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Why do you think so many people have anxiety these days?

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TitaniasAss · 01/12/2024 11:06

Or do you think it's just become more recognised? When I was young I remember my mum describing a neighbour as 'living on her nerves' which I think probably meant that this woman suffered from anxiety.

I don't suffer myself, I do get anxious about the things most people get anxious about eg driving test, exams etc but I don't think that's unusual. I work in a secondary school and we have so many children with SEMH and anxiety issues that it makes me worry for their future.

I used to work in a primary setting a few years ago and I can remember an 8 year old telling me that they were having a panic attack because of their anxiety. It was awful to me that a child that young even knew what a panic attack was.

I absolutely do believe that, for teens, social media plays a huge part. Why so many adults?

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lifebyfaith · 01/12/2024 20:07

Social media..

socks1107 · 01/12/2024 20:09

I think it's more accepted now as we are more open about mental health.
But I also think there's a whole generation that have been brought up with limited resilience to normal life.
I hope I haven't done that to my dds but many of their friends seem to crumble at even a train delay. It's a worry they trot out anxiety when the smallest challenge is thrown at them

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 01/12/2024 20:11

Of course there are genuine cases, but a lot of it is IMO down to fashion. Nobody can just be worried about something, or be quite normally nervous of e.g. an exam or driving test - they all ‘have anxiety’ now.

hamstersarse · 01/12/2024 20:22

IMO there are multiple colliding contributing factors:

Food. Yes I’m serious, too much sugar and junk causes mental health problems, it’s fact https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11167869/

Social connections. We live isolated lives, we barely even sit round a dinner table anymore. I swear by the power of the family dinnertable. It’s where you connect, converse, work through things that are worrying you before they become artificially elevated into anxiety.

Mollycoddling. Our culture is now so risk averse that children cannot develop resilience. You have 10 year olds who aren’t allowed to walk down a street on their own, 16 year olds who aren’t allowed to get on buses on their own. Everything is seen as dangerous so you put in the double whammy for anxiety…you create fear and then you also don’t allow children to work out how to deal with fear.

Social Media. Mainly because you just see too many people to compare yourself against, it’s unfathomable to have to compute all the things you don’t have - talents, good looks and material things.

Association between junk food consumption and mental health problems in adults: a systematic review and meta-analysis - PMC

Anxiety and depression can seriously undermine mental health and quality of life globally. The consumption of junk foods, including ultra-processed foods, fast foods, unhealthy snacks, and sugar-sweetened beverages, has been linked to mental health. .....

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11167869

macap · 01/12/2024 20:26

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 01/12/2024 20:11

Of course there are genuine cases, but a lot of it is IMO down to fashion. Nobody can just be worried about something, or be quite normally nervous of e.g. an exam or driving test - they all ‘have anxiety’ now.

I think it depends on to what extent someone’s life is affected.

apd23 · 01/12/2024 20:29

Agreed - it also creates an excuse when things don't go the way they have been taught, usually by overbearing parents/grandparents, that it is someone else's fault. Ergo, self-entitlement.

WimbyAce · 01/12/2024 20:32

It is a tricky one I think as where does the line get drawn between "normal" worried, nervous, on edge feelings where you put on a stuff upper lip and carry on business as usual and actual anxiety where you do require some help. I know I questioned this with myself a lot when going through hard periods and it took me a long time to seek help. For me at it's worst it is very much a physical thing and takes over my body so I feel unable to function.

louddumpernoise · 01/12/2024 20:43

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 01/12/2024 20:11

Of course there are genuine cases, but a lot of it is IMO down to fashion. Nobody can just be worried about something, or be quite normally nervous of e.g. an exam or driving test - they all ‘have anxiety’ now.

But isn't that down, in the case of young people, the parents?

My DD would often say she was worried about this exam or that interview and i'd reassure her, drawing upon her previous successes BUT i have seen parents - relatives/friends - pander to these worries, make them bigger than they are, reenforcing the persons worries.

I think people need to do more sport, competition, in school, experience failure, learn to deal with it & for the non sporty, other forms of competition, eg art, creative writing competitions, vehicle maintenance, stuf that gets them to exp failure, things going wrong.

All too often, parents etc protect children from problems that occur in real life.

But who is really to blame?

Santina · 01/12/2024 21:04

There's a number of issues contributing to children and young peoples poor well-being. We don't build resilience into young people any more. The every child wins, behavior is unchallenge and aggressive parents has helped to create a lack of coping mechanism in young people. They don't know how to rhu k for themselves through the education system and are just taught to pass exams, and they succeed. At FE level, you succeed for just attempting, it doesn't even have to be correct.

