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Budget: 'I can't afford to leave home on £1,500 a month' and other claims.

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dessertz · 29/10/2024 20:20

The BBC are focussing on a few brave volunteers to see how they will be impacted by the budget. Today's headline focuses on a 23 year old apprentice who is hoping for a rise in pay so he can leave home:
BBC News - Budget 2024: 'I can't afford to leave home on £1,500 a month' - BBC News
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cwyv8y68e25o. Surely £1500 would be enough to afford a flatshare in Newbury? I mean, it might not stretch to a batchelor pad, but a flatshare should be affordable. It's more than most students live on at the same age. He is being paid reasonably for an entry-level job, and his pay will presumably go up when he qualifies.

The other one I didn't understand (in the same article) is the single mum earning £150k who thinks she is being punished for having children because she's earning too much to qualify for child benefit. 🤔

Hopefully the beeb just took their comments out of context. 🤷‍♀️

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30percent · 30/10/2024 09:33

30percent · 30/10/2024 09:28

We're talking about 40 years ago so not your great grandparents. Your grandparents not owning their home is irrelevant because we're talking about renting anyway here.

Just saying it all peaked a couple years ago even before covid rent was a lot more reasonable than now. I know so many people renting a room in a shared house well into their thirties even people with kids.
But now all the 40+ year olds are crawling out the woodwork to claim it was exactly the same back in their day.
On a different thread they'd probably all be bragging about how they were married with kids and their own place at 23.
Obviously there's always been people that had a hard time but I seem to know so many people renting a room in a shared house with kids now but I'm sure someone will come along in a minute to tell me it was exactly the same 30 years ago

*married with kids and their own place at 23 and wondering why the youths these days are still living at home like big oversized babies

westisbest1982 · 30/10/2024 09:35

But generally speaking, it really was the same back at least in terms of being a single person with an average job, no kids and renting - nobody I knew back in the early 2000s on a low or modest income rented a one-bedroom flat. We all shared because we knew that renting alone would leave us with pretty much no disposable income at all. One or two uni friends lived with their parents for a while.

Chaoslatte · 30/10/2024 09:36

RecycleMePlease · 30/10/2024 09:09

Yeah poor people are such liars, aren't they.

No, It's just that (just as I did, and my parents did) you have to manage your expectations. When you're on a training wage, you can't expect to have everything right now - it's going to be tight.

When I was 23, and on a little bit less than him (20 years ago of course) I did rent a whole flat because it was me and my boyfriend. It was cold, and empty (we had no furniture, got stuff second hand as time went on) and a long commute from my job, because it was that or a houseshare and we wanted the space together. We would heat one room, I commuted on an ancient moped, and we ate yellow sticker stuff. It got better, but it was hard that first year.

And that was a proper job, not the lower training wage.

No. You were on significantly more than him. Let’s say your little bit less = £1200 in 2004. That’s £2100 in today’s money. £1500 now is about £850 in 2004 prices.

dessertz · 30/10/2024 09:41

The housing market is competitive. More young people are staying single for longer than 40 years ago, and more families are breaking up into single-parent households than 40 years ago (so more housing is needed than if they remained together). Also, more young people are going to university than 40 years ago and earning graduate salaries. A 22 year-old single, entry-level apprentice, who worked in unskilled jobs for the first few years after leaving school, will not be well placed to compete for anything other than entry-level shared accommodation until his wages rise after he qualifies. In the meantime, he is fortunate to have the option of living with a parent. Perhaps he will meet a partner he can move in with. But, in the meantime, he shouldn't feel aggrieved that he can't move into his own flat on the back of his current wage.

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Schoolchoicesucks · 30/10/2024 09:42

My colleague is outraged that her DS has just had to move back in with her at 21 as he can't afford rent on his 1 bed London HA flat on his apprentice salary (originally moved in with his girlfriend but they split). He refused to consider a house or flat share.

I and all my friends were in flatshares at the same age - until mid-late twenties.

