How do you deal with well meaning kind person you work with but …

[Spagettifunctional]

They are putting pressure on you (me)

telling me who said what, texting after work, questioning things out of my control

bossy but very nice if you know what I mean

I am thinking of telling the person in question tomorrow that due to the nature of our work we can’t discuss it over text (true) and that I have been to see someone (this is true also) to talk about coping with things as I haven’t been feeling well in myself that once we are out of work we need to focus on home and family and the next time she texts I would softly reply ‘let’s talk tomorrow - time to switch off ❤️’

would that go down like a lead balloon - I don’t want to spoil our relationship as they are good to me but winding me up a lot

Just an update - things have improved and I have put down a few ground rules (very soft approach and nicely put I feel)

basically no contact after work and I have had to state that we need to keep our confidence / I have worked especially hard all week so that I am being recognised for that. It’s hard to explain but I feel better.

then I finished school today after clearly stating TWICE that we will see you Monday, we’ll talk on MONDAY. I’m home half an hour and the voice note appears again ‘wasn’t that a hard day … ‘ I deleted it and didn’t listen and won’t respond

so that’s better for me and I cannot believe how people won’t get the message at all - it’s an intrusion on my life but I feel by simply ignoring it is better

Enjoy your peaceful weekend!

You too Glitter and thank you