When I was a child, I didn't know if my parents didn't have enough money, I didn't know if we couldn't afford food, I didn't know when they had argued. Today, young people are too involved in the decisions that really should be the responsibility of the adult. Children should be sheltered from certain issues and left to be children, worry free.

I used to teach and had a student who decided to throw their education away to work to pay their dad the maintenance money he had to give to their mum. What a disgrace on the parent, that poor young person having that worry at such a young age. Children need to be protected and nurtured, but unfortunately, parents are too soft and put too much responsibility on children.

The every child wins does not set children up to succeed through their adult life, they don't know how to lose and to cope with failure. Failure is good, it encourages people to change their behavior to succeed, but only if it's allowed to happen.

A lot 'anxiety ' or 'depression' is just a label for their feelings. Most of us have an off day, or go through periods of stressful situations, it doesn't automatically mean you have stress. We need to stop informing young people they are and teach them that it will pass, help them to manage situations instead of labeling them.

It's my guess that very few young people have genuine stress or anxiety, we all go through the same processes growing up, hopefully it's a generational trend that will soon pass.

PeachyPeachTrees · 01/12/2024 21:26

I'm a worrier. I catrastrophise. I got so stressed about my driving test I pooped myself. I didn't describe any of these as having anxiety.
Since menopause, I have been diagnosed with genuine anxiety. It feels different. It's not something I talk openly about and I try to get on with life and be as mentally strong as possible.
I find it irritating when people say they have anxiety when they don't and have made it like a trend. It's irritating like when someone says they are a bit ocd just because they like a tidy clean house.

anonymous98 · 01/12/2024 21:27

My (diagnosed) severe GAD has made me housebound and suicidal for large parts of the past few years, but please continue to blame it on "trends", "lack of resilience" and "medicalisation". I can only function (badly) on large amounts of tricyclics (SSRIs have done nothing.) Please do continue to suggest all the things I have already tried.

Sorry, this thread has hit a nerve.

anonymous98 · 01/12/2024 21:28

I promise you nobody wants this. I don't have a life- I just exist.

username358 · 01/12/2024 21:33

A lot of it is mollycoddling. Instead of telling a child to get on with it, they're whipped out of the activity, wrapped in a blanket and then the minutae of their feelings are examined.

BoomBamSparkle · 01/12/2024 21:36

Mobile phones

Tealeavesinthecup · 01/12/2024 21:41

okright · 01/12/2024 19:59

I also think were nutrient deficient due to crap soil and food habits

I think that has an awful lot to do with it , as well as lack of green spaces .

BoomBamSparkle · 01/12/2024 21:52

The older generations who grew up in a time before Instagram and tiktok really need to understand the youth have grown up in a mobile phone world where playing outside and having adventures isn't the norm anymore before we tell them to just snap out of it! Social media-free gadgets for kids to mid teens could really help but they are going to cling to their social media like drug addicts because that's essentially what they are. There definitely a gap with older geberations asking why we don't have more kids when we can't even afford a bigger house. Why the kids are all so anxious etc. Just because things were different in your day doesn’t mean it’s the same for the younger lot!

Sussurations · 01/12/2024 21:57

I have had a diagnosis of GAD (I also have depression) and honestly, I wouldn’t wish what I experienced on my worst enemy. I eventually became almost completely unable to function - I couldn’t eat or sleep and I struggled to go from one room to another.

That’s a world away from what I experience from time to time now as a person who needs to be on antidepressants but in terms of anxiety is basically a bit neurotic and has the occasional need for a beta blocker or OTC sleep medication. I proactively manage my mental health and I know the warning signals of relapse. I meditate daily, exercise, get fresh air, listen to helpful books, etc. it takes a lot of effort but anxiety doesn’t stop me doing anything - I try to expand, not shrink, my comfort zone. When someone is ill they have to be gentle with themself, but avoidance is NEVER the answer to anxiety. I wish young people knew this.

it is odd that there is so much talk about mental health with younger people yet they are not taught simple techniques and strategies that could help them learn resilience and confidence. Society is failing them in many ways. They are so smothered and so bombarded with information and judgment compared to the slightly neglectful upbringing of my generation (X).