My parents lived in family home until they married in mid-late twenties.

My grandparents lived in family home until they married in early 20s and then moved in as lodgers, renting a room in a boarding house until their early 30s.

Sharing accommodation because of finances until later twenties is not unusual.

LarryUnderwood · 30/10/2024 09:53

VoteDappy · 30/10/2024 09:27

But he has the choice to get a weekend job?
Bar work on a Fri/ Sat night to increase his earnings?
I stacked supermarket shelves and did babysitting when I was training
Gave me extra cash until I qualified.
Everyone I knew did this.

What they really mean is " I want / should be entitled to live a fancy lifestyle and not work extra"
So unrealistic and lacking in personal responsibility!

Weekend jobs are not as easy to find as they once were unfortunately, partly because the high street is not as busy and partly because the prevalence of zero hours means there's often an expectation from employers that people will be available at their convenience. I don't think it's about expecting a fancy lifestyle, and I agree that when you're young and starting out in life it's normal to have to rough it and lower your expectations. But I think what you get for your money has gone so downhill in recent years that comparisons with 20/30 years ago are not really relevant. It's like my boomer PIL saying they managed to buy a 4 bed house on one income in their early 20s by scrimping so young people should do that now. Um, yes they of course had to scrimp and had no furniture, but the house didn't cost 10 times their annual income!

Frowningprovidence · 30/10/2024 09:57

Grumpy12345 · 30/10/2024 09:12

Why would an apprentice be saving a deposit to buy? Surely he’ll start saving once he earns a better wage? I moved out at 18 and didn’t save anything until I was mid 20s and saved for a house deposit then. The fact is he could move out if he wanted to. Yes money would be tight but it’s not the case that it’s financially impossible.

Because deposits are much bigger now. House prices in relation to earning have changed. So although we can argue whether interest rates mean the monthly costs are similar. The fact is 20 years ago I had to save 7k for a one bed flat and now it would be 28k for that same flat, but wages have not gone up by that same amount so it takes longer so people either start younger or are older when they buy.

Grumpy12345 · 30/10/2024 10:06

Frowningprovidence · 30/10/2024 09:57

Because deposits are much bigger now. House prices in relation to earning have changed. So although we can argue whether interest rates mean the monthly costs are similar. The fact is 20 years ago I had to save 7k for a one bed flat and now it would be 28k for that same flat, but wages have not gone up by that same amount so it takes longer so people either start younger or are older when they buy.

Yes I agree. But it’s not the case that it’s financially impossible for young people to move out and live in a house share or whatever. They just prefer to stay at home and save money. Which is fine is it suits them.

Frowningprovidence · 30/10/2024 10:06

Some apprentiships are great, but I find a some companies are setting up apprenticeships as they can pay a lower rate but they aren't meaningful. there is no guarantee at the end of a job although you do now have your qualificaction and some experience to move on with, they can feel a bit explotative
But if you start looking for entry level jobs they are increasingly an apprentice and you get people with experience doing them as they are the only job about or a way in to a company.

Not all. Some are fantastic schemes that really do lead to proper experience and build skills and a relevant qualification.

ThatWarmJadeSeal · 30/10/2024 10:09

mitogoshigg · 30/10/2024 09:25

@GettingStuffed

But in Bristol there are plenty of properties, and if you are flexible about where you live it's not as expensive eg the surrounding towns and villages are cheaper. Dsd pays £600 for a 2 person flat share

How is public transport? Can you get home by bus or tube or tram 24/7? Does the limitations of public transport limit where you can study or work if you're situated in a particular area?

Or would you have to best the expense of a car too?

