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I am a "very pleasant lady"

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HauntedBungalow · 07/11/2024 23:05

... according to the consultant who wrote to my GP following an appointment. It says so on the first line of the letter.

I was feeling quite chuffed about this but when I told my cynical piss taking 21 yo son he said it probably meant I was a bit dozy. Surely not!

Does anyone know if "very pleasant lady" means fragrant and nice, or if it means thick?

I've obviously disinherited the son, regardless. (Not so dozy now am I? Twat.)

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SabreIsMyFave · 08/11/2024 10:42

@HauntedBungalow

I'm sure you are a very nice lady. I think most people, when it comes down to it are nice. Whenever I go to see a certain specialist of mine - as I'm leaving and going back to reception, he says 'you are a lovely lady and it's been a pleasure to see you today.' And in the 'write up' of the consultation, he always says 'it was an absolute pleasure to see Sabre today...'

As pps have said it's general medical speak I think to give a general heads up to anybody else reading it that you're a nice decent cordial person ...

I don't know what they put if someone is awkward or difficult - because I'm pretty sure they wouldn't be able to put that in a letter, especially as a copy of it goes to the patient!

But yes it's definitely medical speak for people who are particularly nice and easy going... as I say though I don't know what they do to people who aren't... I imagine that there would have to be some kind of heads-up so people know what to expect.

I mean, not ALL medical people do it, but some yeah. And I'm sure it's not secret code for this person is a cunt. 😂 I hope not anyway, as this particular consultant of mine always says I am a really nice, warm, friendly lady, and a pleasure to see.

I'm gonna be wondering now. Thanks a lot @Soldiergirl99 😬

sueelleker · 08/11/2024 10:46

My husband was always a "pleasant elderly gentleman".

SabreIsMyFave · 08/11/2024 10:47

sueelleker · 08/11/2024 10:46

My husband was always a "pleasant elderly gentleman".

Is he though? 😂

(I'm sure he is!) Smile

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Differentstarts · 08/11/2024 10:47

peachesarenom · 08/11/2024 08:58

Apparently I'm a joy!!!

Apparently I'm a pain in the arse 🤣🤣

JFDIYOLO · 08/11/2024 10:49

I imagine they see some awful behaviour and if they left that out, that could indicate and warn later practitioners to be on their guard.

My mum was a nurse and one of the things that would get written on patients' notes was 'CTG'. It stood for 'circling the drain', ie 'will die soon'.

There will be many more ...

Lytlethings · 08/11/2024 10:50

It is code for a genuine patient. Not a time waster.

taxguru · 08/11/2024 10:51

AlwaysChargeAtom · 08/11/2024 10:34

I think it's normal to have something complimentary like this. That way when doctors write to each other about someone who is a complete fucking nightmare to deal with, they can leave off the compliments and just stick to facts and the absence of the compliment will be noticed and taken as a veiled warning.

Perhaps they would be better reflecting on why patients are like that? Rather than a character assassination, perhaps they should reflect on how many hours they've been sat in the waiting room with no information, or how many previous appointments have been cancelled at the last minute, or what hurdles they've had to jump through to get an appointment at all, or the previous incidences of medical negligence they (and their loved ones) have suffered.

I absolutely accept that a small minority of people are absolute cunts, but I do feel that a lot of "customer/client facing" people don't help themselves and that their customers/clients have previously been badly let down by their organisations, so are already stressed, angry, fed up, etc by the time they present themselves. Same applies whether it's NHS, a retail worker, utility firm call centre advisor, etc.

When my husband and myself travelled 2 hours to a different specialist hospital for his cancer specialist consultant for a 9.30 appointment, for the waiting room to be full, all of other people given the same 9.30 appointment, we weren't particularly pleasant to the receptionist at 11.00 and 12.00 when we asked how much longer we'd be waiting, nor at 14.00 when we finally got to see the consultant only to find he had nothing but a two sentence referral letter, no test/scan/xray results, no record of what treatments had already been given (six months of chemo), etc., so a completely pointless waste of time as he couldn't offer any advice, couldn't say anything about next treatment stages, etc. I never saw his letter back to the original haematologist nor to our GP, but I can't imagine he wrote "this pleasant couple", as by that time, we were thoroughly fed up, hungry and miserable - an already stressful situation made a lot worse by wasting an entire day for nothing!

AgreeableDragon · 08/11/2024 11:00

My MiL used to move being described as "charming" . It took the sting out of the rest of the sentence... 96 year old lady. 😅

GotToLeave · 08/11/2024 11:05

SatinHeart · 08/11/2024 10:14

My 4 year old DS had a paedatric clinic appointment recently and the letter we got afterwards started with "It was a pleasure to see [SatinHeartJr] in my clinic today"

Given that DS had to refused to enter the consulting room without taking half the toys from the waiting area with him, answered all the consultant's requests with 'Nope" and then screamed when it was time to leave, I don't remember it being a 'pleasure' for anyone involved!

I now work with children. It genuinely is a pleasure. Even the fiesty ones! Honestly. And on the rare occasion I struggle to like a child I purposefully search for something to like and positively comment on.

peachesarenom · 08/11/2024 11:05

Differentstarts · 08/11/2024 10:47

Apparently I'm a pain in the arse 🤣🤣

I bet we're pretty similar!