Olive567 · 01/12/2024 22:08

I'm another who suspects our diets / unhealthy microbiomes today are a massive contributory factor to high levels of anxiety.
I was very anxious, depressed and moody as a teen and into my twenties. I was also a vegetarian who suffered with ongoing IBS and stomach aches.
Later in life I had a major overhaul of diet, began to eat meat and eradicate UPF. I can honestly say it has changed my personality- now my mood is very stable, i'm no longer anxious or a huge 'worrier' or depressed.
What if there is a ubiquitous issue with our modern UPF diets, I don't know, lack of Vit Bs, or too many gums causing IBS - that is creating this tsunami of mental health problems?

Helpimfalling · 01/12/2024 22:12

Social bloody media has a party to play I'm sure....

Either making us more aware of other peoples states of mind or more depressed or maybe they have a knock on effect...

hamstersarse · 01/12/2024 22:23

Olive567 · 01/12/2024 22:08

I'm another who suspects our diets / unhealthy microbiomes today are a massive contributory factor to high levels of anxiety.
I was very anxious, depressed and moody as a teen and into my twenties. I was also a vegetarian who suffered with ongoing IBS and stomach aches.
Later in life I had a major overhaul of diet, began to eat meat and eradicate UPF. I can honestly say it has changed my personality- now my mood is very stable, i'm no longer anxious or a huge 'worrier' or depressed.
What if there is a ubiquitous issue with our modern UPF diets, I don't know, lack of Vit Bs, or too many gums causing IBS - that is creating this tsunami of mental health problems?

It is absolutely true that a good diet reduces emotionality, I’ve done it myself too

UPF inflames every cell in your body, including the brain.

A psychiatrist with 50 years experience wrote a book called The Inflamed Mind because he was convinced after all the years of experience that a lot of mental health issues are a result of the brain cells being constantly inflamed. It all sounds so stupid, but You are What you Eat is probably a good phrase right now and given the hideous, literally toxic food that most people now eat, it is an explanation that everyone with anxiety should consider

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Lamelie · 01/12/2024 22:30

OttersAreMySpiritAnimal · 01/12/2024 11:17

Also, anxiety is another form of excitement, and kids aren't being taught that either. It can be a useful emotion at the right level, but people always see it as a negative.

That’s really interesting. And when you think how our lives have fundamentally changed in a couple of generations it’s hardly surprising we’re not wired to cope.

ChristmasEveNotChristmasSteve · 01/12/2024 22:31

Noise pollution.

ChristmasEveNotChristmasSteve · 01/12/2024 22:34

Santina · 01/12/2024 21:04

There's a number of issues contributing to children and young peoples poor well-being. We don't build resilience into young people any more. The every child wins, behavior is unchallenge and aggressive parents has helped to create a lack of coping mechanism in young people. They don't know how to rhu k for themselves through the education system and are just taught to pass exams, and they succeed. At FE level, you succeed for just attempting, it doesn't even have to be correct.

When I was a child, I didn't know if my parents didn't have enough money, I didn't know if we couldn't afford food, I didn't know when they had argued. Today, young people are too involved in the decisions that really should be the responsibility of the adult. Children should be sheltered from certain issues and left to be children, worry free.

I used to teach and had a student who decided to throw their education away to work to pay their dad the maintenance money he had to give to their mum. What a disgrace on the parent, that poor young person having that worry at such a young age. Children need to be protected and nurtured, but unfortunately, parents are too soft and put too much responsibility on children.

The every child wins does not set children up to succeed through their adult life, they don't know how to lose and to cope with failure. Failure is good, it encourages people to change their behavior to succeed, but only if it's allowed to happen.

A lot 'anxiety ' or 'depression' is just a label for their feelings. Most of us have an off day, or go through periods of stressful situations, it doesn't automatically mean you have stress. We need to stop informing young people they are and teach them that it will pass, help them to manage situations instead of labeling them.

It's my guess that very few young people have genuine stress or anxiety, we all go through the same processes growing up, hopefully it's a generational trend that will soon pass.

The baby boomer generation are the least resilient people I've ever known! Did their parents get it wrong, too?

FlipFlopVibe · 01/12/2024 22:49

Our brains can’t keep up with the advances in technology, we are still in the cave man stage biologically but the world around us now moves at a million miles an hour. Everything is scrutinised, everyone has an opinion. The pressures to be perfect in every aspect yet physically our bodies just cannot do that

Oblomov24 · 01/12/2024 22:58

Agree with pp, partly under-diagnosed before, partly on trend.

And no, I don't agree it's all SM fault. SM doesn't give me anxiety, nor Dh, nor my ds's, because we have good self esteem and aren't anxious people.

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