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Secret Santa-has anyone else had supposed bad luck with it? Lighthearted.

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Noodge · 12/11/2024 11:27

I have been in four including this one.

First one, new team member got me and didn't get me anything. Blank stare when he was asked why (by me and others). I had got some lovely hair accessories for the woman I got, which were well received.

Second one, again I didn't get anything. This time the excuse was that his shift pattern meant he didn't have time. We all had differing shift patterns.

He was a smoker and I had bought him some very well-thought out smoke related things. I ended up giving them to my lovely manager who was also a smoker.

Third one, I as always bought some thoughtful presents-I was presented with a box of cheap brown hair dye. I dyed my hair bright colours at the time. There was no 'joke theme' or such for which it would have made sense, and I had no desire to dye my hair. Binned, and had cost a fraction of what I had spent and much lower than the budget given.

Two different work places.

This year, obviously not complete yet but a different workplace, and I have been given the name of a woman who really doesn't seem to like me. I have posted about her on here before, the way she addresses me is rude and unprofessional and she often allocates me more work than others. I like everyone else I work with!!

I end up with her. SO typical!

I almost opted out but nobody else seemed to want to and they're all excited about it so I didn't want to be a scrooge.

Anyone else?

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TheHouseOfMouse · 12/11/2024 16:40

Oh, sodding Secret Santa!!! There’s a mighty row going on at work over this at the moment. - ! Who is in it, Who’s not in it, the cost of it (low cost = shit presents, high cost = no presents!!) Boys v Girls, Management v Shop floor!! It’s been brutal!!😱 Every year we get this, every time the advert for it goes up, the arguing starts!
HELPPPP!!!

DriveInSaturday · 12/11/2024 16:59

I was a new TA, there was loads of time left to the end of term and I hadn't bought a gift yet. One morning break I went to the staffroom and was met by a huge pile of presents. That was when I learnt that they did Secret Santa at Christmas dinner, not the end of term as I'd assumed. I felt terrible. My class teacher searched her cupboard for anything I could wrap up. She found a tub of Celebrations but she'd already dipped into them and in the end I had to fess up to the organiser.

Well, Santa was on my side that day because my Secret Santa person happened to be off sick. After work I headed for the shops with a huge sense of relief, and every time I've done Secret Santa since, I've bought it early.

MillenialAvocado · 12/11/2024 17:10

Last year I was lucky enough to be picked out by a bloke who'd been in trouble a few weeks previously for making sexually inappropriate remarks to me. He got me a set of 3 tiny storage jars, the sort of thing you'd get in Poundland, except they covered in dust so I think he'd just dug them out the back of his cupboard. It made me cry. This year I'm going to suggest we pick out presents at random rather than buy individually, or else opt out.

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leia24 · 12/11/2024 17:15

Last year i got a candle that had come free as part of a gift set and it didn't even smell nice. I hate secret santa 🤣

ihaveliterallynoidea · 12/11/2024 17:46

A colleague was given a big box of Tampax. He was a male.

LittleGreenDuck · 12/11/2024 17:57

I stopped taking part after the year my (female) boss bought me nipple tassels. No, i didn't work in a brothel, just a (usually) boring corporate office.

Towwanthustice · 12/11/2024 18:21

Every year in a public sector job we did secret santa. It was always funny gifts and piss takes..
One colleague who was new and I hadn't really knew that long got me a lingerie set.
I was absolutely mortified! I found out later she was female thank god but at the time of opening said gift I didn't know that.
So embarrassing opening bit in front of lotsbof male and female colleagues.

ZingyGoldTraybake · 12/11/2024 18:25

Does anyones work do a "bottle draw" where you all bring in a wrapped bottle of up to X amount, then swap it with everyone else. Everyone ends up with something they dont want but people seem to love it.

BashfulClam · 12/11/2024 18:34

I opt out, I got nothing once, and then 2 crap presents and gave up. The first crap present was obviously bought at the card shop in the train station and just wasn’t anything I’d like or use. I ended up binning it. The next crap one was some really cheap garish make up, the type you find in home bargains, and really cheep make up brushes. The colours were awful and it was nowhere near the budget stated. I subways think carefully and try to get something the person will like.

Noodge · 14/11/2024 17:47

ZingyGoldTraybake · 12/11/2024 18:25

Does anyones work do a "bottle draw" where you all bring in a wrapped bottle of up to X amount, then swap it with everyone else. Everyone ends up with something they dont want but people seem to love it.

I have never heard of that! How exactly does it work?

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Noodge · 14/11/2024 17:48

MillenialAvocado · 12/11/2024 17:10

Last year I was lucky enough to be picked out by a bloke who'd been in trouble a few weeks previously for making sexually inappropriate remarks to me. He got me a set of 3 tiny storage jars, the sort of thing you'd get in Poundland, except they covered in dust so I think he'd just dug them out the back of his cupboard. It made me cry. This year I'm going to suggest we pick out presents at random rather than buy individually, or else opt out.

That's horrible, I am so sorry. SS is not the 'a bit of fun' that most people make out it is, for some situations.

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Noodge · 14/11/2024 17:53

DiamondGoldandSilver · 12/11/2024 13:29

@potatocakesinprogress

Her ears were pierced but clearly they were not to her taste. I understand that but in her shoes I would have smiled and politely commented that they were lovely. It’s just that she looked so annoyed by them 😆

Yes, I do find that rude. At least feign it and give to someone else, if it is a gift that's just not to your taste.

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LizzieVeraker · 14/11/2024 17:56

I started opted out at one point, it was BLISS.

I WFH now, so don't even need to do that anymore.

