Does anyone else struggle to sleep alone?

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I have always had this problem. I’m married with children so I don’t have to face it anymore.

But recently I stayed in a house with some friends (no husband and kids) and was on my own in a room and couldn’t sleep as was scared of absolutely nothing. Noises kept waking me. Had to sleep with the light on. Heart racing.

I hate being this way. But even as a child / teen, I struggled to sleep alone. (I do have an anxiety disorder).

Anyone else? How do I get over it? The idea of ever sleeping alone fills me with dread as I know I’ll be terrified and not sleep! I do NOT want to be this way!

I can sleep but I prefer not being in large bed on my own, a single fine

My fear is over nothing! Like, I’m scared rather than uncomfortable.

I looooove it

Never even been something I’ve considered, overall I much prefer having a whole bed to myself so no snoring or stealing all the covers!

What are you scared of? Is it just sleeping or generally being on your own? Do you have anxiety about other things?

It doesn't make me anxious, but I do miss DH. He doesn't snore and he's nice and warm, so his role is hot water bottle.

I used to, but realised if I wore ear plugs so noises didn't make me jump I could then sleep easier.

DH works night shifts so I have no choice. In fact, he just left for his shift right now.

I'm the opposite- hate sharing a bed/room with anyone and it really impacts my sleep.

It’s bliss!!

I am scared of ANYTHING and I hate it! A funny noise, an odd “feeling”. I jolt awake after 40 mins with my heart racing. I’ve been the same my whole life and it’s debilitating. (I got a dog because of it!)

I am not going to be sleeping in the same room as someone else my entire life - unless DH outlives me and I never go away with friends again - so I want to get over this quite desperately!

I am in therapy and I know I have anxiety and also ADHD and inherited trauma. But my life is pretty stable and I have a good life!

But no idea why I get so scared when in a room sleeping alone (much worse when a different bed to my own).

Weighted blanket and four pillows of different firmness that you can hug and pure cotton bedding. I used to be a front sleeper which is comforting now I'm a side sleeper as I started to wake with dead arms.

Bedtime reading or meditation if can't sleep.

Long time single here 😂

Cats.

Alternatively weighted blanket and v pillow.

I had as a child what we call fear of the dark - a very vivid imagination that horrible monster is there. I used to call my mother until I was 16 and one night she refused to come and that fear eased. Since I became a christian and started praying , all night terrors stopped, all sleep paralisis stopped, etc

I have the angels around

Listen actually to that song, Fear of the dark LOL ( Maiden?, was it, forgot)
and then some praise music to make the difference

No, I sleep better <sorry DH>! I have never been scared at night or in my house.

I'm the same. Hate when I have to get up to pee if alone - have mulled over getting a chamber pot but the disgust slightly outweighs the anxiety.

Keep hoping I'll grow out of it but at 43....

If anyone has a cure it would be genuinely life changing tbh

Bed and room to myself if the only way I have chance of a decent sleep. Currently in a hotel room with DH; sleeping tablets and ear plugs will help a bit, but I will still be grey and grumpy tomorrow.

I struggle to sleep WITH anyone else there.

I struggle without my husband. I'm not scared of anything or the dark, I just like him in bed next to me

I prefer to sleep in a room by myself, but in a house with other people. I'm not so keen if it's just me in a hotel unless other people I know are also staying there.

I think it's always a bit difficult to sleep the first night in a new place though, whether with or without someone else, just the feeling of the bed being different.

I'm the complete opposite, I can't stand having anyone near me when I sleep. I struggle to sleep but I've found listening to podcasts gives my brain something to listen to so I can sleep. Maybe a comforting quiet podcast would help you sleep?

Sorry OP, we are not being very helpful at all. I took live sleeping alone. DH and I have had desperate beds for years. I got the King with the on-suite, he has a lowly double.

I do however, understand being completely alone. I don't like it if DH is away. I will go round the house several times, checking windows and doors. I like to know someone else is in the house, even though they are not physically next to me.

So many typos..... Hahaha, desperate beds,should, of course, be separate.

I’m similar but getting better. If my DH is away with work I sleep with the light on really low.

I used to be like this, but now I'm divorced it's the opposite. For me, I was used to always sharing a bed with someone and having the comfort of company at bedtime. Now I've got used to sleeping alone, I'm not sure if I could ever share a bed again