How are snakes at work not shunned by their colleagues?

[ThisSereneHiker]

How do workplace snitches who tell on you to the manager for your mistakes instead of helping you still have friends? Who would want to trust them?

Way of the world now.

If they are shunned, you could be accused of bullying.

Because it's probably not in their job role to spend time rectifying your mistakes and/or your mistakes are so frequent and have significant consequences they're sick of covering.

Depends - what mistakes are they telling the managers about?

Sometimes the process means people have to be notified?

I don't take joy in telling on someone to the manager but sometimes there's no choice. If the answer to "why hasn't X happened?" is "because ThisSereneHiker hasn't done their bit of work" then I'm not going to take the heat for them.

Depends on the situation.

I had to report a HUGE and embedded problem to my boss yesterday which has now gone to about five levels above me to resolve. It's not going to see anyone sacked, but it's a huge governance issue by a management team who are under a lot of conflicting pressures but where the legal consequences of them trying to circumvent national processes could quite literally get someone killed through their inaction or see highly sensitive information fall into the wrong hands and lead to a serious risk to life.

Will that team go nuclear when they realise it's come from our team? Yes.

Will this cause enormous relationship problems between our teams? Yes.

Should I have stayed quiet? Absolutely not.

But I expect they'll think I'm a snake too.

Depends ..is it their job to help you, and are they mistakes it is reasonable to make? And multiple ones at that?

My sister who is a teacher lost a reception age child in her care and didn’t even notice, they were found wandering around another part of the school by another teacher doing something rather dangerous. The other teacher reported my sister to the Head. As a result my narcissistic sister managed to turn the rest of the teaching staff against the teacher who reported her and she was shunned instead of my sister. Does that make you feel better? And does it make you feel safe if you have very young DC who attend school?

It's always so bitchy and political at work

And it seems like the good soldiers don't get promoted

The mistake was minimal and could have been corrected in 5 seconds

If your initials are LM and you work in healthcare then my message to you is pull your finger out and do your job. We're sick of carrying you and covering for you. We complain because you leave us no choice.

Bloody hell that is a depressing read. I have worked in schools and I am not surprised to hear it tho. Your sister sounds like a cow bag. Sorry.

Then why didn't you spot it and fix it? If it was so minimal how did someone else have time to catch it and report it?

No offence taken - she is 100% a cow bag!

Because they would rather have her as a friend than an enemy!

We were close (past tense). She made no apology for it, told us straight what had happened, including the point that she hadn’t noticed because apparently she said there was too many children in the class to watch them all, and it wasn’t her fault that he was caught doing something dangerous, that it was his. He was 5.
She was quite pleased with herself when the teacher who reported her had a nervous breakdown because of the shunning and and left. She said she deserved it.

Oh god, it gets more depressing. That poor woman. I hope she/he has been able to get back in touch with the fact they did the right thing. This sort of situation makes my blood boil. In schools we are repeatedly told that safeguarding is everyone's responsibility (which it is) yet this sort of political crap continues. I doubt she has a problem with this, but I don't know how your sister sleeps at night.

Why should we have to cover for your mistakes, breaking rules/procedures or being rubbish at your job? And if you're a bullying shit or gloat in the office gossip, then who is the fucking snitch?

What relevant bits are leaving put of your one sided question?

I'd be interested to know this, too.

Im sick and tired of correcting my colleagues. Fundamental basics are not being done, mistakes happen as a consequence.

doesn’t matter how many time i say “please remember to…” they aren’t listening. Why?! Im not asking for someone to perform brain surgery. I work in an office and a busy one.

so im happy to be called a snake for running to my boss. Sick and tired. Im old school, worked in an office for 32 years.These who aren’t listening are fresh from school/college and think its ok to be stuck to their mobiles and have headphones on. Its not.

manager is also young and way too nice. I need a bastard of a manager!

Because I'm not a child in the school playground...the majority of people at work are grown ups and mature.

Instead of blaming someone for reporting mistakes, you need to ask why the mistake was made and how it can be avoided in future. Is there a training need? More support needed? Or did it happen because the person is human and mistakes happen? Is so, be a grown up. Take responsibility, apologise and move on instead of blaming the person who found the mistake.

The area I work in (healthcare) would he a worrying place to work and receive care if there was a culture of covering up mistakes. There needs to be an open and honest attitude, where people are not afraid of reporting things so that it is transparent.

Grow up and change your attitude Thisserenehiker