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Never work in hospitality. Strangest things people have complained about.

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KnopkaPixie · 07/11/2024 18:30

Here's some to get us started:

"There's broken glass on this steak."
It was fancy coarse ground salt.

"I can't eat from a square plate. It's bad feng shui."

Any more?

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JudgeJ · 08/11/2024 21:17

MissConductUS · 08/11/2024 15:47

Yellow and white cheddar, actually.

American 'Cheddar', vile stuff, nothing like proper Cheddar.

Garlicpest · 08/11/2024 21:23

Fifteenofus · 08/11/2024 21:08

It’s not the bee itself that would bother me, but they often carry mites. Not harmful to humans I suppose, but I just don’t fancy them floating around in my wine. A pp makes it clear she wouldn’t react any differently if it had been a fly in the drink instead. And that not even a bird relieving itself into the customer’s food or drink on the premises would warrant a replacement!! I find that an almost incredible attitude.

I think it was terribly bad service on this occasion I have to say. By the time you’ve factored in loss of a tip and loss of repeat custom I don’t think it’s a decision that makes financial sense either.

Edited

So you hold service establishments responsible for inconveniences caused by the natural world outside. Gosh, you do have a high opinion of their powers!

You should have come on my Amazon jungle tour, you'd have hit it off with some of the other guests 😏

MissConductUS · 08/11/2024 21:24

JudgeJ · 08/11/2024 21:17

American 'Cheddar', vile stuff, nothing like proper Cheddar.

How odd then that two American cheddars topped the list and there isn't a single British winner.

www.dairyprocessing.com/articles/2289-world-championship-cheese-contest-names-2024-winner

JudgeJ · 08/11/2024 21:28

CommonAsMucklowe · 08/11/2024 18:06

This used to happen at Waitrose all the time and the management pandered to it. Wine, flowers, chocolates, eggs, bottles of spirits all dropped when loading into their cars. They would come to the desk and ask for a replacement because THEY dropped it. Manager of course said yes every single time. One time I was told to go out and sweep up the glass from a broken bottle in the car park because the lady didn't want to driver over it, it's not even owned by Waitrose but the council. At what point do you take responsibility for your own actions?

Pandering management makes these situation worse, if people realised that they weren't going to get something replaced when they've broken it it might make them think again.

TriesNotToBeCynical · 08/11/2024 21:33

MissConductUS · 08/11/2024 21:24

How odd then that two American cheddars topped the list and there isn't a single British winner.

www.dairyprocessing.com/articles/2289-world-championship-cheese-contest-names-2024-winner

I don't think it is in the least odd. This so-called world championship is run by a firm in Wisconsin!

JudgeJ · 08/11/2024 21:34

MissConductUS · 08/11/2024 21:24

How odd then that two American cheddars topped the list and there isn't a single British winner.

www.dairyprocessing.com/articles/2289-world-championship-cheese-contest-names-2024-winner

Those look nothing like the vile stuff sold machine sliced n American supermarkets! I once had a long chat with the man on the cheese counter in Whole Foods about the lack of decent American cheese which didn't need a mortgage, he said it was to do with regulations. He was selling cheese from many countries at eye-watering prices, there were a few artisan American cheeses but in the same price bracket.

HospitalitySux · 08/11/2024 21:53

Years in hospitality, there's so many! People can be bat shit crazy.

Oh also had a complaint the staff seemed to happy!
Yeah, I've had that one, some people think that they're not getting good service if the staff seem to enjoy their job and they can't possibly be doing it right unless they're miserable which they'll then take great delight in complaining about. I was observed by a customer singing to some of the songs on the playlist - not while I'm serving and not karaoke style just while I was busying myself around the place doing bits & pieces and it was probably only evident because my lips were moving at times, or I'd be nodding slightly in time to the beat, I wasn't actually singing out loud more mouthing along - apparently the music was clearly for the staff and not the customers, and that conclusion was drawn simply because I liked some of the songs. It's a generic playlist put together for different times of day from all different era's and done very much in tone with the place and not done by me, or in fact anyone who works there.

