Relatively new friend, is inviting me to loads of things..

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And I'm not sure is this is normal.

He (you guessed it was a man?) is generally moving in the same circles as me and we're often at the same events anyway, but in the last few weeks he's messaging me almost daily with ideas for things to do. Sometimes he invites others too, so I don't think he's intending it as dates, they don't feel like dates when we're together, but so far since Friday he's asked me to go to all these things in the next couple of weeks:

Join his quiz team
Go to the fireworks
See a band
A new restaurant
Music recital
Enter a sports thing
A black tie charity event
Bingo!
See a football match
Watch him perform his own music (I've seen him before, he's very good).

We also train for our sport together at least twice a week, usually have coffee or breakfast after.

He is someone who loves life and likes to be busy, he has other friends, maybe he's asking everyone, but this isn't normal?

He fancies you

are you a widow?

If you actually want to go to any of these things, then go. Otherwise, just say thank you but not this time.

In my experience of men, he fancies you. They just tend not to bother with the ones they don’t fancy, not to this extent anyway.

wrong thread!

That's exactly what I do. But I've spent all weekend with him and the next 2 weeks looks much the same 🤣

Am I? That would be a surprise.

I don't know . I kind of feel that if he did fancy me he'd be playing it cooler?

How old are you OP? Are you a widower? Very similar posting style!

next 2 weeks looks much the same in what sense?

i’m not clear

do you fancy him? do you welcome the invites? or not? presumably both single?

Don't go if you don't want to

OP why are you drip feeding and avoiding the obvious questions about whether you are single or not? And whether you are interested in him? It's like this thread was started to have people constantly reaffirm the fact that he fancies you.

weird isn’t it

I reckon she’s the Op who’s a widower and bloody desperate for a man. Constantly posting about various men who she thinks are interested on her

of course… the Op will deny!

What have a drip fed?

Yes, I'm single, I'd have thought that was obvious just from having the time!

I was only asked about whether I fancy him for the first time 11 minutes ago.

I thought being asked if I was a widow as a first response was odd tbh. I'm not.

Just keep saying no. He’ll soon get the message.

Alternatively, send him a message thanking him for the invites, but you are happy just socialising with him at the sports club, and don’t wish to partake in other activities at present.

God what a dick.

so both single

how old?

are you happy with the invites

all very odd… how you’ve dripped info 😆

You obviously have a point to make, but I've no idea what your talking about. I can't see any drip feeds. If you think your questions are relevant, yes both single, mid 40s, he's a nice bloke, I'm happy to spend time with him, just wondering what's on his mind. That can't be unreasonable or unusual?

If you do fancy him then I’d just be pleased that he wanted to spend so much time with me and would go along and hope that something more might come of it.

If I didn’t fancy him but enjoy his company I’d just be pleased the feeling is mutual and enjoy having a friend to do fun things with.

And if I didn’t fancy him, and found him either a bit creepy or just overbearing as a friend then I’d back off make my excuses and hope he takes the hint.

Reply to his next invitation and say, are you asking me on a date or just as a friend. Simple!

just wondering what’s on his mind

how do we know?

he seems to like you
and you clearly fancy him

you’re both single

so really op… what is the purpose of your thread? aside from clearly being an Op who’s posted loads of times about various men that seem interested

I like his style - nice to know a man who’s full of ideas. Of course if he gets weird or needy then that’s different, and if you have no SO to get pissed off then do as you like.

Do you see him as a friend?
Would a female friend ask you to so many activities? and would you go?
I think it's a bit OTT, but if you like spending time with him, then fine.