Noodge · 14/11/2024 17:58

LizzieVeraker · 14/11/2024 17:56

I started opted out at one point, it was BLISS.

I WFH now, so don't even need to do that anymore.

I WFH too but they're having the exchange at the xmas do!

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Noodge · 14/11/2024 18:01

catlesslady · 12/11/2024 13:47

Secret Santa at my previous workplace was my idea of hell. Organised by a small group of fairly senior members of staff who liked everyone to think that they were fun/friendly etc but were actually inappropriate and unpleasant (I will refer to them as 'The Arseholes'!). It was made clear that opting out would not be OK and there was a compulsory team 'training' lunch where gifts were handed out and opened one by one with everyone watching. It was, in theory, anonymous but The Arseholes kept a record of who was buying for who, and also asked who bought any gift that stood out to them for any reason. The Arseholes and their followers always bought what they considered to be hilarious gifts and made sneery comments about lots of the other gifts (eg. too boring, 'common' brands etc). Everyone feared being asked to buy for one of The Arseholes as there would be nasty comments if it was something neutral but also great offence taken if there was an attempt at humour that they didn't appreciate. I managed to avoid that, but one of the Arseholes bought for me several times. Once was a sachet of some sort of powdered animal bone which according to the label was an aphrodisiac (perfect gift for a middle aged vegetarian) and another year I received edible underwear. Both of which had to be unwrapped and handed around for everyone to see whilst attempting to appear to find it all such fun.

One year someone's gift was a charity donation in the recipient's name. I would have loved that. But The Arseholes decided it was not in the Xmas spirit (!) and made a new rule for future years that there were to be no charity donations or other 'worthy' gifts. I am very glad to be out of the madness!

That does sound especially hellish! I think I'd have tried to find another job for that reason alone!

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Littletinytarzanswingingfromanosehair · 14/11/2024 18:01

Ours is a £10 limit
2022 - ended up with a bottle of wine with the tombola ticket still on it. It's also in the £5 plonk section anyway not like a Chateau en du pap or Chablis even if they did win it.
2023 - a crochet making kit. I didn't realise I was giving off those kind of vibes.

Noodge · 14/11/2024 18:02

RelativePitch · 12/11/2024 13:32

I was so disappointed one year. I had my Nigerian colleague to buy for. Now I'd spent a week in Lagos with work. The food was amazing, but so very hot and spicy. So I bought him a lovely gift set of super hot sauces and chutneys from a Devon chilli farm. Turned out he couldn't stand spicy food. Gutted. How he survived growing up in Nigeria was a mystery to me!

That would've been an ideal gift for me and I am about as far from Nigerian as one could get! Love me some spicy grub! 😂Smile

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LizzieVeraker · 14/11/2024 18:03

I'm trying to remember what I've received in Secret Santa gifts over the years - a bath plus with a floating plastic frog, a scarf, and a candle I think. Meanwhile I'm working hard trying to get something the person will actually like / use 🤣. Just no.

Noodge · 14/11/2024 18:04

Well, given I have 'picked' the most annoying, irritating 'up one's own ass' person in the team that ever there could be, someone else in my team has suggested I buy her a butt plug (so she can literally stick it up her arse).

Hmm....

I naturally would try to find a perfect gift. I've opted in now so may as well do my best-maybe she'll be nicer to me. Or maybe she'll see me as someone who's a pushover, who knows (she's a grade under me but not directly under me).

Or maybe I should send her a hint that she's annoying as....

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Noodge · 14/11/2024 18:05

I have some decent-but-not-to-my-taste gifts that I've received that I could utilise. A grey scarf from TK Max (I am a bit of a snob with scarves and haven't worn it), a fancy '3D' jigsaw puzzle, a bottle of fizzy red wine (just sounds wrong to me although I am sure It's lovely to some... Shall I be one of 'those' people...

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Arrwedancers · 14/11/2024 18:07

Secret Santa is the biggest load of crap ever. I've always opted out in all my work places, don't care if I look like a Scrooge. As a pp said, why would I wanna throw away a tenner and also give myself an extra task, I have enough presents to seek out and buy for my dc and family.

LisaJohnsonsFacebookMole · 14/11/2024 18:09

Noodge · 12/11/2024 11:40

I have already opted in this year but It's definitely the final straw!Did anything happen about you not getting a present @HoHoHoliday ? I suspect not-nothing at all happened when I did other than the organiser said 'well you could have picked Noodge something up before work? You may have not finished until late but you started late the next day? He just shrugged and that was it. Same the previous time.

What do you buy for someone who gets on your nerves at work? A copy of 'How to make friends and influence people'?😂

Get them an ice cube tray and some dusters?

That's what I was given by someone senior at work many years ago. I can't imagine she liked me very much.

littleteapot86 · 14/11/2024 18:16

I havent had any terrible ones but my favourite was beautiful Christmas tree baubles from a dear colleague who has since passed away only in their late 30s and every Christmas I get to take them out of their box and reminisce about all their mad antics. 😅😭

ThatCosyKoala · 14/11/2024 18:19

I’m not doing it this year around, last year they forgot to gift me the present and gave it to me in late January- where I didn’t even think of Christmas anymore, and the year before last year my secret Santa forgot again.

Every year my colleagues are very excited to do secret Santa but very few bother to buy a nice present or to buy one at all.

I will watch this unfold all over again this year as a bystander 😂

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 14/11/2024 18:25

Someone I managed gave their line report an apple. It was t bad luck he was a rude arrogant twat. She was only just out of uni. He got a warning over that one and didn't stay much longer.