I've been accused of 'chatting to my mates and ignoring paying customers' because shock horror I'm actually nice to customers and engage in friendly conversation should they indicate they want to while I'm serving them. When I've finished with them I politely excuse myself and move on to the next customer, but some people cannot stand it when someone else gets good service, even if exactly the same is on offer to them.

In fact some people can't stand it when other customers have your attention full stop, butt in, talk over you and them during orders and expect you to break off what you're doing to deal with them, because for some reason their money is more important 🤷🏼‍♀️.

Then the customers who lie and embellish for a bit of attention and a freebie and walk away feeling like they've got one over on someone else just for the kicks.

Some of these stories are funny, but there's a serious side to it as well, it can really affect your mental health being treated badly, being regularly put down, humiliated, shouted at, called names. In any other relationship except staff/customer it'd be considered abusive. It's incredibly demoralising and one of the reasons that hospitality is short staffed - people don't last long in that environment before they burn out.

It's getting more and more like we're resented for doing the job we do, like people can't stand that they need someone so lowly to enable them to enjoy their leisure time. It's always been there, but in recent years that attitude seems to have increased a lot. It's very hard to please someone who has already decided they're not going to be happy about anything you do.

I love my job, I've done it for years and progressed through the ranks, I'm good at it, but in recent years I'm getting closer and closer to burnout and caring less and less because no matter what mountains you move, it's never enough. Killing people with kindness doesn't work they just take advantage, you get personally ripped to shreds on public forums, lied to and about with no way to defend yourself. One of my colleagues has been subject to a witch hunt on SM - and 95% of what was posted was made up and embellished, but the comments were everything from laughing at someone doing the job in the first place to threatening violence if this made up scenario had happened to them. Soul destroying when the basis of it wasn't true.

It's long hours and not well paid, and people may have the attitude 'that's not the customers problem' but when there's less and less people willing to be treated like that on an increasing scale then it will be the customers problem when there's less choice to be had, because staff are scarce and higher prices to pay because the only way to get and keep people is to pay them more, and it will be staffed by people who don't actually give a shit because it's the only way you can stay sane.

I'll be another one gone before long, because I'm either going to go back at someone one day, or the toll on my mental health will become too much.

ClemmyTine · 08/11/2024 21:54

Sethera · 07/11/2024 21:06

In fairness, outside Scotland and the borders, many small shops won't accept them.

I agree but the customer said people are funny about them, but he was being funny about it.

I'll take anything as long as it says sterling.

ShiningforLeeBertie · 08/11/2024 22:08

Enjoying this thread, just wish there were more comments about Scottish bank notes and mac n cheese.

Feels like these topics have been overlooked somewhat

Garlicpest · 08/11/2024 22:10

On the reasonable presumption that all customer-facing people are amateur psychologists, I thought you might enjoy this 'Life Game' from Eric Berne's Transactional Analysis classic, Games People Play.

Awkward customers are all playing one or other of these games - and so are many service providers. Recognise this one?

Now I've Got You, You Son of a Bitch (NIGYSOB) | Game from Eric Berne

Now I've Got You, You Son of a Bitch (NIGYSOB) is a Life Game described by Eric Berne in which one player has another at his mercy and enjoys exploiting it.

https://ericberne.com/games-people-play/now-ive-got-you-you-son-of-a-bitch-nigysob/

Garlicpest · 08/11/2024 22:10

@ShiningforLeeBertie 🤣🤣🤣

Fifteenofus · 08/11/2024 22:24

Garlicpest · 08/11/2024 21:23

So you hold service establishments responsible for inconveniences caused by the natural world outside. Gosh, you do have a high opinion of their powers!

You should have come on my Amazon jungle tour, you'd have hit it off with some of the other guests 😏

I don’t hold them responsible, but if a bird decides to shit in my drink on the terrace of a restaurant/cafe I’m eating at, I do think the staff should kindly replace the drink without mocking me.

I really don’t think that’s a huge ask🤔 😅

I mean, seriously, are standards in the UK really bad or something? (I’m not from there and actually bit shocked by a few of the comments on here.)

