw loads of mums crying in all kinds of different situations, I assumed it was quite normal

I cried a few times at school- usually in the privacy of the SENCos office , but the most memorable one was a happy moment - my son finished his last year a few weeks early to do an extended transition with his secondary school and on his last day the whole class escorted him out in one big group and did a because group hug with him , which for yr6s I thought was really kind ! In fact it’s made me cry writing it down now and it was 3 years ago!

Being a parent makes you much more emotional I think, and being a parent to a special needs child adds a whole other level to it.

Yes. When a teacher was bullying my child, I cried, my child cried and the principal cried. What happened to my DC was disgusting, and they were sobbing so much telling us everything the teacher had done that both me and the principal broke down
It's ok to show compassion sometimes, and that can involve crying at the plight of your child or the situation.

Oh bless you and yes!
For a similar reason - asd dd with severe anxiety. After one particularly brutal morning of trying to get her into school, I sat in the reception and cried. They were lovely and I've worked in quite a few schools too and I know I would never judge for this and I also know that you and I are not the first and we won't be the last! 💐

It happens all the time, honestly. I cried in front of my DS's Y2 teacher after he'd disclosed to us that he was being bullied by a couple of the popular lads and they were encouraging the rest of the class to exclude him at playtimes. She was lovely about it and I couldn't hold back the tears, thinking about how he must have felt.

Yup.

I am the mum that cries, both primary and high school.

Both my kids are autistic, youngest in a sen school and just recently diagnosed all needs met and its always been obvious as he has some severe and complex needs. I cry when he's joined in, been included, said a word, eat something different and his teacher knows to tell me. I also cry when I'm struggling.

Eldest just started high school and has just finished all his assessments every professional thinks he's autistic we're just waiting for panel now he's in main stream with little support. Suicidal, extremely anxious, struggling, being bullied, had the police in the school after an assault. They already know I'm the crying mum and I am not a bit ashamed.

If you need to cry, cry. It's not a sign of weakness it's a sign of strength, love, care, devotion. I don't care what anyone else says.
Sending love

They'll have seen it plenty. Some teachers will have cried too. In fact I did once when I was a teacher a long time ago. (In the staff room)

It's so normal, especially at Primary that even the Head kept a box of tissues in her office for parents. I probably cried at most schools my children went to.

I’ve cried as a parent and I’ve cried as a teacher.

I tried so hard with a particular child and her parents just laid into me. I had to turn away and have a moment.

Oh gosh yes. My daughter has been mercilessly bullied for 3 years by this point and I just sobbed in pure desperation as I was so heartbroken for her. I've also once pulled a teacher over a table...so they've seen different sides of me.

I’m a TA at primary. I’ve been cried on multiple times.
A death in the family and mum trying to explain why the child is upset.
Depression and not coping.
Difficult child and not knowing where to go next.

It’s ok. I hate that I can’t do more than a hug and that is often abrupt because I have to go and sort kids out. But especially crying because they don’t know how to manage a child - it gives us more idea about what might be happening at home, is the behaviour we see at school out of character, what is being done in different settings, and most of all it shows the child is from a family who care deeply but don’t know where to turn, rather than a family who can’t be bothered - it isn’t something we dismiss at all.

I’m glad they were lovely and gave you a hug, I hope you’re doing ok now.

My DH cried on our primary school Head. I was in hospital and he didn’t know if I’d be coming home again (obviously given I’m writing this, I did!). He had totally been holding it together for the kids and once they were in their classes and he was popping back in with a forgotten bag, she just asked how he was doing as he walked past. He totally broke down, She scooped him up into her office for a hot drink and some chocolate chips cookies. He’ll never forget her kindness.

It happens a lot. When I was teaching there was always a few parents that I saw cry over the course of the academic year. I never judged any of them, just empathised. Parenting is hard.

I sobbed on phone to head of Year. She told me her role was to support both me and my child. I did feel mortified though.

It's because we care so deeply for our kids that we get emotional. It'll happen loads.

Yep. I cried in front of the headteacher when DD wasn't the nicest to me getting her ready for school. Was very stressful. The nicest thing was my parent friends rallying around to comfort me and the head calling me later to ask if I was ok.

I work in primary and yes I’ve seen it. Our children are bound to stir up those deep feelings especially when we are concerned for them. We’ve all seen it before, nobody would judge you, you had good reason to feel that way.

Yes, my DS was being bullied in year 3 by an absolute b*tch of a teacher, just after my DM had died. He didn't want to go to school so I went in to see the head and told him exactly what I thought of the teacher. I couldn't help crying and at that stage I didn't care.
The head was nice, very sympathetic and the bullying stopped. He didn't seem at all surprised or fazed at the fact that I was crying.
Incidentally we live near this horrible teacher and I often see her. I act as though she's invisible, even though she usually smiles or says hello.

Thank you so much everyone who has said they've cried or seen other parents crying and that they'll not judge me or think that I'm not coping with my son's needs. It really has reassured me. I think because it was the first time it's ever happened and he's my eldest child and I don't usually cry Infront of anyone who's not a close friend or family member so it's out of character for me. Thank you all, it's really helped.

My mums was a teacher and would never judge a parent for crying, both sadness and happiness. The mum whose water broke and wanted to carry on with the meeting was memorable and something of a hero to her though.

Teacher here. Please do not feel mortified at all. We've seen it before. And it sounds like you have loads on your plate. Also, most teachers will have cried at school too!