😂

DiscontentedPig · 08/11/2024 11:05

They once referred to me as an "interesting gentleman", which I interpret as "asks daft questions". I'd prefer to avoid being "interesting" to the medical profession though.

RafaFan · 08/11/2024 11:07

Neurodiversitydoctor · 08/11/2024 03:49

But it is surely ? You catch more bees with honey and everyone will get better service by being delightful than "well - informed".As true in A&E as it is in Mc Donalds

Doctors are supposed to treat patients according to clinical need, irrespective of whether the patient is "pleasant" or "well-informed" or a total arse.

MrsSunshine2b · 08/11/2024 11:07

I think it's probably like school reports, secret code only decipherable to those in the know.

At a guess, I'd say it means, appears sane, unlikely to leap across the desk and grab you buy the neck tie, probably won't make any of your student nurses cry.

I had a lot of medical investigations as a child and was always described as "highly intelligent and articulate", which probably means, "did not stop bloody talking or asking awkward questions the whole time."

BigSkies2022 · 08/11/2024 11:08

I have had consultations with three different consultants, and their assorted juniors over the last year - different specialties - and they have all included, in their farewells, how nice it was to meet me. Perhaps I am just used to the minimal interaction from exhausted primary care staff, but this strikes me as - nice, but well, slightly surprising. I'm just not expecting a sort of social gloss on the encounter.

MsJinks · 08/11/2024 11:09

My latest letter commented we had 'a long discussion' - I am sure this was related to my continued questioning about what previous letters/drs had said which was quite different to what I was now being told - he did point out (twice) his dept was the expert, and not to think about past information by non experts. I have also fed back on people's work myself as well as typing up NHS letters long ago and there is obviously a need to be kind but also convey useful information to colleagues/to help yourself recall the patient and what might happen at the next appointment. Unfortunately, nearly everyone is now aware of this and reads things into letters that may have been taken at face value before.
I am actually left feeling a bit embarrassed I was a tad awkward in his opinion, or a bit stupid. He was a lovely, smiley, patient consultant and I guess it's human nature to prefer apparently nice people also find you 'pleasant'! I was still a pleasure to meet though so I'll have to take that!

LastNight1Dreamt1WentToManderleyAgain · 08/11/2024 11:12

restingintheshade · 08/11/2024 01:26

LOL.
You possibly needed strangers online to think you possessed land.

Oh, is 'acreage' not also code?

Bubblebuttress · 08/11/2024 11:18

AHFBridport · 07/11/2024 23:08

Anyone know what the code is for 'stroppy' or 'violent'?

Complex

PandaChopChop · 08/11/2024 11:18

CrikeyMajikey · 08/11/2024 06:03

DH had an MRI which was followed up with the comment “an unremarkable brain”. Obviously fantastic news but we do still laugh about it.

I've had a terrible week and this has really made me giggle. (I am slightly hysterical with grief and stress so I apologise)

I am pleased to hear your DHs brain was unremarkable 🤣

mcmooberry · 08/11/2024 11:30

marmamumma · 08/11/2024 01:29

Huh? I've mentioned many of my animals before and believe me my small acreage cost a lot less than a flat in almost anywhere - if that;s what you mean? I'm in Australia, there's quite a lot of land!!!

Well regardless, I am LOL at this, a lot have been funny but this is the winner (your original post)

taxguru · 08/11/2024 11:34

CrikeyMajikey · 08/11/2024 06:03

DH had an MRI which was followed up with the comment “an unremarkable brain”. Obviously fantastic news but we do still laugh about it.

I was recently referred for a mammogram, ultrasound and biopsy after a CT scan showed up a lump in my left breast.

I got a copy of a letter sent to the GP afterwards outlining what they found in the left breast (thankfully, basically nothing), but was most put out (as was my husband), when they referred to my right breast as being "unremarkable" - my husband would argue the opposite - he's obsessed with them both!!!

Butchyrestingface · 08/11/2024 11:41

"Very pleasant lady" = this one won't give you any trouble.

zingally · 08/11/2024 11:41

It's doctor code for "normal person, won't randomly punch you in the eye." It's for the benefit of other doctors who might read your file at some other time.

I'm another "very pleasant lady" after treatment for a broken elbow.

Intotheoud · 08/11/2024 11:46

Bubblebuttress · 08/11/2024 11:18

Complex

This is clinically inappropriate as it is potentially misleading as well as potentially defamatory. Many people have complex histories or multiple comorbidities whilst being thoroughly pleasant.

potatocakesinprogress · 08/11/2024 11:49

I don't think they should be using "lady" or "gentleman." I'd hate it, makes you sound old. Patient or person is fine, if any comment is really needed (seems like a waste of time to me unless it's relevant to the illness).

DoraGray · 08/11/2024 11:50

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Do you think it is reasonable to mention, in the same breath, Kemi Badenoch and Myra Hindley-an infamous child murderer?

Do you really think they are similar?

The bile of the far left is astonishing.