Completely different scenario on a jungle tour obvs.

PyongyangKipperbang · 08/11/2024 22:49

Fifteenofus · 08/11/2024 22:24

I don’t hold them responsible, but if a bird decides to shit in my drink on the terrace of a restaurant/cafe I’m eating at, I do think the staff should kindly replace the drink without mocking me.

I really don’t think that’s a huge ask🤔 😅

I mean, seriously, are standards in the UK really bad or something? (I’m not from there and actually bit shocked by a few of the comments on here.)

Completely different scenario on a jungle tour obvs.

Bird shit one thing, but a bee?! WTF do you think that a partially drowned, and inebriated presumably, bee is going to do to your wine?

You drink water dont you? And as far as I know, fish dont get out of it to piss

Donezofortheday · 08/11/2024 22:51

Not a complaint just one of the more amusing things I’ve heard over the years.

Waitress (me): So you guys heading out anywhere tonight?
Tourist (USA): We wanna go somewhere real old.
Waitress: How about such and such a pub, been about since the 11 hundreds
Tourist: Oh My God! We didn’t even have Indians then!
Waitress: Nearly drops tray

Sorry to any Americans on here. I know it’s not representative. She was a lovely lady and this is still one of my funniest moments from working in the industry!

Garlicpest · 08/11/2024 22:53

I take your point, @Fifteenofus - and I really think it depends on the economics!

If it's a restaurant that charges £20 for a glass of wine from a bottle that cost them £10, they should replace it. You're paying the massive premium for comfort, convenience, 'perfection' so they should deliver it as near as possible.

A lot of places operate to very small margins. If the vicissitudes of nature's beauty forced them to lose money, they'd either have to double their prices or stop serving customers outdoors. It's nice to be able to get an affordable drink & snack in a lovely garden or in the salty air so, in those cases, I'd consider taking my refreshments outside "at my own risk".

MissConductUS · 08/11/2024 22:53

ShiningforLeeBertie · 08/11/2024 22:08

Enjoying this thread, just wish there were more comments about Scottish bank notes and mac n cheese.

Feels like these topics have been overlooked somewhat

Good quality American cheddar is fabulous and makes a delicious Mac & cheese. 😊

MissConductUS · 08/11/2024 22:58

Donezofortheday · 08/11/2024 22:51

Not a complaint just one of the more amusing things I’ve heard over the years.

Waitress (me): So you guys heading out anywhere tonight?
Tourist (USA): We wanna go somewhere real old.
Waitress: How about such and such a pub, been about since the 11 hundreds
Tourist: Oh My God! We didn’t even have Indians then!
Waitress: Nearly drops tray

Sorry to any Americans on here. I know it’s not representative. She was a lovely lady and this is still one of my funniest moments from working in the industry!

Edited

I was chatting with a woman about some road work that was held up because the workers had found a dinosaur fossil while digging. She couldn’t understand why a dinosaur had gotten so close to the road. 😂

HospitalitySux · 08/11/2024 23:05

Fifteenofus · 08/11/2024 22:24

I don’t hold them responsible, but if a bird decides to shit in my drink on the terrace of a restaurant/cafe I’m eating at, I do think the staff should kindly replace the drink without mocking me.

I really don’t think that’s a huge ask🤔 😅

I mean, seriously, are standards in the UK really bad or something? (I’m not from there and actually bit shocked by a few of the comments on here.)

Completely different scenario on a jungle tour obvs.

But why is it the establishments responsibility to replace the wine when circumstances beyond their (or your) control render it undrinkable (to you) any more than it is yours?
You chose to buy the wine, you chose to sit outside with it, and presumably if you're adult enough to buy alcohol, you're old enough to understand that an insect may choose to share your wine with you if you sit outside with it. If you've paid for it at that point it's your wine and therefore your responsibility. It could be replaced for goodwill, but it shouldn't be an expectation.