VoteDappy · 30/10/2024 10:12

LarryUnderwood · 30/10/2024 09:53

Weekend jobs are not as easy to find as they once were unfortunately, partly because the high street is not as busy and partly because the prevalence of zero hours means there's often an expectation from employers that people will be available at their convenience. I don't think it's about expecting a fancy lifestyle, and I agree that when you're young and starting out in life it's normal to have to rough it and lower your expectations. But I think what you get for your money has gone so downhill in recent years that comparisons with 20/30 years ago are not really relevant. It's like my boomer PIL saying they managed to buy a 4 bed house on one income in their early 20s by scrimping so young people should do that now. Um, yes they of course had to scrimp and had no furniture, but the house didn't cost 10 times their annual income!

I'm not a Boomer
By fancy lifestyle I mean tech,coffees,branded clothing, app food deliveries weed vapes etc

I'm surrounded by people at work doing the above and moaning they have no money

WildRobot · 30/10/2024 10:12

Don’t get me wrong, I’m in favour of universal benefits such as heavily subsidised childcare. In some European countries she’d pay a few hundred pounds a month as the max contribution to state funded childcare. She’d probably also pay more tax than she does in UK though, even though she’s at the highest rate here.

No, she wouldn't. Higher earners in her bracket already pay some of the highest tax rates in the entire world. It is the lower income earners in the UK, and the wealthy who earn their income from assets, that pay more in the countries in Europe with decent public services. So this woman is funding the childcare service for everyone else while being excluded from using it, paying Scandinavian levels of tax for very poor public services, and being taxed far more than a two parent household with the same household income. That is completely unfair, especially as she is a single parent so is having to do it all in half the time.

WildRobot · 30/10/2024 10:19

If she takes her £150k job to Dubai, her housing costs won’t be any lower, and the £2,800 she’s currently paying in childcare will be her bill for private schooling for the next 15 years plus. Then kids will have to pay foreign student fees at uni. Private health insurance bill will probably be a fortune too.

Much less than the £58k in tax that she'd save though. And often employers will cover school fees, healthcare and accommodation as part of the relocation package. And her salary will likely increase, too.

It doesn't even need to be Dubai. Many are leaving for Canada, Germany, Australia. There are plenty of countries that provide a much higher quality of life for higher earners that charge fair taxes to everyone rather than milking higher earners then excluding them from using the services they fund, so that others who pay minuscule amounts can have everything for free.

ThatWarmJadeSeal · 30/10/2024 10:25

Double post

floral2027 · 30/10/2024 10:32

30percent · 30/10/2024 09:33

*married with kids and their own place at 23 and wondering why the youths these days are still living at home like big oversized babies

My husband is the only one of his siblings who isn't living with parents. His sisters are both living with in laws, BIL is 35 with a wife and a 2 year old (and been working since 11, rented previously but burnt out)! Same with cousins, only one is renting the rest are all living with family, there are 8 adult kids in the family. Dh is the only one in london the rest are scattered across England or abroad (but same problems exist abroad).

Baital · 30/10/2024 10:32

I lived in house shares or grotty bedsits in my 20s, I couldn't have afforded a flat to myself (working full time, just above minimum wage).

That was in the late 1990s and early 2000s. Sometimes difficult, but also made some great friends and we were all in the same situation and had lots of budget-friendly fun.

The idea that someone in their early 20s is deprived if they can't rent a flat of their own is weird.

Plus being deprived as a single parent on £150,000 😂I am a single parent on just under 1/3 of that. School aged child so no childcare costs, but even so 😂

ThatWarmJadeSeal · 30/10/2024 10:36

My most recent ancestors were often a kid or two into marriage before they could get their own place. That's if they ever got it at all. Some stayed at the family home with their own spouse and children despite working full-time. It's hard to know if it was choice or necessity when they did.

