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To my husband

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itsmethebadwife · 23/10/2024 22:39

Not sure where to post this....

To my husband

Do you remember The time you told me it looked like Freddy crouger had attacked my stomach- those stretch marks gave us 4 children. I'm proud of them but thanks for your opinion.
The daily reminder I'm a shit mum, but yet im the one who clothes the kids, feeds them, baths them, attends school assemblies, attends appointments, reads them story's for bed, comforts them, cuddles them, sits up in the night when their poorly- where are you?
You question why I avoid going out with you as a family, you put me down telling me to "shut up" when I'm playing with my children, you say I'm looking at men when I'm simply watching my children, you tell me I don't act like an adult when I stutter as I'm nervous around you- I will forever avoid been with you outside
The times you give me 101 things to do or tell me we have plans so I don't get to see friends and family or miss family events , I know it's always coming and what was going to happen so I no longer made plans, I just did as I was told, you used to win
The times you call me a skank for having sex before I met you, this is simply life my friend. I was honest and told you I had sex before I met you but never have I ever done anything to disrespect you in the 11 years Iv been with you, I devoted my life to you at the age of 17, you was 32.
The times you call me fat, ugly, skank, scruffy, slag, you've said them to many times for me to care anymore....
the times you spit in my face, grab me around my neck or push me if I answer you back, the times you throw things at me if I don't tidy them up quick enough.
You question why I don't want you to touch me when you want sex and why I'm constantly on my period, I just want to be alone on my own why would I want someone to touch me who thinks so little and horrible of me ?
I give my children everything I have to ensure they have the best life, everything they need and have the most amazing experiences.

TO MY HUSBAND

I hope to god my sons don't grow up to treat a woman the way you've treated their mum
I hope my daughters never ever find a man who treats them the way their dad treated their mum
I hope they grow up to consider how they make others feel and want to make people happy and love others.

TO MY HUSBAND soon to be EX

You no longer have any hold on me, physically, financially, mentally!
Me and MY children are gone, we have a brand new home and we ARE leaving. My ducks are in a row and this isn't a decision Iv made lightly. Our new lives are going to be filled with happiness, the best memories and just pure love without the anxiety that you bring when we know you're coming around us.

TO MY BABYS
I'm so sorry it's taken me so long to get us out, I didn't do it on purpose but this is alls Iv ever known when I met your dad,I found the courage to get help mentally and speak up- this helped me to secure our future and what we have now and I promise il forever make this up to you and show you how life should be lived, no shouting or daddy smashing things up, we can get up and have lazy days with films, we can make slime, have takeaways on the sofa, we can go be feral in the woods and get dirty, make dens and have our crazy dance party's - the house will clean and I don't care so just be happy, lifes for enjoying as tomorrow isn't a promise. But I promise this is what I will show you

Here is to 2025

✌🏼🤍

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LoseMeLikeAnArrow · 23/10/2024 22:47

I love this so much 💗 💓 ❤️ 💛 ♥️ 💖 💗 💓 ❤️ 💛 ♥️ 💖 HUGE CONGRATULATIONS for finding your path out. I hope you and your 4 beautiful children have the best life without him.

May every female see him for what he is. 💪💪💪💪💪💪💪

toomuchfaff · 23/10/2024 22:48

Well done 👏

Unicorndreams24 · 23/10/2024 22:50

🩷 this is amazing! You go and enjoy the peace and happiness that not walking on egg shells brings. Go be with your children , you are an amazing mum 🩷xxx

MrsSkylerWhite · 23/10/2024 22:52

Oh darling, bless you and your lucky, lucky children.

What a mum.

Cas112 · 23/10/2024 22:52

💖💖💖

CharlotteStreetW1 · 23/10/2024 22:54

Bloody beautiful 😍

And while you're at it, ditch that username.

Good luck OP!

Summer7 · 23/10/2024 22:59

May your next chapter be your best chapter 💕💕💖💕💕

Thedogscollar · 23/10/2024 22:59

@itsmethebadwife
You are a bloody amazing woman and mother. Never let a man make you feel like that again. I wish you a great life with your children. Go and be happy.
Oh change that user name to the exwife.
💪 ✌xx

Stoptherideiwannagetoff · 23/10/2024 23:01

Hurrah! Well done you and your strength xx

debelost1 · 23/10/2024 23:02

😍😍😍

roadrager · 23/10/2024 23:04

Your children are so lucky to have you as their mother.

Wishing you every possible happiness in your new lives together and wishing your ex a life of regret.

EdgarAllenRaven · 23/10/2024 23:13

Gosh this made me cry! You’ve been to hell and back, but your strength and love for your kids is inspirational!
Please grab a hold of that new self-worth and never lose it. Bravo! 👏

Thereislightattheendofthetunnel · 23/10/2024 23:24

Congratulations on the fabulous new chapter you are about to begin! 🙌

doodleygirl · 23/10/2024 23:30

You are amazing, you have changed your children’s life and they will always know what an incredible mum you are. Dance under the stars and sing to the moon, enjoy the rest of your life 🫶🏻

HelloYouGuys · 24/10/2024 00:07

Thank you op.

What you have typed is moving and inspirational.

I hope those who need that "moment" to say that's it- ENOUGH!, find it in your post.

Many many moons ago, I sat bolt upright on the sofa downstairs that was made into a bed for me... and I literally said out loud to the empty room, "I refuse to cry anymore, I refuse to continue to live a life of regret, I refuse to bring my dc up in a house (it would never have been a home) where they would have to witness and endure the unhappiness".

That was it, long before the internet, and way before I'd heard the term Ducks In A Row".... I did just that.
From the moment I got me and dc into accommodation without my husband, I breathed one almighty sigh of relief.

No matter how hard you think it might be to make that move, it won't be anywhere near as hard as trying to remain sane in that marriage/relationship, and to have my dc suffer as a result of me not getting away.

Doesn't matter if you think that your situation isn't as "bad" as what you might read on others social media posts... everybody's heartache and suffering is individual to them.

OP... I wish you love and luck, you don't really need it, as you've proved to yourself that you are valuable, you are worth it, and you're that strong woman and mother that your children need.

EngineEngineNumber9 · 24/10/2024 00:27

You’re amazing! Oh my goodness you finally have your life back and you and your little ones are free!

You sound like an amazingly strong person, and a fantastic mum. What an amazing role model they have in life.

That scum doesn’t deserve to breathe the same air as you. I wish him all the bad luck in the world as hopefully karma will give him what he deserves.

💓💓💓💓

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 24/10/2024 00:34

Bloody brilliant! 👏👏👏

RM2013 · 24/10/2024 00:36

What a bloody strong and inspirational woman you are. Now go and enjoy your life ❤️

allthedragons · 24/10/2024 00:54

This is excellent, you are an inspirational woman. Have a wonderful life from this moment on 💐🌸🌹🌻🌷💖

hellywelly3 · 24/10/2024 01:09

You are amazing

CornishMade · 24/10/2024 01:23

Oh, I'm crying! Amazing, stay strong for your babies. You will do it.

Oxfordonian · 24/10/2024 01:23

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CornishMade · 24/10/2024 01:26

Oxfordonian, she's already leaving. Made the choice and took that option. No point looking back!

Drinkdrinkduuurink · 24/10/2024 01:27

You are a strong woman OP. Onwards and upwards.

All the best to you.

Thedogscollar · 24/10/2024 01:27

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Seriously?
You have no idea how those children were conceived.
You are judging and for that alone shame on you.

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