How many times have you been in love?

[CatsandBeer]

As in, head over heels, I'd do anything for you, type love?

For me, only once, and I'm worried I won't ever find it again! Change my mind!

Once. I'm still with my husband after 5 children and 19 years of knowing each other.

But I do think it is possible for people to find true love again

Four times, I would say.

A few, but it's never been reciprocated.

Also four times if you count my dh 🤭. Not to say I'm not in love with him, but that crazy, you are my whole world and I'd die for you thing has shifted since we had dcs tbh... We're either more mature or more boring now 😬

Five.

Teenage/first love - and it was definitely deeper than some of the later ones.
Two boyfriends that I was madly in love with
One 'near miss' that I was in love with for years, but the timing was never right.
And DH

Zero

Once

Definitely three.

Six. There definitely isn’t only one person out there for you.

May I ask how old you are?

I've loved six men in total! But 3 significantly more than the other three. Two of those were very long term/lived together and married to my now ex.

All ended horribly painfully. I'm done and don't expect there to be another!

3 glorious times! The last time I fell in love was at the age 49 yrs old.
It felt exactly like I did at 16 the first time.

I am very glad to be sitting across the room from my last love.

I thought I loved two people in the past. I guess I did but not really head over heels - more just immature infatuation. I was with the first for 2.5 years but started to really resent him after about a year. The second was a manipulative arsehole.

I absolutely have loved my DH from the beginning. Even when I first met him, something felt different about him. I was worried I would start to lose interest in him like I did my previous boyfriend but we’ve been together 11 years, married nearly 6 and have 3 kids and I still love him completely (in spite of him being a complete pain in the arse!)

Reciprocated or not? That would affect my answer.

Twice and told myself it was reciprocated both times but events proved it never was.
I always knew it never would be, if I’m being honest. Too late now, but I’m past caring so it’s ok. 😊

Once, for the first time at 40 after plenty of bad relationships and a marriage that should never have happened 😬

30s

As in, head over heels, I'd do anything for you, type love?

Is this hyperbole, or a genuine description? I’m totally and very much in love with DH, but I still wouldn’t “do anything” for him and it’s never been an all-consuming can’t think of anything else sort of love. And I’m really glad about that, because that doesn’t sound sustainable (or particularly enjoyable!)

I’ve loved a number of people very much, and I wouldn’t compare the feelings I had for one person to any of the others. They were different people, our relationships were different, and the love was therefore not exactly the same. You can absolutely find someone else you love deeply; but I think you’re less likely to recognise when you find them if you’re comparing them and expecting to feel exactly the same as you did for someone else.

Twice - one broke my heart and the other broke my life. I'm back but never again.

Twice

Well the "head over heels" is hyperbolic, but the "I'd do anything" isn't!

Once with my DH, I thought I was with two previous boyfriends but having experienced it with DH I know on reflection I wasn't. We've been together 17 years.

Once - together 25 years and many more hopefully

Mm I’ve been in love probably four times, but only once that’s been a ‘true’ sort of love, if that makes sense. One was a first love silly thing, one was as a deeply traumatised young adult in an abusive relationship, one was a fling that was intense and passionate but ultimately wrong for us both and the one that counts is my husband. That’s a good sort of love, mutual respect, trust, dependable etc. I am utterly besotted with him, of course, but it’s much more than that.

Once