Chaoslatte · 30/10/2024 11:14

I’m pretty sure bedsits don’t really exist any more. Nowadays it’s just bedrooms in HMOs that are usually the size of a small to average bedroom (no ‘sit’ part, and often made smaller by the landlord jamming in an en-suite so they can charge more) and a lot of HMOs/flatshares don’t even have a communal living room nowadays because the landlord rents it as another bedroom. A lot of people would prefer a bedsit over that if they were still available and cheap.

floral2027 · 30/10/2024 11:36

Chaoslatte · 30/10/2024 11:14

I’m pretty sure bedsits don’t really exist any more. Nowadays it’s just bedrooms in HMOs that are usually the size of a small to average bedroom (no ‘sit’ part, and often made smaller by the landlord jamming in an en-suite so they can charge more) and a lot of HMOs/flatshares don’t even have a communal living room nowadays because the landlord rents it as another bedroom. A lot of people would prefer a bedsit over that if they were still available and cheap.

Aren't bedsits just studios. My ex manager lived in one in earls court. It had a shower in the room but a communal toilet.

30percent · 30/10/2024 11:40

ThatWarmJadeSeal · 30/10/2024 10:36

My most recent ancestors were often a kid or two into marriage before they could get their own place. That's if they ever got it at all. Some stayed at the family home with their own spouse and children despite working full-time. It's hard to know if it was choice or necessity when they did.

I guess it does depend what part of the country they were in my parents were married with kids before they were even in their twenties and renting a decent sized house you definitely wouldn't see that nowadays! Grandparents had it a lot harder though. I definitely believe things peaked about three decades ago

VoteDappy · 30/10/2024 11:51

Chaoslatte · 30/10/2024 11:14

I’m pretty sure bedsits don’t really exist any more. Nowadays it’s just bedrooms in HMOs that are usually the size of a small to average bedroom (no ‘sit’ part, and often made smaller by the landlord jamming in an en-suite so they can charge more) and a lot of HMOs/flatshares don’t even have a communal living room nowadays because the landlord rents it as another bedroom. A lot of people would prefer a bedsit over that if they were still available and cheap.

A bedsit and a room in an hmo are the same.
You " sit" in your bedroom.
Probably some have ensuite but many still share a bathroom .
If you have a bedroom plus shared sitting room / kitchen/ bathroom it's a houseshare

Chaoslatte · 30/10/2024 11:52

floral2027 · 30/10/2024 11:36

Aren't bedsits just studios. My ex manager lived in one in earls court. It had a shower in the room but a communal toilet.

No, studios have their own bathrooms

Chaoslatte · 30/10/2024 12:08

VoteDappy · 30/10/2024 11:51

A bedsit and a room in an hmo are the same.
You " sit" in your bedroom.
Probably some have ensuite but many still share a bathroom .
If you have a bedroom plus shared sitting room / kitchen/ bathroom it's a houseshare

Most HMO bedrooms don’t have anywhere to sit except a desk and sometimes not even that. Bedsits are more of the midpoint between an HMO bedroom and a studio, so shared bathroom (although often a sink in the room) but larger rooms with an actual place to sit and usually basic cooking facilities. A houseshare is the same as an HMO though (= house of multiple occupation).

MarginalNotes · 30/10/2024 12:09

Mmmnotsure · 29/10/2024 23:30

The article makes you wonder at the BBC's agenda. Out of all the single pensioners they could have chosen - and the majority in the UK are female, often after a working life where career opportunities and earning power have been compromised eg by pregnancy/child and family responsibilities/gender pay gap - they chose a male, ex army/navy, who identifies as a woman.

Indeed. Not your average pensioner.

And I wonder how many single female seventy year olds seek to supplement their pensions by advertising themselves for 'modelling' work in their bra and stockings. Special talent pole dancing.

The BBC didn't mention that.

dessertz · 30/10/2024 12:15

MarginalNotes · 30/10/2024 12:09

Indeed. Not your average pensioner.

And I wonder how many single female seventy year olds seek to supplement their pensions by advertising themselves for 'modelling' work in their bra and stockings. Special talent pole dancing.

The BBC didn't mention that.

To be fair on the BBC, they probably weren't flooded with volunteers. Not many people would put themselves out there for public scrutiny of their finances. You'd have to be either a little naive to the consequences or else an exhibitionist.

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