I have both replaced and refused to do so, for these situations and for when people have dropped it themselves - the reason being the same, the customers attitude towards me and the situation. Start behaving like I must replace it, when at the point it was sold it was fine, and create an issue about it and you're getting bugger all.
It's done as a gesture of goodwill, and should be approached & appreciated as such, not expected and demanded. If you're relying on goodwill to get the 'ruined' drink exchanged, which you are, then best not to destroy that goodwill from the off by being a knob about it.
(I'm not suggesting you are, but the people I've encountered who've behaved like that don't get their drink replaced).

I mean if you buy a can of coke to drink at a park (for eg) and a fly goes into it, who's responsibility is it to replace? The shops? The local council? Coca cola? Or is it just something that happens sometimes and we all have to take a hit like that in life now and again without expecting anyone else to make up for it?

borntoblossom · 08/11/2024 23:06

LemonScroller · 08/11/2024 07:47

Oh he is the vilest of the vile and certainly 'chubby'.

Ha the first one that sprung to mind

Sharptonguedwoman · 08/11/2024 23:15

SometimesCalmPerson · 07/11/2024 20:21

Sometimes coffee is served too hot though!

How can it be?

GlasgowGal82 · 08/11/2024 23:24

CrowleyKitten · 08/11/2024 02:34

we would accept them in the shop I worked in in Plymouth. the only restriction on it was that IF the staff member wasn't confident about Scottish currency, they should get a manager to check it. but we WOULD get them, and I was comfortable accepting them without a double check.

I worked travelled to different parts of England regularly for work for about ten years and never once had anyone refuse to accept a Scottish note - I honestly think it's an urban myth. The only time it was ever commented on was at Manchester train station by someone working on a food stall who an immigrant to the UK, wanted to visit Scotland and who asked me the best way to get there!

I've never had the joy of working in hospitality, but I was once having lunch in a restaurant when the fire alarm went off, and half the diners just legged it during the evacuation to avoid paying their bills!

MargaretThursday · 08/11/2024 23:32

GlasgowGal82 · 08/11/2024 23:24

I worked travelled to different parts of England regularly for work for about ten years and never once had anyone refuse to accept a Scottish note - I honestly think it's an urban myth. The only time it was ever commented on was at Manchester train station by someone working on a food stall who an immigrant to the UK, wanted to visit Scotland and who asked me the best way to get there!

I've never had the joy of working in hospitality, but I was once having lunch in a restaurant when the fire alarm went off, and half the diners just legged it during the evacuation to avoid paying their bills!

Edited

My Scottish notes were refused by the Edinburgh Woollen Mill 😂

SilverChampagne · 08/11/2024 23:34

MargaretThursday · 08/11/2024 23:32

My Scottish notes were refused by the Edinburgh Woollen Mill 😂

😂

TheHangingGardensOfBasildon · 08/11/2024 23:51

Anexschoolbusdriver · 08/11/2024 20:15

People in Scotland are perfectly able to refuse bank of England notes should they wish.

Try using a Scottish £50 note in Scotland, most places won't take them.

That reminds me of the thread from a while back about the OP who gave a £100 note as a wedding gift and it got completely side-tracked by people asking which country she was in, where they use pounds as their currency, but "obviously not the UK, as we don't have £100 notes".

I must admit that I was one of the confused who initially thought there had been a mistake or exaggeration, but many of us people from south of the border learned that day that you do indeed have £100 notes in Scotland (and also in NI, iirc).

However, we were told by many that they were nothing special in Scotland and that nobody ever looked twice at them or refused to accept them, which many of us - used to living in a place where even £50 notes are almost universally refused - found hard to believe!

Fifteenofus · 08/11/2024 23:54

Bird shit one thing, but a bee?! WTF do you think that a partially drowned, and inebriated presumably, bee is going to do to your wine?
You drink water dont you? And as far as I know, fish dont get out of it to piss

@PyongyangKipperbang

Ah, come on 😂
Most restaurant owners or managers would be fine with swapping out a drink in the sorts of situations described.
In my experience it’s only incompetent or very young /inexperienced staff who wouldn’t know the correct thing to do and who’d offer such poor customer service.

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